Sunday, 30 December 2018

Society stigmas

When a divorced Muslim man remarries quickly after divorce, he's labeled as a dedicated father who needs a wife to help him raise the kids.

When a divorced Muslim woman remarries quickly after her divorce and iddah, she's labeled an immoral hussy who most likely had him waiting on the side until the marriage ended.

When a widowed Muslim man remarries quickly, he's labeled as someone who needs companionship and a woman to take care of his needs.

When a widowed Muslim woman remarries after her iddah, she's labeled as a woman who obviously never loved her poor deceased husband in the first place.

The best of women, the female Companions, were never subject to the disgraceful double standards that exist today.

How do we expect our sisters to remain chaste when our misogynist community considers the end of one relationship to be a permanent expiry date?

(Not everyone views are like this, but the crux of it is still a trend that needs to be tramped out)

Everyone's rizq is fixed

A brother moved to Makkah many years ago. He was a high flying manager of major departmental stores in U.K., Malaysia and China. 

He had been brought in by Bin Dawood stores as a regional manager for the Makkah region. He was from England. 

After living and working in Saudi for some time, he later narrated how he found it so strange, unique and uplifting in how business was done in Saudi. 

Here were the examples he gave:

1. In Makkah, next to a major *Bin Dawood superstore* a rival new company were entering the kingdom and decided to open a mega store right next to Bin Dawood, within metres. 

The brother was perturbed/disturbed, "Why can't they open just somewhere else."

The owners of Bin Dawood frowned on his outlook. They ordered him to send his workers to the other store being setup and offer them tea and food and any help they needed to setup! 

The brother was left astounded/shock. The Bin Dawood management simply replied, "Our rizq is fixed, they cannot take even one Riyal from what has been decreed upon us. So why not gain ‘ajr’ and help them." 

2. The owner of *AlFakieh poultry* in Saudi, he has a famous mosque in MAKKAH (Masjid Faqih). He is very rich ماشاء الله تبارك الله and religious. He found out that his major rival AlWatania was floundering/struggling with huge debts of a million plus riyals. So he one day sent a cheque to the owner of AlWatania and said, "Pay off your debt, and pay me back, whenever you can." He had the opportunity to become the sole major distributor of chicken but instead he decided to help his main rival.

ماشاء الله تبارك الله 

I personally feel we have been affected growing up in the west with the capitalistic and consumer mindset, that is in every part of our lives. 

It removes *Tawakkul* and the *muhabbah/love of brotherhood from our hearts.* 

Just some advice. Don't worry about others, if we do our work with *Ihsan* and *If Allah gives us tawfeeq* then we will never have our success limited by others.


[Source: Forwarded from Shaykh Abdul Raheem Makkah Al Mukarramah.]

Sunday, 23 December 2018

The following are minor signs of Qiyamah

 Lost of trust (from the hearts of people). (Bukhari)

 Lost of ilm and rampant ignorance. (Bukhari)

 Widespread adultery (Zina). (Bukhari)

 Interest (Riba) being widespread. (Tabrani)

 Appearance of musical instruments. (Ibn Majah)

 Extensive use of alcohol. (Muslim)

 Competing with each other in decorating Masjids. (Ahmad)

 Competing with each other in building (houses, building etc.) (Bukhari)

 Abundance of killing. (Muslim)

Contrition in/of time. (Bukhari)

Extensive immorality, break of family relations and evil character among neighbors. (Ahmad)

The use of black dye by men. (Ahmad)

Widespread miserliness. (Tabrani)

Abundance of earthquakes. (Bukhari)

Extensive trade/business until a woman would accompany/join her husband in trade and business (Ahmad).

Removal of the pious (by Allah Ta’ala). (Ahmad)

Salam (to say Assalamu Alaykum) will be made by a person only to those whom he knows. (Ahmad)

Ilm (Knowledge) will be sought from young (Asagir). (Jami As-Sagir)

Women would be clothed yet naked (due to their style of clothing). (Ahmad)

Presence of liars. (Muslim)

False oaths will be taken. (Ahmad)

The presence of more women than men. (Bukhari)

Unexpected and sudden deaths. (Tabrani)



It is clear that all the minor signs of Qiyamah have taken place. However, Allah alone knows when the major signs will occur. Our responsibility is to prepare for our death in the state of Imaan and save ourselves from all forms of sins.

Sunday, 16 December 2018

Lifes lessons

*Many years ago, on a Sallah Day, in Dubai, a very Rich Man who had no wife, no children, no other family members, decided to invite all the employees of his Mansion to dinner.*

*He called the staff and asked them to sit at the table.*

*In front of everyone there was a QUR'AN and a small sum of MONEY.*

*After everyone had their dinner, the Rich Man asked:*

*"What would you prefer to receive as a gift: this QUR'AN or this MONEY?*

*Do not be shy, you can choose what you want. "*


*"Sir, I would love to receive The Qur'an, but since I have not learned to read, the money will be more useful to me."*


*"Sir, my wife is very sick and that's why I need more money, otherwise I would choose The Qur'an for sure!"*


*"Sir, I like reading to tell the truth, it's one of the things I like to do, but I work so hard that I never find time to flip through a magazine, let alone The Qur'an. I will take the money. "*


*And as the Rich Gentleman of the villa knew that the boy's family was very poor, he stepped forward and said:*

*"Surely you too want the money, do you not?  So that  you can buy food to have a good dinner at home and buy new shoes? "*


as for him, surprised everybody with his answer:

*"It would not hurt to buy a turkey and other tasty food to share with my parents and siblings. I also need a pair of new shoes because mine are very old. Even so, I will choose The Qur'an, because  I have always wanted one. My mother taught me that the Word of Allah (SWT) is worth more than gold and that it is more tasty than a honeycomb."*

*After receiving The Qur'an, the boy immediately opened it.  He found TWO ENVELOPES inside.*

*In the first, there was a CHEQUE  that was 10 TIMES  higher than the money on the table.*

*In the second, there was a DOCUMENT (Will)  that made him (whoever would choose The Qur'an), the HEIR to all the wealth of the Rich Man!*

*Faced with the Boy's emotion and the astonishment of the other servants, the Rich Gentleman opened The Qur'an 5:23 and read aloud so that everyone could hear:*

*"...And put your trust in Allah if you are believers indeed."*

*The fear of God  Almighty is pure, it subsists forever;*

*The judgments of Allah (SWT)  are true, they are all just.*

  *They are more precious than gold, than a lot of fine gold; They are sweeter than honey, than the one that pours rays.*

*May Allah (SWT) give us Wisdom and help us always make the Right Choice.*

Saturday, 15 December 2018

The adventure called Life

"I never sat on a sofa with my father and after my marriage, I had already left him.......

Many years ago, after I got married I was sitting on a couch on a hot, humid day, sipping frozen juice during a visit to my father.

As I talked about adult life, marriage, responsibilities and obligations, my father thoughtfully stirred the ice cubes in his glass and cast a clear, sober look at me.

"Never forget your friends," he advised, "they will become more important as you get older."

“Regardless of how much you love your family and the children you happen to have, you will always need friends. Remember to go out with them occasionally, do activities with them, call them ..."

"What strange advice!" I thought. I had just entered the married world, I am an adult and surely my wife and the family that we will start will be everything I need to make sense of my life.

Yet I obeyed him; kept in touch with my friends and annually increased their number. Over the years, I became aware that my father knew what he was talking about!

In as much as time and nature carry out their designs and mysteries on a man, friends are the bulwarks of his life.

After 50 years of life, here is what I learned:

Time passes.

Life goes on.

The distances increase.

Children grow up and become independent and although it breaks the parents' heart, they are often separated from them.

Jobs come and go.

Illusions, desires, attractions, sex ... weaken.

People do what they should not do.

Parents die.

Colleagues forget the favors.

The races are over.

