Sunday, 30 December 2018

Society stigmas

When a divorced Muslim man remarries quickly after divorce, he's labeled as a dedicated father who needs a wife to help him raise the kids.

When a divorced Muslim woman remarries quickly after her divorce and iddah, she's labeled an immoral hussy who most likely had him waiting on the side until the marriage ended.

When a widowed Muslim man remarries quickly, he's labeled as someone who needs companionship and a woman to take care of his needs.

When a widowed Muslim woman remarries after her iddah, she's labeled as a woman who obviously never loved her poor deceased husband in the first place.

The best of women, the female Companions, were never subject to the disgraceful double standards that exist today.

How do we expect our sisters to remain chaste when our misogynist community considers the end of one relationship to be a permanent expiry date?

(Not everyone views are like this, but the crux of it is still a trend that needs to be tramped out)

Everyone's rizq is fixed

A brother moved to Makkah many years ago. He was a high flying manager of major departmental stores in U.K., Malaysia and China. 

He had been brought in by Bin Dawood stores as a regional manager for the Makkah region. He was from England. 

After living and working in Saudi for some time, he later narrated how he found it so strange, unique and uplifting in how business was done in Saudi. 

Here were the examples he gave:

1. In Makkah, next to a major *Bin Dawood superstore* a rival new company were entering the kingdom and decided to open a mega store right next to Bin Dawood, within metres. 

The brother was perturbed/disturbed, "Why can't they open just somewhere else."

The owners of Bin Dawood frowned on his outlook. They ordered him to send his workers to the other store being setup and offer them tea and food and any help they needed to setup! 

The brother was left astounded/shock. The Bin Dawood management simply replied, "Our rizq is fixed, they cannot take even one Riyal from what has been decreed upon us. So why not gain ‘ajr’ and help them." 

2. The owner of *AlFakieh poultry* in Saudi, he has a famous mosque in MAKKAH (Masjid Faqih). He is very rich ماشاء الله تبارك الله and religious. He found out that his major rival AlWatania was floundering/struggling with huge debts of a million plus riyals. So he one day sent a cheque to the owner of AlWatania and said, "Pay off your debt, and pay me back, whenever you can." He had the opportunity to become the sole major distributor of chicken but instead he decided to help his main rival.

ماشاء الله تبارك الله 

I personally feel we have been affected growing up in the west with the capitalistic and consumer mindset, that is in every part of our lives. 

It removes *Tawakkul* and the *muhabbah/love of brotherhood from our hearts.* 

Just some advice. Don't worry about others, if we do our work with *Ihsan* and *If Allah gives us tawfeeq* then we will never have our success limited by others.


[Source: Forwarded from Shaykh Abdul Raheem Makkah Al Mukarramah.]

Sunday, 23 December 2018

The following are minor signs of Qiyamah

 Lost of trust (from the hearts of people). (Bukhari)

 Lost of ilm and rampant ignorance. (Bukhari)

 Widespread adultery (Zina). (Bukhari)

 Interest (Riba) being widespread. (Tabrani)

 Appearance of musical instruments. (Ibn Majah)

 Extensive use of alcohol. (Muslim)

 Competing with each other in decorating Masjids. (Ahmad)

 Competing with each other in building (houses, building etc.) (Bukhari)

 Abundance of killing. (Muslim)

Contrition in/of time. (Bukhari)

Extensive immorality, break of family relations and evil character among neighbors. (Ahmad)

The use of black dye by men. (Ahmad)

Widespread miserliness. (Tabrani)

Abundance of earthquakes. (Bukhari)

Extensive trade/business until a woman would accompany/join her husband in trade and business (Ahmad).

Removal of the pious (by Allah Ta’ala). (Ahmad)

Salam (to say Assalamu Alaykum) will be made by a person only to those whom he knows. (Ahmad)

Ilm (Knowledge) will be sought from young (Asagir). (Jami As-Sagir)

Women would be clothed yet naked (due to their style of clothing). (Ahmad)

Presence of liars. (Muslim)

False oaths will be taken. (Ahmad)

The presence of more women than men. (Bukhari)

Unexpected and sudden deaths. (Tabrani)



It is clear that all the minor signs of Qiyamah have taken place. However, Allah alone knows when the major signs will occur. Our responsibility is to prepare for our death in the state of Imaan and save ourselves from all forms of sins.

