Monday, 22 April 2019

Etiquette at funerals

On hearing news of  the loss of someone  special, πŸ’”, Farida immediately went to the home of the deceased only to find it uncomfortable as  men were standing in the front of the house  chitter chatting making it uncomfortable  for ladies to enter the home as the men  turned their gaze towards those  entering the funeral home‼

How beneficial it would be for the marhoom if the menfolk also picked up a Supara or Yaseen kitaab and sat away from the entrance and read for the deceased?


Pain strikes Fatima's heart on the news of  her loss one. 

Making wudhu and covering up, Fatima rushes off to support the family and offer assistance while the  mayet arrangements are being made.. 

The Ghusl has been performed and the family has settled down next to the deceased. Slowly people start coming in. 

Some take a Supara, some take Yaseen pansura while some sit quietly and read tasbeeh. πŸ‘“πŸ‘“πŸ‘“πŸ‘“πŸ‘“

Then steps in a group of ladies in  designer abayas chatting away so excitedly to meet lost families and friends. The disturbance distracts the recitors and the peaceful environment gradually becomes a social place.πŸ‘ πŸ‘œ

The time when the marhoom awaits our prayers, our reading slacken by whispers until someone shouts out, `Please be quiet!` . 

The family menfolk come in to recite so beautifully and then the  marhoom leaves the home.πŸš™ 

Hardly leaving the home, the socializing begins.

How insensitive❓

 The Immediate family is trying to deal with the loss  and the house has suddenly become a hub for socializing. 

This is the time to show respect! 

This is the time to read for the marhoom until the men folk return from the kabrestaan  ! 

This is the time to see that the family eats to stay focus.. 

This is the time to show Respect! 

This is not the time to have fancy tea party🍰

This is not the time to outsmart one another.. πŸ’„πŸ‘‘πŸ•Ά

Let's be compassionate

Let be kind

Let's shower love in the home of the decease by reading as much as we can!



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