A divorced woman or widow never had any issues getting married in the time of the companions. In fact, she would have a hard time choosing which proposal to accept since there were so many great men asking for her. She was never made to feel like... she was a burden on her family/society, nor was she told that she'd have to marry anyone that'd be willing to propose to her. Some Muslim cultures are backwards, Islam is not.
- Imam Omar Suleiman
Junaid was a famous Sufi mystic. Once he was going through the market-place of the town with his disciples. It was his way to take any situation & use it to teach his disciples a lesson.
A man was dragging his cow by a rope, & Junaid stopped the man.
Then he told his disciples, "Surround this man & the cow. I am going to teach Ʊ something."
The man stopped. Junaid asked his disciples, "I ask Ʊ one thing: who is bound to whom? Is the cow bound to this man or is this man bound to this cow?"
The disciples answered, "Of course, the cow is bound to the man. The man is the master, he is holding the rope, the cow has to follow him wherever he goes. He is the master & the cow is the slave.’
And Junaid said, "Now, see." He took out his scissors & cut the rope .....& the cow escaped.
The man ran after the cow, & Junaid said ’Now look what is happening! Now Ʊ see who is the master; the cow is not interested at all in this man – in fact, she is escaping."
The man was very angry, he said, "What kind of experiment is this?"
But Junaid said to his disciples, "This is the case with Ʊr mind.
All the nonsense that Ʊ are carrying inside is not interested in Ʊ.
Ʊ are interested in it, Ʊ are keeping it together somehow – Ʊ are the one interested IN it. The moment Ʊ lose interest, the moment Ʊ understand the futility of it, it will start disappearing; like the cow it will escape."
When we accomodate negative thoughts & give them boarding & lodging in our minds- then our thoughts control us- thus becoming our master & enslaving us. The best thing to do, whenever negative thoughts enter our head including waswasa(whisperings of Shaytaan) is not to pay heed to these tawts & they will automatically leave our minds.
Allαh Subhana Ta'ala tells us in the Qur’an “And if an evil whisper from Shaitan (Satan) tries to turn you away (O Muhammad) (from doing good), then seek refuge in Allah. Verily, He is the All Hearer, the All Knower” (Quran)
Q: Is it permissible for a man and woman to make a secret nikaah without informing their parents and family?
A: On account of the abundant problems and complications that are found through performing secret marriages, viz. suspicion being created in the minds of people regarding the man and woman whose nikaah has not been publicized or confusion and complications coming about in many masaa’il e.g. laws of inheritance in the case of death, the husband not being able to maintain equality between the wives in regard to their night turns, wealth and other aspects in the case where the woman is a second wife, etc.) we strongly discourage performing secret nikaahs. Therefore, in view of all these aspects, we strongly advise that the nikaah should be publicized.
And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Answered by:
Mufti Zakaria Makada
Checked & Approved:
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)
Drink Nabidh and serve your guests with it...
Nabidh, A Blessed Drink That Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) Consumed
Nabidh,
Nabidh was a blessed drink which is consumed by Prophet Muhammad PBUH in his time. It is considered to be one of his favorite drinks. It is made up of Dates or Raisins and Water.
Nabidh was one of the favorite drink of Prophet Muhammad PBUH. And it contains the things and cure for many things which will leave you amazed after you learn about it.
Nabidah is an Alkalizing tonic, it helps cure acidity of your stomach as well as digestive system. It also has to tendency to remove other metabolic wastes from one’s body. Furthermore, it enhances the digestion as it is high soluble fiber and it makes the memory strong. It helps the function of Slpee, liver, chest, throat, and prostate, which is in a way more beneficial for men. One of the most amazing thing about it that Nabidh helps the patients of Arthritis, as well as the patents of Uric Acid (Gout), can also get benefited from it as it elevates the levels or Uric Acid and Arthritis.
How to make Nabidh?
Things you need:
Ajwa or any other date which is available. Quantity: 3-4 Dates.
Water. Quantity: 1 Glass.
Honey. Quantity: 1 Teaspoon.
Method:
Soak dates for a night in a packed container. If not the dates, then you can simply soak Golden Raisins instead of Dates too.
Remove the seeds from Dates or Raisins, and grind it with water. You can add honey, but it’s totally optional.
Strain and serve.
You can also drink without grinding the dates and can eat dates separately.
DO NOT MIX RAISINS AND DATES WHILE MAKING NABIDH.
It is an ideal drink for Ramadan, especially in Suhoor. It helps people keep their energy during a day-long fast.