But true friends are always there, no matter how long or how many miles away they are.

A friend is never more distant than the reach of a need, reaching out to you intervening in your favor, waiting for you with open arms or with blessings for your life.

When we started this adventure called LIFE, we did not know of the incredible joys or sorrows that were ahead.

We did not know how much we would need from one another. 

Love your parents..

Allah's mercy

Tuesday, 27 November 2018

I don't want to be loved anymore...

I dont want to be loved anymore

If to be loved is to cry tears of pain daily

I dont want to be loved anymore

If to be loved is to have my pain overlooked daily

I dont want to be loved anymore

If to be loved is to be blamed for every problem 

I don't want to be loved anymore

If to be loved is to be used and abused and discarded 

I don't want to be loved anymore

If to be loved is to be threatened to the point of suicide

.. Shaairah

I dont want to be loved anymore

Sunnah to Women

A very commonly reminded Sunnah to women by their husbands is the permission to marry more than one woman. Here are some of other relevant but very often forgotten and neglected Sunnahs:

1. It’s sunnah to marry older woman.

2. It’s sunnah to marry a divorcee.

3. It’s sunnah to marry a widow. 

4. It’s sunnah to help women in household chores i.e. cooking, cleaning, washing etc.. 

5. It’s sunnah to put food with your hand in your wife's mouth as an expression of love. (graded as a form of charity)

6. It’s sunnah to verbally express love, appreciation and respect to your wife. 

7. It’s sunnah to forgive her mistakes. 

8. It’s sunnah to keep yourself looking pleasant for your wife. 

9. It’s sunnah to try to know the feelings of your wife and console her when she needs it.

10. It's sunnah to be playful with your wife and spend quality time having fun together. (racing, story-telling, sharing happy occassions with her are some well-known examples)

11. It's sunnah to recline and relax in your wife's lap.

12. It's sunnah to call your wife with beautiful names.

13. It's sunnah to not disclose her private matters to other family members or friends.

14. It's sunnah to love and respect her parents

Mufthi Menk

Nouman Ali Khan


Read it!!

A boy said to his father “I saw a girl and I want to marry her. She is so beautiful and she has gorgeous eyes etc.” The father answered his son “of course son let’s ask for her hand in marriage”.

When the father saw the girl, he admired her beauty and he told his son “You don’t deserve this girls, she needs someone who has experience in life and she can depend on, someone like…me”.

The boy was surprised by the attitude of his father and he told him “She will marry me, not you!” They started to fight and finally they decided both to go to the police station to solve their problem.

When they told their story to the police officer, he told them “bring the girl so we can ask her opinion about this”. When the officer saw the beauty of the girl, he said to the boy and his father “you both don’t deserve her, she needs someone who has prestige…like me”.

All the 3 men started to fight. Finally, the girl said “I have the solution! I will start to run and whoever catches me first, he will be my husband”. All 3 men agreed. When she started to run. Suddenly the 3 men fell into a deep hole.

The girl looked to them from the top and she said “Do you know who I am?”

I am the Dunya – This World!!!

People are running after the fame, wealth & beauty of this world. By doing so they forget their real purpose of life till they finally end up in their graves and meet their creator. So realise the reality of life and amend your ways before it’s too late.


The owner of a small business,

a friend of the great poet


met him on the street

& asked him, 

“Mr. Suryam, 

I need to sell my small farm,

the one u know so well,

could u please write an

announcement for me in the paper?”

Bilac wrote: 

For Sale: A beautiful property,

where birds sing at dawn in extensive woodland,

bi-sected by the brilliant &

sparkling waters of a large stream. The house is bathed by the rising sun. It offers tranquil shade in the evening on the veranda.

Some time later, the poet met his friend & asked whether he had sold the property, to which the man replied, 

“I’ve changed my mind. 

When I read what u had written, 

I realized the treasure that was mine.”

Sometimes we underestimate 

the good things we have & often take it all for granted. We chase after the mirages of false treasures & become blind to how blessed we truly are.

We often see people letting go of their wonderful children, their families, their spouse, their friends, their professions, their knowledge, their good health & the amazing memories of life that was accumulated over the years. They throw out all those priceless possessions which اللَّهُ Subhana wa Ta'ala has given them so freely in the mad pursuit of better & more wonderful.

How many homes have been broken with the expectation of the grass being greener on the other side...?

How many children have been cast aside because of mistakes & not living up to their parents expectations...?

How many professions have been cast asidè in pursuit of a better one which brought about more frustration & stress...?

How many are suffering from ill-health due to not valuing their good health..?

Look within & around u & appreciate what u have: ur Imaan ,ur free time ,ur loved ones,

the knowledge u have gained,

ur good health, &

all the beautiful things in life

that are truly ur most precious treasures which money can never buy.

"May we always teach our children not to seek after riches, but rather to learn about happiness & when they grow up,they will know the true value of life,

not the price of things."

Wearing the "divorce" label

This! !!✅✅💯

People think divorcees ARE the worst of people yet they forget that even the Daughters of the sahaba were divorced by her husband, a sahabi, who was promised JANNAAH, for being too harsh. Was she ridiculed or ostracized? No!

Why then do we do it to our sisters?! ALLAAH swt has made DIVORCE a solution NOT a punishment.

The mother of the believers Khadija (ra)was married twice and widowed both times; she had 3 children before she married Rasul ul Allaah (sallalaahu alayhi wa sallam), WERE they seen as a burden? NO!            They lived with them and were raised by Rasulullah (sallalahu alayhi wa sallam).

To the SISTER's wanting to flee abusive marriages there is NO evidence from the  Qur'an or sunnah that says a woman must stay even when she is suffering abuse.

Don't stress if you ARE divorced thinking YOU won't remarry. Men are supposed to compliment you NOT BE an added stress!

This poisonous thinking is cultural NOT ISLAMIC. The women of the past would be approached FOR marriage AS SOON AS their iddat was up. Rasul ul llaah (sallalaahu alayhi wa sallam's) own daughters were divorcees (they were married to the sons of Abu Lahab)! If it was always the woman's fault then why were they referred to as 'Light' when they married Uthman Ibn Affan?! He was known AS 'the possessor of the TWO lights' the "lights" being Ruqqayah and Umm Kulthum (Radiallahu Anhuma).

Please SHARE this and raise awareness about the TRUE BEAUTY OF ISLAM and NOT the cultural version.            Via ideal Muslimah fb

Monday, 26 November 2018

Quick and easy Cheesecake

Fake friends

This is a true story about a woman who lived in India in the middle ages and had a pet snake, python, which she loved so much. The snake was 4 metres long and looked healthy . However, one day her pet snake just stopped eating .

This lack of appetite in the snake continued over a few weeks.. The desperate woman tried everything. Nothing worked. Finally woman took her loving pet to the vet as a last resort.

The vet listened to the woman carefully and asked,

Does your snake sleep with you at night, wrap around you closely and spread out its length?"

The woman was surprised and said yes yes he does, everyday. And it makes me so sad because I cannot help him.

Then the vet said something shocking and most unexpected "madam your snake is not sick, he is just preparing to eat you.

Every time he is creeping and hugging you,  wrapping around your body , it is sizing you up. And he is preparing him self for the attack , and yes , he doesn't eat in order to have enough space to digest you easily"

This story comes with a #Moral to everyone. 

You have friends that are close to you with whom you chat to 24/7 day and night; you're affectionate with, but they could have mean intentions.

You need to identify the snake around you and their true intentions. 

Hugs and Kisses are not always honest

Don't fear the enemy that attacks you, but fear the Fake friend that hugs you.

Saturday, 24 November 2018

❤True Love

Once there was an extremely rich King. This King had four wives or rather four Queens. Out of all these four Queens he loved the youngest one the most. The Wazeers (Ministers) would often comment that because she was the youngest she received the maximum amount of the King’s admiration and adoration. But the King had altogether a different reason for regarding her as his favourite.