Sunday, 16 December 2018

Lifes lessons

*Many years ago, on a Sallah Day, in Dubai, a very Rich Man who had no wife, no children, no other family members, decided to invite all the employees of his Mansion to dinner.*

*He called the staff and asked them to sit at the table.*

*In front of everyone there was a QUR'AN and a small sum of MONEY.*

*After everyone had their dinner, the Rich Man asked:*

*"What would you prefer to receive as a gift: this QUR'AN or this MONEY?*

*Do not be shy, you can choose what you want. "*


*"Sir, I would love to receive The Qur'an, but since I have not learned to read, the money will be more useful to me."*


*"Sir, my wife is very sick and that's why I need more money, otherwise I would choose The Qur'an for sure!"*


*"Sir, I like reading to tell the truth, it's one of the things I like to do, but I work so hard that I never find time to flip through a magazine, let alone The Qur'an. I will take the money. "*


*And as the Rich Gentleman of the villa knew that the boy's family was very poor, he stepped forward and said:*

*"Surely you too want the money, do you not?  So that  you can buy food to have a good dinner at home and buy new shoes? "*


as for him, surprised everybody with his answer:

*"It would not hurt to buy a turkey and other tasty food to share with my parents and siblings. I also need a pair of new shoes because mine are very old. Even so, I will choose The Qur'an, because  I have always wanted one. My mother taught me that the Word of Allah (SWT) is worth more than gold and that it is more tasty than a honeycomb."*

*After receiving The Qur'an, the boy immediately opened it.  He found TWO ENVELOPES inside.*

*In the first, there was a CHEQUE  that was 10 TIMES  higher than the money on the table.*

*In the second, there was a DOCUMENT (Will)  that made him (whoever would choose The Qur'an), the HEIR to all the wealth of the Rich Man!*

*Faced with the Boy's emotion and the astonishment of the other servants, the Rich Gentleman opened The Qur'an 5:23 and read aloud so that everyone could hear:*

*"...And put your trust in Allah if you are believers indeed."*

*The fear of God  Almighty is pure, it subsists forever;*

*The judgments of Allah (SWT)  are true, they are all just.*

  *They are more precious than gold, than a lot of fine gold; They are sweeter than honey, than the one that pours rays.*

*May Allah (SWT) give us Wisdom and help us always make the Right Choice.*

Saturday, 15 December 2018

The adventure called Life

"I never sat on a sofa with my father and after my marriage, I had already left him.......

Many years ago, after I got married I was sitting on a couch on a hot, humid day, sipping frozen juice during a visit to my father.

As I talked about adult life, marriage, responsibilities and obligations, my father thoughtfully stirred the ice cubes in his glass and cast a clear, sober look at me.

"Never forget your friends," he advised, "they will become more important as you get older."

“Regardless of how much you love your family and the children you happen to have, you will always need friends. Remember to go out with them occasionally, do activities with them, call them ..."

"What strange advice!" I thought. I had just entered the married world, I am an adult and surely my wife and the family that we will start will be everything I need to make sense of my life.

Yet I obeyed him; kept in touch with my friends and annually increased their number. Over the years, I became aware that my father knew what he was talking about!

In as much as time and nature carry out their designs and mysteries on a man, friends are the bulwarks of his life.

After 50 years of life, here is what I learned:

Time passes.

Life goes on.

The distances increase.

Children grow up and become independent and although it breaks the parents' heart, they are often separated from them.

Jobs come and go.

Illusions, desires, attractions, sex ... weaken.

People do what they should not do.

Parents die.

Colleagues forget the favors.

The races are over.

But true friends are always there, no matter how long or how many miles away they are.

A friend is never more distant than the reach of a need, reaching out to you intervening in your favor, waiting for you with open arms or with blessings for your life.

When we started this adventure called LIFE, we did not know of the incredible joys or sorrows that were ahead.

We did not know how much we would need from one another. 

Love your parents..

Allah's mercy

Tuesday, 27 November 2018

I don't want to be loved anymore...

I dont want to be loved anymore

If to be loved is to cry tears of pain daily

I dont want to be loved anymore

If to be loved is to have my pain overlooked daily

I dont want to be loved anymore

If to be loved is to be blamed for every problem 

I don't want to be loved anymore

If to be loved is to be used and abused and discarded 

I don't want to be loved anymore

If to be loved is to be threatened to the point of suicide

.. Shaairah

I dont want to be loved anymore

Sunnah to Women

A very commonly reminded Sunnah to women by their husbands is the permission to marry more than one woman. Here are some of other relevant but very often forgotten and neglected Sunnahs:

