Monday, 31 October 2016

TYPE OF PERSON ONE SHOULD NOT MARRY


THE PERSONS WHO ARE UNRIGHTEOUS AND NOT PIOUS
This includes a Muslim woman/man who is not practising
There is no such thing as a non-practicing muslim
He/She has apostatised
Buraidah reported that the Prophet (SAW) said, "The pact between us and them is prayer. Whoever abandons it is a disbeliever." (Related by Ahmad, Abu Dawud, at-Tirmizhi, anNasa'i and Ibn Majah.)
You should try to the best of your ability to marry a practicing Muslim when you are looking for a spouse
Stay away from unrighteous men /women including Buddhist, Hindus and Shikhs
Because they are not lawful for you
Don’t get carried away by your lust


"And do not marry Al-Mushrikāt (idolatresses, etc.) till they believe (worship Allāh Alone). And indeed a slave woman  who believes is better than a (free) Mushrikah (idolatress, etc.), even though she pleases you. And give not (your daughters) in marriage to Al-Mushrikûn till they believe (in Allāh Alone) and verily, a believing slave is better than a (free) Mushrik (idolater, etc.), even though he pleases you. Those (Al-Mushrikûn) invite you to the Fire, but Allāh invites (you) to Paradise and Forgiveness by His Leave, and makes His Ayāt (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) clear to mankind that they may remember." (Al-Baqarah 2:221)
A slave  who is a believer is better than a non-believing free person
Allah (swt) also meant the atheist, agnostic and Rasta
You are not allowed to marry these people
"Bad statements are for bad people (or bad women for bad men) and bad people for bad statements (or bad men for bad women). Good statements are for good people (or good women for good men) and good people for good statements (or good men for good women), such (good people) are innocent of (each and every) bad statement which they say, for them is Forgiveness, and Rizqun Karīm (generous provision i.e.Paradise)." (An-Nur 24:26)
This Ayah came down when the sahaba wanted to marry a prostitute
She wanted misyar (the woman provides the maintenance)
Good women are for good men and evil women are for evil men
Men marry women for four reasons:
Narrated By Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser. [al-Bukhari (5090) and Muslim (1466)]
You are not allowed to marry a Jewish or Christian girl unless there are no Muslim girls to marry
So don't chase after Christian girls when there are pious Muslim girls are available
Ibn Qudaamah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: “… as this is the case, it is better not to marry a woman of the people of the Book, because ‘Umar said to those who married women of the people of the Book: ‘Divorce them,’ so they divorced them, except Hudhayfah. ‘Umar said to him: ‘Divorce her.’ (Hudhayfah) said: ‘Do you bear witness that she is haraam?’ He said: ‘She is a live coal, divorce her.’ He said: ‘Do you bear witness that she is haraam?’ He said: ‘She is a live coal.’ He said: ‘I know that she is a live coal, but she is permissible for me.’ A while later, he divorced her and it was said to him: ‘Why did you not divorce her when ‘Umar commanded you to?’ He said: ‘I did not want the people to think that I had done something wrong (by marrying her).’ Perhaps he was fond of her or perhaps they had a child together so he was fond of her.” Al-Mughni, 7/99
This incident stated above occurred when a sahabi married a Christian girl

Source: Amatullah Abdullah

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