One day the King called all his Wazeers and said to them, “I have come to know that you people think that I am being unfair to the other Queens because I give extra attention to the youngest one for the obvious reasons of her youthfulness. Tomorrow early in the morning I want you to come to my Durbar (court) where I intend to demonstrate to you why she deserves to be loved the most.

The next day the King ordered his workers to lay all his treasures wide open. Since the King was immensely wealthy the courtyard was full of his treasures that included, besides his lavish household goods and furniture, very expensive and intricately beautiful ornaments, jewellery, diamonds, rubies and pearls, clothes and plenty of cash.

He then summoned all his four Queens to come to the court. He announced to the Queens thus: “Today you can grab whatever you want from my treasures. You will be allocated a limited period of time within which whatever you will touch with your hands will be yours. Your time starts…NOW”

As soon as he said the word ‘NOW’ all the Queens, with exception of the youngest one, got into a frenzied rush to touch the maximum numbers of things. They frantically kept running from one end to the other in a bid to touch the maximum number of items. Special guards were placed there to make a note of every single object each Queen placed her hand on.

While all this was going on the youngest Queen stood there motionless. The King noticed it and he said to her, “What’s wrong with you? The time is running out and you are just standing there like a statue!”

The Queen smiled and said, “Will I get whatever I will touch?

The King, ‘Of course! That’s precisely what I have said. Come on, use your senses and act fast before it’s too late.”

On hearing this, the youngest Queen, cautiously taking her steps, moved towards the King’s throne. Almost everyone thought she was going for his diamond studded crown or his lavishly adorned throne. But to the bewilderment of all the people gathered there including the Wazeers, she gently picked the King’s right hand and with a tight grip she held it in both her hands. It was definitely an awe-inspiring moment and the King triumphantly looked at his band of Wazeers.

While the other three Queens tried to amass whatever they could lay their hands on, the wisest of them preferred just to have the King alone, knowing full well that if she got the King then whatever was his was automatically going to be hers.

Related above is a parable with a very profound message!

While we are all hankering after the treasures and pleasures of this world we keep on forgetting the Khaliq or the Creator of all these things. We get so busy amassing the temporary and materialistic things that we tend to forget the Mâlik al-Mulk, the Owner of all Sovereignty, the known and the unknown, the manifest and the hidden.

Coming closer to Him and winning His pleasure should be our sole purpose. We have been sent to this Duniya (temporary world) to make His ‘Ibadah and ‘Ibadah does not mean offering Salah, fasting, going for Hajj and giving Zakah alone. Besides performing these obligatory acts, ‘Ibadah is connected with the word ‘slavery‘. Thus ‘Ibadah means  ‘obedience with submission,  humility, and devotion to Allah alone with the ultimate love for Him.  It is  also something that comes from the heart with Ikhlas or purity and total sincerity.

Once your heart is linked with Allah it develops the following traits:

It is always remembering Allah.

It is always fearing Allah.

It is always humble to Allah.

It is always seeking Allah.

It is always repenting to Allah.

It develops an intense love for His Beloved Nabi Muhammad Sallallahu ‘alayhi wa Sallam and ardently follows his Sunnah.

It is attached to His  Kitaab, the Qur’an Kareem, reciting it as often as possibleIt does not despair whatever the conditions may beIt is constantly aware of the impending death. 

It is always concerned about the life of the Hereafter 

Let us solely be interested in gaining the pleasure  of Al-Khaliq (the Creator) and Al-Malik  (the Owner) of everything.

May Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala guide us to be linked to Him with all sincerity.

Wednesday, 14 November 2018

Beautiful sunrise.. Good morning from Durban

Let us fulfill your dreams...


🚫Do not put a question mark where Allah puts a full stop.

💞When praying, don't give Allah instructions, just report for duty.

💟We do not change Allah's message, His message changes us.

✨The Masjid is prayer-conditioned.

❤️When Allah ordains, He sustains.

💥Exposure to Allah may prevent burning.

✨Most people want to serve Allah, but only in an advisory position.

📖Suffering from truth decay? Brush up on your Qur'an. 

👣 Exercise daily, Walk to Allah

Wednesday, 31 October 2018

When realisations hit you too late...

They got married after a beautiful love story, and after two weeks the husband woke up to go to work. He went to the bathroom to wash his face, and in the mirror he saw his face full of drawings of different colors.

His wife was young, childish, and had an innocent heart. She scribbled on his face as he was sleeping, and she did so with a great love, that they would laugh about it in the morning.

The husband washed his face while upset, and went to the kitchen to drink the coffee which he usually does every morning. He did not find the coffee, and he became more upset, and went to her.

She smiled because she thought he would laugh at her, and say something romantic.

But he slapped her until she fell down, and yelled at her saying: "I did not marry you to play with you, I am a man and not a young child. I married you to start a family to have children, to be a man in the eyes of everyone. Do you want to live a love story of the films and those novels that you read? Wake up, these stories does not make a home, nor provide food, nor raise children. Today I will invite my friends for lunch, I want everything to be ready when I come back. Do you understand?"

He went out and saw himself as the master of the house. He left her broken, crying so hard that she could not breathe well.

She is sick and when she cries she almost breaks out.

Then she hurriedly went to prepare lunch, and tears did not leave her cheeks.

The husband went and told his friend what had happened while laughing:

"They think that marriage is all love and romance. This is how women should be treated, my friend, otherwise she will never learn responsibility. She will not be a good mother. She must know that marriage is not as she sees or reads about it. These are just stories to gain profits. They need to learn that marriage is not a game or a novel."

But fortunately his friend was not like him, he did not let him to finish his conversation, he cut him saying: "What kind of a man are you? Why are you so harsh on your wife? Is this how a good husband is supposed to be? The Messenger of Allah (May Allah's Blessings and Peace be upon him) said: (Be gentle with ladies, they are like glasses.)

You have to deal with them gently and be soft on them, and do not break their hearts. Blessings and Peace of Allah be upon him said: (This world is temporary joys, and the best temporary joy of this world is a righteous wife.)

Beware what you mentioned a little while ago about cooking and raising the children. It is not compulsory for her, but being nice to her will make her love you more, and be passion on you, and she will do all these without you telling her. You should know that she is not your maid. Go back to your senses my friend, and repent to Allah. Go back to your wife and honor her and do not make her sad again."

The husband felt sad and regretted what he did.

He then decided to call her to tell her that he had cancelled the lunch invitation of his friends, and to prepare lunch for them alone.

The phone rang but there was no answer.

He went back to the house quickly and rang the bell but no one answered.

He forgot his keys in the morning, because he came out while upset.

Suddenly his phone rang, it was his wife's brother.

His wife called his brother when she felt she was not well, to take her to the hospital.

His wife's brother said to him: "Brother, we are in the hospital."

His voice was full of sadness, which made the husband's heart almost to stop from fear, and the idea that something bad had happened to his wife.

He stopped the Taxi and went to the hospital, and found all her family there.

There was sadness on their faces.

He thought that they would be angry at him, but it seems they did not know what had happened.

He greeted them and waited for the doctor.

After several hours the doctor came out to them head down and told them: "With great sadness and sorrow, May Allah Have Mercy on her, the weakness of her heart came to us late."

Everyone cried, especially  the husband. He regretted and blamed himself.

Her mother washed her and she was buried the same day.

In the evening the husband returned home after taking the keys from the brother of his deceased wife.

He entered the house and found the table covered. He removed the cover and found the best delicious dishes, and saw a paper hanging on the door of the refrigerator.

It was written: 'My love, I am sorry because I wanted you to betray the customs and traditions of your community. I am sorry because I wanted you to get out of this stone heart of a man, and to hear from you some romantic words,  and tell me that you love me. Forgive me because of my childish mind I wanted you to treat me like a child. I hope your friends will like the food, and I promise that I will never make you sad or upset again. I promise you. I love you so much."