1. It’s sunnah to marry older woman.

2. It’s sunnah to marry a divorcee.

3. It’s sunnah to marry a widow. 

4. It’s sunnah to help women in household chores i.e. cooking, cleaning, washing etc.. 

5. It’s sunnah to put food with your hand in your wife's mouth as an expression of love. (graded as a form of charity)

6. It’s sunnah to verbally express love, appreciation and respect to your wife. 

7. It’s sunnah to forgive her mistakes. 

8. It’s sunnah to keep yourself looking pleasant for your wife. 

9. It’s sunnah to try to know the feelings of your wife and console her when she needs it.

10. It's sunnah to be playful with your wife and spend quality time having fun together. (racing, story-telling, sharing happy occassions with her are some well-known examples)

11. It's sunnah to recline and relax in your wife's lap.

12. It's sunnah to call your wife with beautiful names.

13. It's sunnah to not disclose her private matters to other family members or friends.

14. It's sunnah to love and respect her parents


Mufthi Menk

Nouman Ali Khan



Read it!!

A boy said to his father “I saw a girl and I want to marry her. She is so beautiful and she has gorgeous eyes etc.” The father answered his son “of course son let’s ask for her hand in marriage”.

When the father saw the girl, he admired her beauty and he told his son “You don’t deserve this girls, she needs someone who has experience in life and she can depend on, someone like…me”.

The boy was surprised by the attitude of his father and he told him “She will marry me, not you!” They started to fight and finally they decided both to go to the police station to solve their problem.

When they told their story to the police officer, he told them “bring the girl so we can ask her opinion about this”. When the officer saw the beauty of the girl, he said to the boy and his father “you both don’t deserve her, she needs someone who has prestige…like me”.

All the 3 men started to fight. Finally, the girl said “I have the solution! I will start to run and whoever catches me first, he will be my husband”. All 3 men agreed. When she started to run. Suddenly the 3 men fell into a deep hole.

The girl looked to them from the top and she said “Do you know who I am?”

I am the Dunya – This World!!!

People are running after the fame, wealth & beauty of this world. By doing so they forget their real purpose of life till they finally end up in their graves and meet their creator. So realise the reality of life and amend your ways before it’s too late.

Super Burger

Had the pleasure of lunching at the Super Burger in Florida Road... Yummy crumbed chicken strip burgers... Totally delish 


The owner of a small business,

a friend of the great poet


met him on the street

& asked him, 

“Mr. Suryam, 

I need to sell my small farm,

the one u know so well,

could u please write an

announcement for me in the paper?”

Bilac wrote: 

For Sale: A beautiful property,

where birds sing at dawn in extensive woodland,

bi-sected by the brilliant &

sparkling waters of a large stream. The house is bathed by the rising sun. It offers tranquil shade in the evening on the veranda.

Some time later, the poet met his friend & asked whether he had sold the property, to which the man replied, 

“I’ve changed my mind. 

When I read what u had written, 

I realized the treasure that was mine.”

Sometimes we underestimate 

the good things we have & often take it all for granted. We chase after the mirages of false treasures & become blind to how blessed we truly are.

We often see people letting go of their wonderful children, their families, their spouse, their friends, their professions, their knowledge, their good health & the amazing memories of life that was accumulated over the years. They throw out all those priceless possessions which اللَّهُ Subhana wa Ta'ala has given them so freely in the mad pursuit of better & more wonderful.

How many homes have been broken with the expectation of the grass being greener on the other side...?

How many children have been cast aside because of mistakes & not living up to their parents expectations...?

How many professions have been cast asidè in pursuit of a better one which brought about more frustration & stress...?

How many are suffering from ill-health due to not valuing their good health..?

Look within & around u & appreciate what u have: ur Imaan ,ur free time ,ur loved ones,

the knowledge u have gained,

ur good health, &

all the beautiful things in life

that are truly ur most precious treasures which money can never buy.

"May we always teach our children not to seek after riches, but rather to learn about happiness & when they grow up,they will know the true value of life,

not the price of things."

Wearing the "divorce" label

This! !!✅✅💯

People think divorcees ARE the worst of people yet they forget that even the Daughters of the sahaba were divorced by her husband, a sahabi, who was promised JANNAAH, for being too harsh. Was she ridiculed or ostracized? No!

Why then do we do it to our sisters?! ALLAAH swt has made DIVORCE a solution NOT a punishment.

The mother of the believers Khadija (ra)was married twice and widowed both times; she had 3 children before she married Rasul ul Allaah (sallalaahu alayhi wa sallam), WERE they seen as a burden? NO!            They lived with them and were raised by Rasulullah (sallalahu alayhi wa sallam).

