Wednesday, 1 May 2019

Divorce..

By Raeesa Padia

 

Getting a divorce and returning to your parents home, feels like a disgrace, an insult to yourself as well as your family's reputation. You feel ashamed, embarrassed, furious, broken.


Months go by and you find yourself back into the darkness. 

You think negative, dream negative, live every moment in   negativity. 

Negativity becomes a part of you, it gets embedded into your heart.


You think you're miserable, yet oblivious to see that it's affecting everyone around you.

The more bitter words spat out about how you feel, how life is not fair, it makes the people around you look at you with that mindset.


You're afraid to commit to anything because you think you don't have the potential or the ability to do so.

Considering marriage is a blur vision, you question yourself if you will be happy, will you be treated equally,  will you be appreciated, will the second marriage be the missing puzzle to your happiness in dunya and aakhirah...


You're spend your nights awake for hours, staring into the darkness with nothing but evil thoughts and wake up with the feeling of regretting to start your day, to step out of the home, to communicate with anyone.


Time is a precious gift. 

We don't understand nor do we know why certain things occur in our lives. We have no control over something's, but to be happy, to be successful, we have to adopt a positive attitude gradually.


Self-esteem plays a vital role in our lives. 

There's a lack of confidence in every aspect of our life. 

Change doesn't happen over night, nor in a week or month .

It takes time to build the foundation of positivity again inshaAllah. 


You can be advised by numerous people. But the intention, the effort  has to come from YOU.

You are in control of what you think, feel, and do.

If you continue to belittle yourself, how will you know if you have what it takes to survive in this dunya and be successful. 


Hardships/ difficulties does not mean life must come to halt. It's a guideline for us, it's an opportunity for us to change. 


You need to learn to love yourself, know your worth, and appreciate yourself. 

Put your trust in Allah, keep friends who see a brighter future ahead for you, one's who help you to develop a positive vision.


Refrain from socializing with people who have bad intentions towards you, who are always aiming to bring other's down and prove to be superior because these people will not help you in life, they will be a means of molding you into an individual who will dance to their tunes.


Look into the mirror and tell yourself now " I will not allow anything or anyone defeat me, I will be successful because I can achieve it ".

Do not allow anyone to make you feel unworthy of accomplishing anything.


Have a wonderful day inshaAllah and remember this sinful slave in your duas inshaAllah.

1 comment:

  1. I as a man went through a divorce . She was having an affair with her school boyfriend .
    But everyone blamed me . divorced 20 years put the false adulterous person living like a queen with my hard earned money with now conscious . Yet I am suffering all the drama I went through . Nobody yes nobody till this day stood by my side . Your best friend is nobody but your self . Trust no one they all there to use you when you have nothing to offer they abandon you .

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