He looked at the table and threw the food everywhere, and sat down crying, crying and saying: "What did I do to you my love, I killed you with my cruelty, forgive me?"

These days, we dishonor a man who loves and spoils his wife. We have forgotten that, you are considered a great man if you have mercy on your wife, and it is also a Command of Allah.

Allah Says: {And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.}

Remember your wife is from yourself, when she is happy, you will live a happy life.

Know that building a happy home requires, Patience, Honesty and Love.

🌺🍃Have a pleasant day

copied 😥💔

Tuesday, 30 October 2018

Have you ever wondered...

An old man, probably some ninety plus years, sat feebly on the park bench. He didn’t mov ... just sat with his head down staring at his hands. When I sat down beside him, he didn’t acknowledge my presence. The longer I sat, I wondered if he was ok.

Finally, not really wanting to disturb him but wanting to check on him at the same time, I asked him if he was ok. He raised his head and looked at me and smiled. $Yes, I’m fine, thank you for asking", he said in a clear strong voice. 

"I didn’t mean to disturb you….but you were just sitting here staring at your hands and I wanted to make sure you were ok", I explained to him. 

"Have you ever looked at your hands", he asked ... "I mean really looked at your hands?"

I slowly opened my hands and stared down at them. I turned them over, palms up and then palms down. No, I guess I had never really looked at my hands as I tried to figure out the point he was making.

Then he smiled and related this story:

Stop and think for a moment about the hands you have, how they have served you well through out your years.

These hands, though wrinkled, shriveled and weak have been the tools I have used all my life to reach out and grab and embrace life.

They braced and caught my fall when as a toddler I crashed upon the floor.

They put food in my mouth and clothes on my back.

As a child my mother taught me to hold them in prayer. They tied my shoes and pulled on my boots.

They dried the tears of my children and caressed the love of my life.

They have been dirty, scraped and raw, swollen and bent.

They were uneasy and clumsy when I tried to hold my newborn son.

They wrote the letters home and trembled and shook when I buried my parents and spouse. 

Yet, they were strong and sure when I dug my friend out of a foxhole and lifted a plow off of my best friends foot.

They have held children, consoled neighbors, and shook in fists of anger when I didn’t understand.

They have covered my face, combed my hair, and washed and cleansed the rest of my body.

They have been sticky and wet, bent and broken, dried and raw. And to this day when not much of anything else of me works real well these hands hold me up, lay me down, and again continue to open in prayer.

These hands are the mark of where I’ve been and the ruggedness of my life.

But more importantly it will be these hands that will receive, The Book ofDeeds. I look, ponder and pray that OUR RIGHT HAND is blessed with the fortune of receiving the trials of this life ... i.e., MY BOOK OF DEEDS with this RIGHT HAND ... (Which will be given to everyone on the Day of Judgment for all their deeds done in this World as a record of all their actions. As for those who will be given the book of deeds in their right hand, they would read it with the expectation of receiving God’s Mercy and they would not be wronged or dealt with unjustly ... they will be given their reward in full (as promised by Allah).

“(And remember) the Day when We shall call together all human beings with their (respective) Imam (their Prophets), or their records of good and bad deeds, or their Books like the Quran, the Taurat (Torah), the Injeel (True Bible), etc.) ... So, whosoever is given his record in his right hand, they will read their records, and they will not be dealt with unjustly in the least.” (Qur’an 17:71)

No doubt I will never look at my hands the same again.

I never saw the old man again after I left the park that day but I will never forget him and the words he spoke. 

When my hands are hurt or sore or when I stroke the face of my children and wife, I think of the man in the park.

---SUBHANALLAH ... I won't be looking at my hands in the same way from now on.

 Subhanallah ... makes you think doesn't it...?

I, too, want for All of us to RECEIVE OUR BOOK OF DEEDS IN OUR RIGHT HAND-

In sha Allah let us try and be worthy of it by preparing for it now.

O ALLAH MOST PERFECT & GENEROUS! Make us give shukr (Thanks) for these hands

اَمِين يَا رَبَّ الْعَالَمِيْ

Wednesday, 15 August 2018


Shaykh YASIR QADHI (USA) returns back to DURBAN nearly after a decade away! He comes next month to teach Surah Yusuf like never before and it's buy 1 Ticket and get 1 Free! Before seats are sold out, book now below now:

The Lonely Dreamer: The Trials of Yusuf (as) in Light of Surah Yusuf (as) with Shaykh Yasir Qadhi (USA)

The story of Yusuf (as) is one of the most powerful and complete Surahs in the Qur’an filled with practical life lessons which almost every believer will face.

A voyage of a boy to a man, from Palestine leading to a slave becoming a ruler.

10 Life Lessons you will learn:

1) Betrayal: Why it occurs and how to deal with it?

2) Accused

3) Dreaming: The secrets of visions and interpretation

4) Acceptance

5) Envy

6) Parenting: Upbringing of children and dealing with parents who oppose you

7) Lust: Gender relations and the role of women in society

8) Loneliness

9) Leadership

10) Conflict

Price: £23.50, R400: Buy 1 ticket and get another ticket absolutely FREE!

Date: Saturday 22nd September 2018

Time: 10am-14:00pm

Venue: Durban (Full details on website)

For more info and to enrol, please visit: or contact: 0815108728

Men and Women Welcome

Thursday, 9 August 2018



Revisiting the concept of family in Islam

🌸WITH A SPECIAL FOCUS ON:  Quranic Scholarship and Females by Ustaadhah Ayesha Abrahams🌸

🎤 SPEAKERS AND TOPICS (in alphabetical order) 🎤 

• Amina Ngubane: Amina was born and bred at Willowfountain village in uMgungundlovu. She has worked for Sanzaf-PMB, Verulam Islamic Institute, IMA Baytul-Nur, UKZN and Unisa. She is a disability researcher and an activist.

o Preserving the Muslim family:  A convert’s journey

o To marry or not to marry – is it even a question?


• Ustaadhah Ayesha Abrahams: Ustaadhah Ayesha holds Sanad and Ijazah in the major ten Qira’at as well as the shadh Qira’at (anamolous readings).  She completed a four year course at the Darun Naim Institute for Higher Islamic Studies.  

o Opening Qira’ah on both days

o Talk:  Outstanding female scholars in the field of Qur’an

o Demonstration:  Importance of tajweed through the recitation of short surahs

o Talk:  Explanation of key concepts including Qira’at, Sanad and Ijazah

o Demonstration:  Different Qira’at


• Fatima Juma: Fatima is a skin and health specialist from Durban.  She lost her 12-year-old daughter, Ayesha, one and a half years ago.  Having experienced the healing process herself, she is passionate about assisting individuals who have lost their loved ones to attain a level of calmness and serenity in their lives.  A mother of two, she is excited about her future and what it holds for her.  

o My personal story of experiencing and dealing with loss


• Haafidh Fuzail Soofie: Haafidh Fuzail holds a traditional certificate in Islamic Sciences and has served the Muslim community in South Africa as a community leader, public speaker and writer since 1992.  His weekly educational talks prioritise the spiritual, traditional and scientific dimensions of Islam to meet the unique challenges of the modern era.  As the Imam of the Westville Soofie Mosque in Durban, he facilitates the institution’s pivotal role in the community and spearheads its various charitable projects and educational initiatives.  

o Factors leading to the breakdown of Muslim marriages


• Junaid Bayat: Junaid Bayat hails from Verulam in KwaZulu-Natal.  He is an author, speaker, trainer and lecturer on human performance.  His training is used globally and he is widely known for his Accelerated Learning study system and his contribution to education.  He has coached and trained over 110 000 students and over 10 000 parents and teachers in various topics ranging from parenting to understanding children’s personalities, learning styles and everything relating to millennials.  His vision is to “Transform Education.”