To the SISTER's wanting to flee abusive marriages there is NO evidence from the  Qur'an or sunnah that says a woman must stay even when she is suffering abuse.

Don't stress if you ARE divorced thinking YOU won't remarry. Men are supposed to compliment you NOT BE an added stress!

This poisonous thinking is cultural NOT ISLAMIC. The women of the past would be approached FOR marriage AS SOON AS their iddat was up. Rasul ul llaah (sallalaahu alayhi wa sallam's) own daughters were divorcees (they were married to the sons of Abu Lahab)! If it was always the woman's fault then why were they referred to as 'Light' when they married Uthman Ibn Affan?! He was known AS 'the possessor of the TWO lights' the "lights" being Ruqqayah and Umm Kulthum (Radiallahu Anhuma).

Please SHARE this and raise awareness about the TRUE BEAUTY OF ISLAM and NOT the cultural version.            Via ideal Muslimah fb

Monday, 26 November 2018

Sell with Rawson

Quick and easy Cheesecake

Fake friends

This is a true story about a woman who lived in India in the middle ages and had a pet snake, python, which she loved so much. The snake was 4 metres long and looked healthy . However, one day her pet snake just stopped eating .

This lack of appetite in the snake continued over a few weeks.. The desperate woman tried everything. Nothing worked. Finally woman took her loving pet to the vet as a last resort.

The vet listened to the woman carefully and asked,

Does your snake sleep with you at night, wrap around you closely and spread out its length?"

The woman was surprised and said yes yes he does, everyday. And it makes me so sad because I cannot help him.

Then the vet said something shocking and most unexpected "madam your snake is not sick, he is just preparing to eat you.

Every time he is creeping and hugging you,  wrapping around your body , it is sizing you up. And he is preparing him self for the attack , and yes , he doesn't eat in order to have enough space to digest you easily"

This story comes with a #Moral to everyone. 

You have friends that are close to you with whom you chat to 24/7 day and night; you're affectionate with, but they could have mean intentions.

You need to identify the snake around you and their true intentions. 

Hugs and Kisses are not always honest

Don't fear the enemy that attacks you, but fear the Fake friend that hugs you.

Saturday, 24 November 2018

❤True Love

Once there was an extremely rich King. This King had four wives or rather four Queens. Out of all these four Queens he loved the youngest one the most. The Wazeers (Ministers) would often comment that because she was the youngest she received the maximum amount of the King’s admiration and adoration. But the King had altogether a different reason for regarding her as his favourite.

One day the King called all his Wazeers and said to them, “I have come to know that you people think that I am being unfair to the other Queens because I give extra attention to the youngest one for the obvious reasons of her youthfulness. Tomorrow early in the morning I want you to come to my Durbar (court) where I intend to demonstrate to you why she deserves to be loved the most.

The next day the King ordered his workers to lay all his treasures wide open. Since the King was immensely wealthy the courtyard was full of his treasures that included, besides his lavish household goods and furniture, very expensive and intricately beautiful ornaments, jewellery, diamonds, rubies and pearls, clothes and plenty of cash.

He then summoned all his four Queens to come to the court. He announced to the Queens thus: “Today you can grab whatever you want from my treasures. You will be allocated a limited period of time within which whatever you will touch with your hands will be yours. Your time starts…NOW”

As soon as he said the word ‘NOW’ all the Queens, with exception of the youngest one, got into a frenzied rush to touch the maximum numbers of things. They frantically kept running from one end to the other in a bid to touch the maximum number of items. Special guards were placed there to make a note of every single object each Queen placed her hand on.

While all this was going on the youngest Queen stood there motionless. The King noticed it and he said to her, “What’s wrong with you? The time is running out and you are just standing there like a statue!”

The Queen smiled and said, “Will I get whatever I will touch?

The King, ‘Of course! That’s precisely what I have said. Come on, use your senses and act fast before it’s too late.”

On hearing this, the youngest Queen, cautiously taking her steps, moved towards the King’s throne. Almost everyone thought she was going for his diamond studded crown or his lavishly adorned throne. But to the bewilderment of all the people gathered there including the Wazeers, she gently picked the King’s right hand and with a tight grip she held it in both her hands. It was definitely an awe-inspiring moment and the King triumphantly looked at his band of Wazeers.

While the other three Queens tried to amass whatever they could lay their hands on, the wisest of them preferred just to have the King alone, knowing full well that if she got the King then whatever was his was automatically going to be hers.

