Pre Ramadaan talk

Etiquette at funerals

On hearing news of  the loss of someone  special, 💔, Farida immediately went to the home of the deceased only to find it uncomfortable as  men were standing in the front of the house  chitter chatting making it uncomfortable  for ladies to enter the home as the men  turned their gaze towards those  entering the funeral home‼

How beneficial it would be for the marhoom if the menfolk also picked up a Supara or Yaseen kitaab and sat away from the entrance and read for the deceased?

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Pain strikes Fatima's heart on the news of  her loss one. 

Making wudhu and covering up, Fatima rushes off to support the family and offer assistance while the  mayet arrangements are being made.. 

The Ghusl has been performed and the family has settled down next to the deceased. Slowly people start coming in. 

Some take a Supara, some take Yaseen pansura while some sit quietly and read tasbeeh. 👓👓👓👓👓

Then steps in a group of ladies in  designer abayas chatting away so excitedly to meet lost families and friends. The disturbance distracts the recitors and the peaceful environment gradually becomes a social place.👠👜

The time when the marhoom awaits our prayers, our reading slacken by whispers until someone shouts out, `Please be quiet!` . 

The family menfolk come in to recite so beautifully and then the  marhoom leaves the home.🚙 

Hardly leaving the home, the socializing begins.

How insensitive❓

 The Immediate family is trying to deal with the loss  and the house has suddenly become a hub for socializing. 

This is the time to show respect! 

This is the time to read for the marhoom until the men folk return from the kabrestaan  ! 

This is the time to see that the family eats to stay focus.. 

This is the time to show Respect! 

This is not the time to have fancy tea party🍰

This is not the time to outsmart one another.. 💄👡🕶

Let's be compassionate

Let be kind

Let's shower love in the home of the decease by reading as much as we can!

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I DID NOT MARRY YOU TO PLAY WITH YOU !!

They got married after a beautiful love story, and after two weeks the husband woke up to go to work. He went to the bathroom to wash his face, and in the mirror he saw his face full of drawings of different colors. His wife was young, childish, and had an innocent heart. She scribbled on his face as he was sleeping, and she did so with a great love, that they would laugh about it in the morning.

The husband washed his face while upset, and went to the kitchen to drink the coffee which he usually does every morning. He did not find the coffee, and he became more upset, and went to her.

She smiled because she thought he would laugh at her, and say something romantic.

But he slapped her until she fell down, and yelled at her saying: "I did not marry you to play with you, I am a man and not a young child. I married you to start a family to have children, to be a man in the eyes of everyone. Do you want to live a love story of the films and those novels that you read? Wake up, these stories does not make a home, nor provide food, nor raise children. Today I will invite my friends for lunch, I want everything to be ready when I come back. Do you understand?"

He went out and saw himself as the master of the house. He left her broken, crying so hard that she could not breathe well.

She is sick and when she cries she almost breaks out.

Then she hurriedly went to prepare lunch, and tears did not leave her cheeks.

The husband went and told his friend what had happened while laughing: "They think that marriage is all love and romance. This is how women should be treated, my friend, otherwise she will never learn responsibility. She will not be a good mother. She must know that marriage is not as she sees or reads about it. These are just stories to gain profits. They need to learn that marriage is not a game or a novel."

But fortunately his friend was not like him, he did not let him to finish his conversation, he cut him saying: "What kind of a man are you? Why are you so harsh on your wife? Is this how a good husband is supposed to be? The Messenger of Allah (May Allah's Blessings and Peace be upon him) said: (Be gentle with ladies, they are like glasses.)

You have to deal with them gently and be soft on them, and do not break their hearts. Blessings and Peace of Allah be upon him said: (This world is temporary joys, and the best temporary joy of this world is a righteous wife.)

Beware what you mentioned a little while ago about cooking and raising the children. 

It is not compulsory for her, but being nice to her will make her love you more, and be passion on you, and she will do all these without you telling her. You should know that she is not your maid. Go back to your senses my friend, and repent to Allah. Go back to your wife and honor her and do not make her sad again."

The husband felt sad and regretted what he did. He then decided to call her to tell her that he had cancelled the lunch invitation of his friends, and to prepare lunch for them alone. The phone rang but there was no answer. He went back to the house quickly and rang the bell but no one answered. He forgot his keys in the morning, because he came out while upset. Suddenly his phone rang, it was his wife's brother. His wife called his brother when she felt she was not well, to take her to the hospital. His wife's brother said to him: "Brother, we are in the hospital."

His voice was full of sadness, which made the husband's heart almost to stop from fear, and the idea that something bad had happened to his wife.

He stopped the Taxi and went to the hospital, and found all her family there.

There was sadness on their faces.

He thought that they would be angry at him, but it seems they did not know what had happened. He greeted them and waited for the doctor. After several hours the doctor came out to them head down and told them: "With great sadness and sorrow, May Allah Have Mercy on her, the weakness of her heart came to us late."

Everyone cried, especially  the husband. He regretted and blamed himself.

Her mother washed her and she was buried the same day. In the evening the husband returned home after taking the keys from the brother of his deceased wife.

He entered the house and found the table covered. He removed the cover and found the best delicious dishes, and saw a paper hanging on the door of the refrigerator.

It was written: 'My love, I am sorry because I wanted you to betray the customs and traditions of your community. I am sorry because I wanted you to get out of this stone heart of a man, and to hear from you some romantic words, and hug me and tell me that you love me. Forgive me because of my childish mind I wanted you to treat me like a child. I hope your friends will like the food, and I promise that I will never make you sad or upset again. I promise you. I love you so much."

He looked at the table and threw the food everywhere, and sat down crying, crying and saying: "What did I do to you my love, I killed you with my cruelty, forgive me?"

These days, we dishonor a man who loves and spoils his wife. We have forgotten that, you are considered a great man if you have mercy on your wife, and it is also a Command of Allah.

Allah Says: {And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.}

Remember your wife is from yourself, when she is happy, you will live a happy life.

Know that building a happy home requires, Patience, Honesty and Love.

May Allah guide us all and may he forgive us of our shortcomings....

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