o    Raising a powerful family in the 21st century


• Quraysha Ismail Sooliman: Quraysha is a post doctorate research fellow in the Faculty of Humanities and Mellon Foundation Public Intellectual Project at the University of Pretoria.  She has also studied the Islamic Sciences intensively as is the host of Finding Me on ITV.  Her work includes a strong focus on kindness to animals and an awareness of the environment.  

o    The concept of family in Islam

o     The family and beyond: interrogating our position in the greater family of creation


• Suhaima Hoosen: Suhaima is a specialist family therapist and community advocacy expert.  She taught social work in the department of health sciences at the University of Kwazulu-Natal for 23 years.  She has presented papers and chaired sessions and numerous local and international conferences.  She currently works as a consultant for two international social welfare companies. She holds an honours degree in Social Work, a masters degree in Medical Science and a PhD in Policy Development.    

o    Issues faced by our elderly

o    Dealing with loss 


• Zaffar Ahmed: Zaffar is currently the Chairperson of the Association of Muslim Schools in KwaZulu-Natal, an executive member of the National Association of Muslim Schools, and the Deputy CEO of AWQAF South Africa. He is the principal of the high school at Al Falaah College, which he joined in 2009.  He obtained his teaching qualification (majoring in Accounting and Business Studies) cum laude from the University of Witwatersrand.  He later completed his MBA cum laude and received the Top MBA Student Award.

o Building Family Legacies in this world and the next through Waqf


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Date: Saturday and Sunday the 15 and 16 September 2018, in sha Allah

Times: Saturday – 8:30am to 5.50pm, Sunday – 9:30am to 5pm

Venue: University of KwaZulu-Natal Westville Campus Senate Chamber

Cost: R400 for the entire weekend, including lunch and tea on both days and a goodie bag

💟Our sponsorship policy💟Muslimah Today is intended to be accessible to women from all walks of life.  We understand that it may not be possible for everyone to afford the conference fee.  We therefore strive to acquire full or partial sponsorships for women who require them.  These are implemented through an application process.  Feel free to enquire about applying for a sponsorship.  Also, feel free to enquire about sponsoring a delegate.


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3. Once you return the completed form and provide us with proof of payment, your place will be       secured in sha Allah.  

4. Deadline for registering:  Thursday, 13th September, 8.30am

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“Muslimah Today is one of the rare Durban events that ladies attend alone and they leave, bonded, as sisters. It is a great start for those who have never attended an event of this calibre, and always on the yearly bucket list for those of us who return year after year. Irrespective of where you are in your life, spiritual or emotional aspirations - Muslimah Today will present you with something to take into your life and enrich it. It is an amazing platform for unity and to grow in sisterhood. Gift yourself something special by attending this year, it will undoubtedly be your first of many to come. Insha'Allah. Wishing the organizers, speakers and all those involved a successful event. They outdo themselves on every level. Hope to see you there!” (Hasina Suliman)

“My eyes were full of tears every time a speaker, spoke - while I videoed or photographed them” (Nabihah Desai-Plaatjes)

“The Muslimah Today conference is the highlight of my calendar. It's time for me to be inspired and meet old friends and make new friends, every moment learning beautiful gems. We are always being introduced to new awesome talented sisters. I cannot put into words how much I look forward for our conference. Love you Fatima for tirelessly striving with Azra and everyone to ensure we are blooming.  Muslimah Today is like Zam Zam to my soul.” (Fahmida Jagot)

“I have attended virtually every single Muslimah Today conference since it was launched and was also invited to speak at one of the sessions. It’s a great networking opportunity, the energy and vibe is awesome and it’s also a safe space for us as Muslimahs to discuss difficult and sensitive issues between us. I always have great conversations with my fellow sisters and catch up with those I have not seen in a while. I highly recommend attending it as it’s a wonderful opportunity to learn and socialise at the same time.”  (Lubna Nadvi)

“Have been to other conferences...Muslimah Today is unique. It’s an authentic, sincere, inspiring, moving space. Keeps it real...and so rewarding.” (Mariam Jhaveri)

“As a young student I look forward to this event every year.  Alhamdulillah, it is such a blessing to be amongst women from different ethnic backgrounds that share a common goal with you and that is to learn, be inspired and motivated. Being a part of this conference is like a little get away from the hassle of life. It's some "me time" to be amongst your sisters, just sit back and relax. Usually people think such conferences are just a money making scheme and is usually boring however I can confidently say that Muslimah Today is NOT one of them. Alhamdulillah the speakers are really interesting.  This is a fantastic initiative, I highly encourage sisters from all walks of life to join us in shaa Allah as well as encourage and bring along the youth as well. It is most definitely an uplifting weekend that will not only touch your heart but your soul as well. Looking forward to seeing some new faces this year.” (Homairah Mohamed)

Saturday, 21 July 2018

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Wednesday, 6 June 2018

Food for thought..

❝How strange and foolish is man. He loses his health in gaining wealth. Then, to regain his health he wastes his wealth. He ruins his present while worrying about his future, but weeps in the future by recalling his past. He lives as though death shall never come to him, but dies in a way as if he were never born.❞

― Ali ibn Abi Talib

Tuesday, 5 June 2018


Why worry?

Gender Equality

The most beautiful answer on GENDER EQUALITY.

Something of topic.

Long article but worth it.


Questioner: Sarah

Reply Date: Apr 24, 2017


On March 18, 2005 Amina Wadud led the first female-led Jumu`ah Prayer. On that day, women took a huge step towards being more like men. But, did we come closer to actualizing our God-given liberation?

Consultant: Yasmin Mogahed


Salam Sarah,

Thank you for your inspiring question!

Well, answering your question, I can say that I don’t think so.

What we so often forget is that God has honored women by giving them value in relation to God—not in relation to men. But as Western feminism erases God from the scene, there is no standard left but men.

As a result, the Western feminist is forced to find her value in relation to a man. And in so doing, she has accepted a faulty assumption. She has accepted that man is the standard, and thus a woman can never be a full human being until she becomes just like a man—the standard.

When a man cut his hair short, she wanted to cut her hair short. When a man joined the army, she wanted to join the army, and so on. She wanted these things for no other reason than because the “standard” had it.

What she didn’t recognize was that God dignifies both men and women in their distinctiveness, not their sameness. And on March 18, Muslim women made the very same mistake.

For 1,400 years, there has been a consensus of scholars that men are to lead prayer. As a Muslim woman, why does this matter? The one who leads prayer is not spiritually superior in any way.

Something is not better just because a man does it. And leading Prayer is not better just because it is leading.

Had it been the role of women or had it been more divine, why wouldn’t the Prophet have asked Lady `A’ishah or Lady Khadijah, or Lady Fatimah—the greatest women of all time—to lead?

These women were promised heaven and yet they never led prayer.

But now, for the first time in 1,400 years, we look at a man leading prayer and we think, “that’s not fair.” We think so, although God has given no special privilege to the one who leads. The imam is no higher in the eyes of God than the one who prays behind him.

On the other hand, only a woman can be a mother. And the Creator has given special privilege to a mother. The Prophet taught us that heaven lies at the feet of mothers. But no matter what a man does, he can never be a mother. So why is that not unfair?

When asked who is most deserving of our kind treatment? The Prophet replied “your mother” three times before saying “your father” only once. Isn’t that sexist? No matter what a man does, he will never be able to have the status of a mother.

And yet even when God honors us with something uniquely feminine, we are too busy trying to find our worth in reference to men, to value it or even notice it. We too have accepted men as the standard; so anything uniquely feminine is, by definition, “inferior”.

Being sensitive is an insult, becoming a mother is a degradation. In the battle between stoic rationality (considered masculine) and selfless compassion (considered feminine), rationality reigns supreme.