Related above is a parable with a very profound message!

While we are all hankering after the treasures and pleasures of this world we keep on forgetting the Khaliq or the Creator of all these things. We get so busy amassing the temporary and materialistic things that we tend to forget the Mâlik al-Mulk, the Owner of all Sovereignty, the known and the unknown, the manifest and the hidden.

Coming closer to Him and winning His pleasure should be our sole purpose. We have been sent to this Duniya (temporary world) to make His ‘Ibadah and ‘Ibadah does not mean offering Salah, fasting, going for Hajj and giving Zakah alone. Besides performing these obligatory acts, ‘Ibadah is connected with the word ‘slavery‘. Thus ‘Ibadah means  ‘obedience with submission,  humility, and devotion to Allah alone with the ultimate love for Him.  It is  also something that comes from the heart with Ikhlas or purity and total sincerity.

Once your heart is linked with Allah it develops the following traits:

It is always remembering Allah.

It is always fearing Allah.

It is always humble to Allah.

It is always seeking Allah.

It is always repenting to Allah.

It develops an intense love for His Beloved Nabi Muhammad Sallallahu ‘alayhi wa Sallam and ardently follows his Sunnah.

It is attached to His  Kitaab, the Qur’an Kareem, reciting it as often as possibleIt does not despair whatever the conditions may beIt is constantly aware of the impending death. 

It is always concerned about the life of the Hereafter 

Let us solely be interested in gaining the pleasure  of Al-Khaliq (the Creator) and Al-Malik  (the Owner) of everything.

May Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala guide us to be linked to Him with all sincerity.

Wednesday, 14 November 2018

Beautiful sunrise.. Good morning from Durban

Let us fulfill your dreams...

Umrah class


🚫Do not put a question mark where Allah puts a full stop.

💞When praying, don't give Allah instructions, just report for duty.

💟We do not change Allah's message, His message changes us.

✨The Masjid is prayer-conditioned.

❤️When Allah ordains, He sustains.

💥Exposure to Allah may prevent burning.

✨Most people want to serve Allah, but only in an advisory position.

📖Suffering from truth decay? Brush up on your Qur'an. 

👣 Exercise daily, Walk to Allah

Wednesday, 31 October 2018

When realisations hit you too late...

They got married after a beautiful love story, and after two weeks the husband woke up to go to work. He went to the bathroom to wash his face, and in the mirror he saw his face full of drawings of different colors.

His wife was young, childish, and had an innocent heart. She scribbled on his face as he was sleeping, and she did so with a great love, that they would laugh about it in the morning.

The husband washed his face while upset, and went to the kitchen to drink the coffee which he usually does every morning. He did not find the coffee, and he became more upset, and went to her.

She smiled because she thought he would laugh at her, and say something romantic.

But he slapped her until she fell down, and yelled at her saying: "I did not marry you to play with you, I am a man and not a young child. I married you to start a family to have children, to be a man in the eyes of everyone. Do you want to live a love story of the films and those novels that you read? Wake up, these stories does not make a home, nor provide food, nor raise children. Today I will invite my friends for lunch, I want everything to be ready when I come back. Do you understand?"

He went out and saw himself as the master of the house. He left her broken, crying so hard that she could not breathe well.

She is sick and when she cries she almost breaks out.

Then she hurriedly went to prepare lunch, and tears did not leave her cheeks.

The husband went and told his friend what had happened while laughing:

"They think that marriage is all love and romance. This is how women should be treated, my friend, otherwise she will never learn responsibility. She will not be a good mother. She must know that marriage is not as she sees or reads about it. These are just stories to gain profits. They need to learn that marriage is not a game or a novel."

But fortunately his friend was not like him, he did not let him to finish his conversation, he cut him saying: "What kind of a man are you? Why are you so harsh on your wife? Is this how a good husband is supposed to be? The Messenger of Allah (May Allah's Blessings and Peace be upon him) said: (Be gentle with ladies, they are like glasses.)

You have to deal with them gently and be soft on them, and do not break their hearts. Blessings and Peace of Allah be upon him said: (This world is temporary joys, and the best temporary joy of this world is a righteous wife.)

Beware what you mentioned a little while ago about cooking and raising the children. It is not compulsory for her, but being nice to her will make her love you more, and be passion on you, and she will do all these without you telling her. You should know that she is not your maid. Go back to your senses my friend, and repent to Allah. Go back to your wife and honor her and do not make her sad again."

The husband felt sad and regretted what he did.

