Thursday, 3 November 2016

CHOOSING A PARTNER


The crux is to marry a pious wife or husband. An Aalim must not look for an Aalimah. It comes in a Hadith, “Fazfar bi zaatidien “Give preference to the one with Dien”
Look for Dien in a person’s life, do not just look for Ilm, look what is inside the person. Many people look for Ilm but the inside of the person is “total rot.”
An example of this is I once went on safr and I was asked to complete Mishkaat Sharief with some girls who I was told were university students and secretaries and they completed Mishkaat Sharief. I was very happy and I praised them. The next day we heard the same girls were walking in the public places in their jeans and tops without a scarf. Therefore knowledge alone is not enough, find out if the Aalim or Aalimah have Dien in them.
Hazrat Maulana Maseehullah Saheb ra used to say, “When you look for a boy, look for a boy who is tolerant. He must not have anger in him.” He used to say, “You did not nurture your daughter to hand her over to a butcher man, who will make mincemeat out of her.” A daughter is the “kaleja (liver)” of her parents.

by  Hazrat Moulana Abdul Hamid Is’haq (DB)

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