As soon as we accept that everything a man has and does is better, all that follows is just a knee jerk reaction: if men have it, we want it too. If men pray in the front rows, we assume this is better, so we want to pray in the front rows too.

If men lead prayer, we assume the imam is closer to God, so we want to lead prayer too.

Somewhere along the line, we’ve accepted the notion that having a position of worldly leadership is some indication of one’s position with God.

A Muslim woman does not need to degrade herself in this way. She has God as a standard. She has God to give her value; she doesn’t need a man here.

In fact, in our crusade to follow men, we, as women, never even stopped to examine the possibility that what we have is better for us. In some cases, we even gave up what was higher only to be like men.

Fifty years ago, we saw men leaving the home to work in factories. We were mothers. And yet, we saw men doing it, so we wanted to do it too. Somehow, we considered it women’s liberation to abandon the raising of another human being in order to work on a machine.

We accepted that working in a factory was superior to raising the foundation of society—just because a man did it.

Then after working, we were expected to be superhuman—the perfect mother, the perfect wife, the perfect homemaker, and have the perfect career. And while there is nothing wrong, by definition, with a woman having a career, we soon came to realize what we had sacrificed by blindly mimicking men.

We watched as our children became strangers, and soon recognized the privilege we’d given up.

And so only now—given the choice—women in the West are choosing to stay home to raise their children. According to the United States Department of Agriculture, only 31 percent of mothers with babies, and 18 percent of mothers with two or more children, are working full time.

And of those working mothers, a survey conducted by Parenting Magazine in 2000, found that 93 percent of them say they would rather be home with their kids, but are compelled to work due to “financial obligations.”

These “obligations” are imposed on women by the gender sameness of the modern West and removed from women by the gender distinctiveness of Islam.

It took women in the West almost a century of experimentation to realize a privilege given to Muslim women 1,400 years ago. Given my privilege as a woman, I only degrade myself by trying to be something I’m not, and in all honesty, don’t want to be—a man.

As women, we will never reach true liberation until we stop trying to mimic men and value the beauty in our own God given distinctiveness.

If given a choice between stoic justice and compassion, I choose compassion. And if given a choice between worldly leadership and heaven at my feet, I choose heaven.

I hope my words answer your question. In case you have any comment or you need more about the topic, please don’t hesitate to contact us again.

Thank you and please keep in touch.



Friday, 1 June 2018

Food for thought...


A brother visits his sister and asks, 'How do you live in this house? It's so small'. 

The husband returns and finds his wife angry and they argue up to the point that he divorces her. Where did this all start? She was OK up until her brother asked her.

A man asks his friend, 'How much does your boss pay you? He answers' £1000 a month'. £1000 a month?! You deserve more than that! He asks his boss for a raise but refuses so he leaves his work. Now he has no work. How did this happen?


Enter people's houses like a blind man and leave like a deaf person. 

You don't know what your everyday questions may do to a household and after you leave, The Devil creeps in and causes all sorts of problems.

Monday, 28 May 2018

The advice I received today: Written by Naadira Chhipa 

Today as I was walking out of a 'home' for the elderly I was stopped by a 85 year old beautiful lady. She invited me and M.Armaan (my three year old) into a little garden. As I sat on a bench, she asked me to listen to her carefully, little did I know I was about to receive priceless advice.

Looking straight into my eyes and in a hushed voice she said: 'When I look into your eyes I see that sparkle, the sparkle of love and admiration for your little boy. I know that look very well.I also had the same sparkle in my eyes a few years ago when I was surrounded by my children and grandchildren. Now my eyes are dead as I have not seen them in over three years. My child I do not know you I do not know the story of your life but I know that you are a mother and listen carefully to what I am going to tell you from one mother to another. Don't ever sacrifice your life for your children .Don't put your dreams and happiness on hold while you become busy raising this boy. Don't neglect your relationship with your husband and with yourself while you busy chasing after your children. Enjoy your life, make time for yourself and whatever you like to do, do it. Be happy and make lots of memories'.... Tears well up in her tired and wrinkled eyes.'I sacrificed my life for my children and look at me now.I am alone and all I have are memories which sometimes abandon me also.'

This was the sincere advice of an amazing woman, mother, granny and now my friend.I cried with her and as I hugged her tiny frame I could feel the pain, the disappointment and hurt in her heart.The heart of an abandoned mother.

May Allah give all mothers the comfort of being surrounded by her children and grandchildren.  May no mother ever feel abandoned or alone. May Allah purify and fill the hearts of children with love and mercy for their parents always. May the sparkle in the eyes of every mother remain illuminated until she closes them forever and may children never forget to make dua for their parents even after they leave this world.Ameen.

If you want to know the value of a Mother ask the one who just lost their mother.-Naadira Chhipa

Sunday, 27 May 2018


2. Tranquility Descends.

Al Baraa reported that a man was reciting Sooratul-Kahf and there was a horse tied with two ropes at his side, when a cloud overshadowed him. As it began to come nearer and nearer his horse began to take fright from it. He went and mentioned that to the Prophet (sallalahu alaihe wa-sallam) in the morning, who said:

“It was tranquility [as-Sakeenah] which came down at the recitation of the Qur’aan.” 

📚[7]Saheeh Al-Bukhaaree (Eng Trans. vol. 6, p.492, no. 531)

This shows us that the tranquility and the calmness which results from the recitation of the Qur’aan is not something abstract, but something very real which permeated the whole atmosphere so that even the animals can imbibe it. This ‘Sakeenah‘ (tranquility) which descends upon the reciter is accompanied by Angels who assemble to listen to the Qur’aan.

The Companion Usaid ibn Hudair (Radiya ‘Llahu ‘anhu) mentioned to the Prophet (sallalahu alaihe wa-sallam) that once when he was reciting the Qur’aan at night while his horse was tied beside him. The horse suddenly became uneasy and started jumping. When he stopped reciting, the horse became quiet. When he resumed reciting, the horse became uneasy again. After repeating this a few times, he stopped reciting and looked up. He was amazed to see right above him something that looked like a big cloud of bright lamps rising up in the sky. The next morning, he told the Prophet (Sallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) about this, and the Prophet (sallalahu alaihe wa-sallam) explained to him that:

“Those were Angels who came to listen to your reading. Had you kept on reciting until morning, they would have remained visible for the people to see them!” 

📚[8 Saheeh Al-Bukhaaree (eng. trans. vol. 6, p. 496. no. 536) And Saheeh Muslim (Eng Trans. vol. 1, p.382, no. 1742)

The Price of Modesty Written by Naadira Chhipa

When a Muslimah adorns herself with her abaayah and hijaab she is not just adorning herself with a meaningless garment or lengths of fabric but she is practising a Sunnah and also emulating the Queen of Jannah, Hazrath Faatimah (R.A) as well as the shining stars our beautiful Sahaabiyah (R.A). 

We have now truly lost the essence of Modesty as we purchase the latest 'designer' abaayahs at extraordinary prices. Yes, some muslimahs may say but this is a better alternative than a Channel, D&G or Versace garment but my dear sisters we should not even consider the web of brands of this world as we will soon be covered in our plain white kafan. The prices of these branded and sarovski embellished abayaahas are incredibly high as the abaayah or fabric as well as the crystals are imported from the Middle East which is why the price tag is so heavy but the question remains why is there a market for such extravagance? 

Beauty? As women we love glittery as well as beautiful things and No my darling sisters it is not a sin to want something of this dhuniya that makes your heart smile for as long as it does not create a sense of superiority or even an atom of pride within your heart, mind and soul. A simple, reasonably priced as well modest abayaah can become an elegant one of kind garment as you make it your own by beautifying it with your humility and amazing smile. It is not what you wear, it is how you wear it.