He then decided to call her to tell her that he had cancelled the lunch invitation of his friends, and to prepare lunch for them alone.

The phone rang but there was no answer.

He went back to the house quickly and rang the bell but no one answered.

He forgot his keys in the morning, because he came out while upset.

Suddenly his phone rang, it was his wife's brother.

His wife called his brother when she felt she was not well, to take her to the hospital.

His wife's brother said to him: "Brother, we are in the hospital."

His voice was full of sadness, which made the husband's heart almost to stop from fear, and the idea that something bad had happened to his wife.

He stopped the Taxi and went to the hospital, and found all her family there.

There was sadness on their faces.

He thought that they would be angry at him, but it seems they did not know what had happened.

He greeted them and waited for the doctor.

After several hours the doctor came out to them head down and told them: "With great sadness and sorrow, May Allah Have Mercy on her, the weakness of her heart came to us late."

Everyone cried, especially  the husband. He regretted and blamed himself.

Her mother washed her and she was buried the same day.

In the evening the husband returned home after taking the keys from the brother of his deceased wife.

He entered the house and found the table covered. He removed the cover and found the best delicious dishes, and saw a paper hanging on the door of the refrigerator.

It was written: 'My love, I am sorry because I wanted you to betray the customs and traditions of your community. I am sorry because I wanted you to get out of this stone heart of a man, and to hear from you some romantic words,  and tell me that you love me. Forgive me because of my childish mind I wanted you to treat me like a child. I hope your friends will like the food, and I promise that I will never make you sad or upset again. I promise you. I love you so much."

He looked at the table and threw the food everywhere, and sat down crying, crying and saying: "What did I do to you my love, I killed you with my cruelty, forgive me?"

These days, we dishonor a man who loves and spoils his wife. We have forgotten that, you are considered a great man if you have mercy on your wife, and it is also a Command of Allah.

Allah Says: {And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.}

Remember your wife is from yourself, when she is happy, you will live a happy life.

Know that building a happy home requires, Patience, Honesty and Love.

🌺🍃Have a pleasant day

copied 😥💔

Tuesday, 30 October 2018

Have you ever wondered...

An old man, probably some ninety plus years, sat feebly on the park bench. He didn’t mov ... just sat with his head down staring at his hands. When I sat down beside him, he didn’t acknowledge my presence. The longer I sat, I wondered if he was ok.

Finally, not really wanting to disturb him but wanting to check on him at the same time, I asked him if he was ok. He raised his head and looked at me and smiled. $Yes, I’m fine, thank you for asking", he said in a clear strong voice. 

"I didn’t mean to disturb you….but you were just sitting here staring at your hands and I wanted to make sure you were ok", I explained to him. 

"Have you ever looked at your hands", he asked ... "I mean really looked at your hands?"

I slowly opened my hands and stared down at them. I turned them over, palms up and then palms down. No, I guess I had never really looked at my hands as I tried to figure out the point he was making.

Then he smiled and related this story:

Stop and think for a moment about the hands you have, how they have served you well through out your years.

These hands, though wrinkled, shriveled and weak have been the tools I have used all my life to reach out and grab and embrace life.

They braced and caught my fall when as a toddler I crashed upon the floor.

They put food in my mouth and clothes on my back.

As a child my mother taught me to hold them in prayer. They tied my shoes and pulled on my boots.

They dried the tears of my children and caressed the love of my life.

They have been dirty, scraped and raw, swollen and bent.

They were uneasy and clumsy when I tried to hold my newborn son.

They wrote the letters home and trembled and shook when I buried my parents and spouse. 

Yet, they were strong and sure when I dug my friend out of a foxhole and lifted a plow off of my best friends foot.

They have held children, consoled neighbors, and shook in fists of anger when I didn’t understand.

They have covered my face, combed my hair, and washed and cleansed the rest of my body.

They have been sticky and wet, bent and broken, dried and raw. And to this day when not much of anything else of me works real well these hands hold me up, lay me down, and again continue to open in prayer.

These hands are the mark of where I’ve been and the ruggedness of my life.

But more importantly it will be these hands that will receive, The Book ofDeeds. I look, ponder and pray that OUR RIGHT HAND is blessed with the fortune of receiving the trials of this life ... i.e., MY BOOK OF DEEDS with this RIGHT HAND ... (Which will be given to everyone on the Day of Judgment for all their deeds done in this World as a record of all their actions. As for those who will be given the book of deeds in their right hand, they would read it with the expectation of receiving God’s Mercy and they would not be wronged or dealt with unjustly ... they will be given their reward in full (as promised by Allah).