Money? Allah has blessed certain people with increasing wealth, Alhamdullilah and even after giving charity they have extra reserves of money so they would not think twice to purchase an abaayah for about R50000(yes fifty thousand). Now they can afford it so why not, right?WRONG! When Allah gave our beloved Prophet Muhammad(S.A.W) the option of having mountains turn into gold, did he take it? When the Queen of Jannah asked her beloved father for a servant to assist her with the chores did he immediately oblige her? No. The mercy upon mankind our beloved Prophet Muhammad(s.a.w) loved simplicity as well as lived a lifestyle accordingly even though he could have had it all he chose to sacrifice this dhuniyah for the Akhirah thereby giving us a huge lesson in life. If Allah has blessed you with more than you know what to do with it does not give you the right to be extravagant but it is a test from Allah to see if your wealth makes you or breaks you. 

Quality & brands? Some may say the quality of the fabric internationally is much better than local fabrics. My dear sisters we also get the best prices as well as quality in South Africa as all you need is fabric that does tear nor stick to your body. Brands? What brand will you choose for your kafan? Brands have become so important that kafans should now be sold with certain brand names as the person wrapped in that white cloth was never seen in anything either than D&G or Versace whilst walking on this earth.

My beautiful sisters please let us reflect on our shopping this Eid. When you see that amazing abayaah or gorgeous bag just ask yourself for a minute: Will this price tag increase my own value? Will Allah be pleased with me for spending the money that he has gifted to me on this item? Will it cause me an atom of pride or superiority? Now close your eyes and make dua to Allah by saying, Oh Allah I have sacrificed my increasing desire to own this beautiful, yet temporary, worldly item so you give me something more beautiful and amazing in every colour in Jannah. Ameen. Yes this is the dua I make as I pass by the Aldo stores at the mall.

May Allah make it easy for us to understand and realise that we are all just travelling on this temporary journey called life and soon we will all be called back to Allah in the simplest of clothes, a white kafan. Let us not attach our hearts, mind and soul to anything(not even designer abaayahs) as someday soon we will have to leave it all behind as we enter our eternal abode.

Remember: Modesty of the mind.

Modesty of the heart

Modesty of the soul

Modesty of the body

Modesty of a Muslimah is priceless..No price tags attached.

Written by Naadira Chhipa

Saturday, 26 May 2018

The Sisterhood


🍀بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم🍀 

ﷺ ♥̸̨͡🍃ﷺ♥̸̨͡🍃ﷺ 

Those who will avoid these will enjoy success in this life & in Akhirah, otherwise, problems & 

failure are the lot of those in whom these evil attributes prevail.



In simple terms, it's a don't care attitude. 

A person is unconcerned about how & when he does things or if he even does it! He's unconcious of the outcome of his actions. These pertain, both, to Huqooqullah ( rights of اللَّهُ Subhana wa Ta'ala) & Huqooqul Ibaad ( rights of creation). It's a spiritual coma...unconcerned about one's Islah (reformation) & the purpose of life. 



One moment of anger can be a life altering moment... what about Akhirah? We don't have control over becoming angry, but we do have the power to refrain. Anger, by itself, is not harmful, but if misdirected, it contaminates & 

removes the sweetness of Iman. 



This destructive malady is a sign of the fall of a person. There is no basis for arrogance & claim over any Dunyawi or Deeni achievement! A person never had it at one stage & the reality is that it can be lost in a moment. 



This is such a sick state of Zulmat (darkness) of the heart, that a person is always in negative thoughts & suspicions about others, wishing ill for them, gloating over their misfortunes, disheartened on people's success & happiness. This leads to breaking ties & adopting measures to inflict harm.



This is the result of pride/looking down on others. The definition of Gheebat must be understood. اللَّهُ Subhana wa Ta'ala says regarding Gheebat, 

"Would you like to eat the flesh of your dead brother? So, (in the same way) abhor it!" 



It's dangerous for one's Iman, to become extreme in Dunya or Deen. Obsession of permissible things ends in neglect of rights & duties. There should be a balance. Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has warned us against Ghuluw in Deen as it can cause destruction in both worlds. 



There are 2 types of Gham. One is from Allah's side as a form of Tarbiyyah (spiritual training).

The other is self-inflicted... perpetually thinking negatively, which is extremely detrimental to one's Deen & Dunya & Akhirah.

If Gham is from Allah, He will arrange the means to remove it. 

If it's self-inflicted, we must make the effort to remove the cause of it, if possible.

May اللَّهُ Subhana wa Ta'ala cure & protect us from these 7 destructive maladies. 

(Mufti Zubair Bhayat)



Duaa to be recited between

Asr until Iftaar 

Yaa Waa Si'al Fadhly Ighfirlee

يا واسع الفضل اغفر لي

O the One who is spacious in bounty(great in bounty),forgive me


Friday, 25 May 2018



Don't fall prey to the status quo, where everything you do stems from one's own selfish ego, you keep away from those whom you deem as below, you consider in every choice what would lead one's status to grow, to maintain this you would also take the weak as a foe, everything you purchase and the way you behave is all part of the show, do you not know that our prophet Sallallahualaihiwasallam, to an invitation of trotters would go.

Amidst the thought of status where in the world is sincerety? Ones motives become a conglomeration of dishonesty, one is blinded from what really matters till one cannot see,Islam has reminded us that this life is temporary, leave all this baseless status live a life of simplicity, ponder over all this over a steamy cup of tea.

You become an obstacle for those that try to do good and practice choices of righteousness, when you disregard them you make them feel as if something is amiss, it is only in Aakhirah will one know who achieved eternal bliss.

Impressing peoples minds is a disease, to achieve this end some will even take occasional holidays overseas, by making such the goal they lose sight of the door of true contentment and its keys.

To achieve true contentment make your goal one, put Allah and his Deen before entertainment and fun, if you do so behind people you wouldn't have to run, keep him in mind in every action before whilst and after it is done.

Be kind to all regardless of who they are, that will distance you from pride keep you afar.

Remember true honor is in the life to come, their the bank balance would not matter nor the sum, neither will it matter where you are from.

Monday, 21 May 2018


After years of falling into the same pattern of disappointments and heartbreak,💔 I finally began to realize something profound. I had always thought that love❤ of dunya meant being attached to material things.

And I was not attached to material things. I was attached to people. I was attached to moments. I was attached to emotions. So I thought that the love of dunya just did not apply to me. What I didn’t realize was that people, moments, emotions are all a part of dunya. What I didn’t realize is that all the pain I had experienced in life was due to one thing, and one thing only: love of dunya.

And I realized as much as you can, keep dunya (worldly life) in your hand--not in your heart. That means when someone insults you, keep it out of your heart so it doesn't make you bitter or defensive. When someone praises you, also keep it out of your heart, so it doesn't make you arrogant and self-deluded. When you face hardship and stress, don't absorb it in your heart, so you don't become hopeless and overwhelmed.

Instead keep it in your hands and realize that everything passes. When you're given a gift 🎁by God, don't hold it in your heart. Hold it in your hand so that you don't begin to love the gift more than the giver. And so that when it is taken away you can truly respond with 'inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi rajioon': 'indeed we belong to God, and to God we return'.

Oh Allah please do not attach our hearts to this deceptive world, help us work for the hereafter and make us among those you love 💞

Yasmin Mogahed

Sunday, 20 May 2018

Beautiful explanation of Taqwa

True Definition of Taqwa?

Taqwa is not our manners...

Taqwa is not about looking islamic...

Taqwa is not about sporting a beard / wearing a Hijab...

Taqwa is not appearance


Taqwa is when you miss a single prayer, you feel uneasy the whole day...

Taqwa is when you speak a lie , your instinct feels bad..

Taqwa is the guilt that follows when u hurt someone knowingly or unknowingly, 

Taqwa is the shame and regret that follows a sin you did knowing fully well about it's stand in the sight of Allah,

Taqwa is when you cannot sleep the whole night after disobeying or disrespecting your parents..

Taqwa is to cry in the depths of night fearing none but the one above the Arsh. 

Taqwa is the fear that refrains us from sinning even when we are alone and nobody is looking...

Taqwa is the guts the will to please Allah, even when the whole world is bent on displeasing Him...

Taqwa is to wear that bearandd and Hijab for the sole reason of pleasing Our Rabb and to keep it as per sunnah....

Taqwa is to stay happy and smiling even after knowing this world is a prison for believers...

Taqwa is the good manners and character that loving and fearing Allah brings in us...

Taqwa is the struggle to better yourself according to Islam with each passing day...

Taqwa is not only about rising in deen, it is more about falling but rising up again and never letting go...


💟And if YOUR heart is filled with proper Taqwa, then actions automatically follow... And the sweetness of these actions are so much better.. Subhan'Allah 


Friday, 18 May 2018

Parables of the Qur'aan - Ridge Road Musalla 

Programme every Sunday after Zuhr in Ramadan by Shaykh Musaaid Dawood 

Azaan     12:30

Jama'ah 12:45

Facilities for Ladies

Al Huda Institute SA

461 Ridge Road, Durban

+27 73 380 3069

+27 76 856 3185

Wednesday, 16 May 2018


Yasmin Mogahed...

The Third Kalimah

The third kalimah has a unique and very interesting story behind it. It all started before Allah Ta'alah created Adam A.S. The Angels were trying to move the Arsh (Throne) of Allah Ta'alah but it was too heavy and wouldn't move, So they asked Almighty Allah for help. Allah told them to recite "Subhanallah." The Angels did as they were told and found that it gave them power and strength and they were able to move the Arsh. They liked this so much that they began constantly hymning "Subhanallah."- (Glory be to Allah)

Then Allah created Adam A.S. When Allah blew life into Adam, the first thing he did was sneeze and say "Alhamdulillah" (All praise be to Allah)The angels liked this act so much that they added this to their praise and glorification of Allah. Thus the kalimah became "Subhanallah Walhamdulillah"

Hundreds of years passed and the Prophet Nooh A.S. was now on earth. For nine hundred years he proclaimed the oneness of Allah with the words "La illaha illalah." (There is none worthy of worhip The Angels loved this act so much that they added this to the kalimah. Thus, the kalimah now became "Subhanallah Walhamdulillah Wa La illaha illalah."

The Angels kept repeating this kalimah day and night. Many centuries passed and the Prophet Ebrahim A.S. (Abraham) was asked by Almighty Allah to sacrifice his beloved son Ismaeel A.S. He was about to slaughter his son and He needed something to give him the courage he needed to do this difficult deed. So he recited "Allahu Akbar." (Allah is Great) The Angels loved this act so much that they added "Allahu Akbar" to the kalimah. Thus the kalimah became "Subhanallah Walhamdulillah Wa La illaha illalah Allahu Akbar."

More centuries passed. It was the night of Meraj, when our Beloved Prophet Muhammed S.A.W. ascended to the Heavens with Gibraeel A.S. There Gibraeel A.S. told Nabee S.A.W. the story and Nabee S.A.W. added the final part of the Kalmiah "Wala Howla Wa La Quwata Illah Billah Hil Aleyeel Azeem." Thus the kalimah now became Subhanallah Walhamdulillah Wa La illaha illalah Allahu Akbar Wala Howla Wa La Quwata Illah Billah Hil Aleyeel Azeem" (There is no Power and Might except from Allah, The Most High, The Great)

And up to this day, this kalimah (or declaration of faith) buzzes around the Arsh of Almighy Allah.

Third Kalima is Tumjeed, this is the Kalima(the first part) that is recited 33 times after each Farz Namaaz, and is called tasbih Fatima.

Surah Fatiha protects one from the anger of Allah.

Surah Yaseen from the thirst of the Day of Judgement.

Sura Waaqiah from poverty and starvation

Surah Mulk from the punishment of the grave

Surah Kausar from the enemity of the enemy

Surah Kaafiroon from kufr at the time of death

Surah Ikhlaas from hypocrisy

Surah Falaq from calamities.

Surah Naas from evil thoughts

Should someone become aware of the above from your message and read any of these surahs, u will also receive the sawaab for passing on the knowledge. So keep forwarding…….

Hazrat Muhammad S.A.W.W (PBUH) says that

“If a person recites ” Ayatal Kursi” after every Farz Namaz then there will be nothing between him and Heaven except Death”

2) There is a Hadith that says “3rd kalima” is such a great medicine that it cures every disease and the most minor disease it cures is “Sorrow” (Gham).

Third kalima being: ” Subhaan Allah, WalHamdo Lillah, Wa La Illaha IlAllah, Wa Aallah o Akbar, Wa Lahoalwalla quwatta illa billah hil Ali al Azeem.”

3) Another Hadith says “if a person recites surah ikhlaas 10 times in a day then Allah build a palace for him in the Heaven.(Subhaan Allah)”

and the last but not the least ALLAH says ” spread the knowledge whatever u have …Its duty of each n every Muslim”

May ALLAH accept our good deeds…

Quraan verses linked to Ramadaan

Ramadaan 2018...

Tuesday, 15 May 2018

Forgiving in Ramadan

Forgiving is giving up your right to hate or hurt the person who hurt you. Hate hurts you physically, mentally and emotionally. Forgiveness gives you peace, tranquility and happiness.

Allah described the believers and said: "And those who avoid the major sins and immoralities, and when they are angry, they forgive." (Quran 42:37)

The Prophet (P) said: "It is not permissible for a Muslim to abandon his brother for more than three days, each of them turning away when they meet.The better of them is the one who gives the greeting of salaam first."

The Prophet (P) also said: "The gates of Paradise will be opened on Mondays and on Thursdays, and every servant of Allah who associates nothing with Allah will be forgiven, except for the man who has a grudge against his brother. About them it will be said, 'Delay these two until they are reconciled. Delay these two until they are reconciled. Delay these two until they are reconciled.'"

Another hadeeth regarding forgiveness states that the Prophet (P), while sitting in the mosque with his Companions, pointed out a person who entered the mosque as being of those who would enter Jannah. He did this for 3 days, and every time, it was the same person who entered the mosque. Abdullah bin Amr (RA) wanted to know what quality this man possessed that made the Prophet (pbuh) say that about him, so he spent three nights with that man. He did not notice that the man prayed the optional night prayers during any of these nights, but if he woke up during the night, he would simply mention Allah. So before he left, he had to ask him what he did that was so special that the Prophet (P) identified him as a man of Jannah. The man replied: "My deeds are nothing more than what you saw, but the only thing I do is that I do not hold any grudge against any Muslim or envy anyone for what bounties Allah has granted them." Thereupon 'Abdullah Ibn Amr (RA) said to him: "This difficult quality to obtain is what granted you this rank

10 minute Arabic dough

2 cups warm water

4 Tbsp sugar 

2 Tbsp yeast

2 cups flour

1/4 tsp salt

2 Tbsp milk powder- secret ingredient that makes 'em so soft

Mix together and set aside for 10-15 minutes. 

Then add:

1/2 cup oil

3 cups flour+ 1 tsp baking powder (optional)

Mix well and knead until combined then use as desired. 

let it sit for 30


You can use this recipe to make meat filled bunz




Rolls etc

Sunday, 13 May 2018


1.Keep free from eating high-calorie flesh (gossip) of others no matter how juicy.

2.Switch to fat free truths.

3.Avoid artificial tempers.

4.Do voice therapy by reciting the Qur'an.

5.Purify your eyes by crying in Dua.

6.Do hand reflexology through tasbeeh.

7.Brighten your smile by using a miswaak.

8.Take the weight off your shoulders by paying your Zakaat.

9.Shrug of those extra kilos of sins by repenting

Start today!

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