“(And remember) the Day when We shall call together all human beings with their (respective) Imam (their Prophets), or their records of good and bad deeds, or their Books like the Quran, the Taurat (Torah), the Injeel (True Bible), etc.) ... So, whosoever is given his record in his right hand, they will read their records, and they will not be dealt with unjustly in the least.” (Qur’an 17:71)

No doubt I will never look at my hands the same again.

I never saw the old man again after I left the park that day but I will never forget him and the words he spoke. 

When my hands are hurt or sore or when I stroke the face of my children and wife, I think of the man in the park.

---SUBHANALLAH ... I won't be looking at my hands in the same way from now on.

 Subhanallah ... makes you think doesn't it...?

I, too, want for All of us to RECEIVE OUR BOOK OF DEEDS IN OUR RIGHT HAND-

In sha Allah let us try and be worthy of it by preparing for it now.

O ALLAH MOST PERFECT & GENEROUS! Make us give shukr (Thanks) for these hands

اَمِين يَا رَبَّ الْعَالَمِيْ

Tuesday, 18 September 2018

Become the MIL of the millennium!

⚡💥⚡!FLASH SALE!💥⚡💥

Book NOW for this course and get it at only R500!!!!! 

*Special ends tomorrow at midnight * Don’t delay!!!!


"Peace Begins With Me"


*"Mothers-in-law are made in Heaven"*

Are you a mother-in-law?

Inviting ALL ‘Mothers-in-law’ to join us for an interactive program designed especially to enhance, deepen and promote strong, meaningful and lasting relationships. 

Become the MIL of the millennium!

*Date:* Tuesday 2nd October 2018 InshaAllah 

*Time:* 9am - 2pm

              (9 - 9:30 Registration)

*Cost:* R750

*Including Lunch and Refreshments*

*Venue:* Sunkist Restaurant, 23 Lennox Road, Windermere 

*Course Facilitator:* 

Shehnaaz Randeree

(Registered Educator, Empowerment Counselor and Life Coach with over 15 years experience)

*📞For further enquiries or to book your space contact:*



_"Keep busy. It’s the cheapest kind of medicine there is.”_


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Wednesday, 15 August 2018


Shaykh YASIR QADHI (USA) returns back to DURBAN nearly after a decade away! He comes next month to teach Surah Yusuf like never before and it's buy 1 Ticket and get 1 Free! Before seats are sold out, book now below now:

The Lonely Dreamer: The Trials of Yusuf (as) in Light of Surah Yusuf (as) with Shaykh Yasir Qadhi (USA)

The story of Yusuf (as) is one of the most powerful and complete Surahs in the Qur’an filled with practical life lessons which almost every believer will face.

A voyage of a boy to a man, from Palestine leading to a slave becoming a ruler.

10 Life Lessons you will learn:

1) Betrayal: Why it occurs and how to deal with it?

2) Accused

3) Dreaming: The secrets of visions and interpretation

4) Acceptance

5) Envy

6) Parenting: Upbringing of children and dealing with parents who oppose you

7) Lust: Gender relations and the role of women in society

8) Loneliness

9) Leadership

10) Conflict

Price: £23.50, R400: Buy 1 ticket and get another ticket absolutely FREE!

Date: Saturday 22nd September 2018

Time: 10am-14:00pm

Venue: Durban (Full details on website)

For more info and to enrol, please visit: or contact: 0815108728

Men and Women Welcome

Thursday, 9 August 2018



Revisiting the concept of family in Islam

🌸WITH A SPECIAL FOCUS ON:  Quranic Scholarship and Females by Ustaadhah Ayesha Abrahams🌸

🎤 SPEAKERS AND TOPICS (in alphabetical order) 🎤 

• Amina Ngubane: Amina was born and bred at Willowfountain village in uMgungundlovu. She has worked for Sanzaf-PMB, Verulam Islamic Institute, IMA Baytul-Nur, UKZN and Unisa. She is a disability researcher and an activist.

o Preserving the Muslim family:  A convert’s journey

o To marry or not to marry – is it even a question?


• Ustaadhah Ayesha Abrahams: Ustaadhah Ayesha holds Sanad and Ijazah in the major ten Qira’at as well as the shadh Qira’at (anamolous readings).  She completed a four year course at the Darun Naim Institute for Higher Islamic Studies.  

o Opening Qira’ah on both days

o Talk:  Outstanding female scholars in the field of Qur’an

o Demonstration:  Importance of tajweed through the recitation of short surahs

o Talk:  Explanation of key concepts including Qira’at, Sanad and Ijazah

o Demonstration:  Different Qira’at


• Fatima Juma: Fatima is a skin and health specialist from Durban.  She lost her 12-year-old daughter, Ayesha, one and a half years ago.  Having experienced the healing process herself, she is passionate about assisting individuals who have lost their loved ones to attain a level of calmness and serenity in their lives.  A mother of two, she is excited about her future and what it holds for her.  

o My personal story of experiencing and dealing with loss


• Haafidh Fuzail Soofie: Haafidh Fuzail holds a traditional certificate in Islamic Sciences and has served the Muslim community in South Africa as a community leader, public speaker and writer since 1992.  His weekly educational talks prioritise the spiritual, traditional and scientific dimensions of Islam to meet the unique challenges of the modern era.  As the Imam of the Westville Soofie Mosque in Durban, he facilitates the institution’s pivotal role in the community and spearheads its various charitable projects and educational initiatives.  

o Factors leading to the breakdown of Muslim marriages


• Junaid Bayat: Junaid Bayat hails from Verulam in KwaZulu-Natal.  He is an author, speaker, trainer and lecturer on human performance.  His training is used globally and he is widely known for his Accelerated Learning study system and his contribution to education.  He has coached and trained over 110 000 students and over 10 000 parents and teachers in various topics ranging from parenting to understanding children’s personalities, learning styles and everything relating to millennials.  His vision is to “Transform Education.”

o    Raising a powerful family in the 21st century


• Quraysha Ismail Sooliman: Quraysha is a post doctorate research fellow in the Faculty of Humanities and Mellon Foundation Public Intellectual Project at the University of Pretoria.  She has also studied the Islamic Sciences intensively as is the host of Finding Me on ITV.  Her work includes a strong focus on kindness to animals and an awareness of the environment.  

o    The concept of family in Islam

o     The family and beyond: interrogating our position in the greater family of creation


• Suhaima Hoosen: Suhaima is a specialist family therapist and community advocacy expert.  She taught social work in the department of health sciences at the University of Kwazulu-Natal for 23 years.  She has presented papers and chaired sessions and numerous local and international conferences.  She currently works as a consultant for two international social welfare companies. She holds an honours degree in Social Work, a masters degree in Medical Science and a PhD in Policy Development.    

o    Issues faced by our elderly

o    Dealing with loss 


• Zaffar Ahmed: Zaffar is currently the Chairperson of the Association of Muslim Schools in KwaZulu-Natal, an executive member of the National Association of Muslim Schools, and the Deputy CEO of AWQAF South Africa. He is the principal of the high school at Al Falaah College, which he joined in 2009.  He obtained his teaching qualification (majoring in Accounting and Business Studies) cum laude from the University of Witwatersrand.  He later completed his MBA cum laude and received the Top MBA Student Award.

o Building Family Legacies in this world and the next through Waqf


☕️ THE HOSTS ☕️ 

Now in its seventh year, Muslimah Today is hosted by ILM for Women a branch of ILM-SA.

📌Co-sponsor: AWQAF-SA

📌Sponsors: Al-Ikhlaas Guesthouse, Amka, Azam Khan’s of Reservoir Hills, Impress, Osmans Spice World, RV Brand & Design and SASOL on NMR

📰Media Partners: Muslimah Lifestyle, Tabloid Newspapers and The Weekly Gazette 



Date: Saturday and Sunday the 15 and 16 September 2018, in sha Allah

Times: Saturday – 8:30am to 5.50pm, Sunday – 9:30am to 5pm

Venue: University of KwaZulu-Natal Westville Campus Senate Chamber

Cost: R400 for the entire weekend, including lunch and tea on both days and a goodie bag

💟Our sponsorship policy💟Muslimah Today is intended to be accessible to women from all walks of life.  We understand that it may not be possible for everyone to afford the conference fee.  We therefore strive to acquire full or partial sponsorships for women who require them.  These are implemented through an application process.  Feel free to enquire about applying for a sponsorship.  Also, feel free to enquire about sponsoring a delegate.


1. Send a WhatsApp to 083 271 4500 or an email to

2. We’ll then send you a short registration form as well as payment details

3. Once you return the completed form and provide us with proof of payment, your place will be       secured in sha Allah.  

4. Deadline for registering:  Thursday, 13th September, 8.30am

5. Telephonic queries may be directed to our office at 031 207 6155



“Muslimah Today is one of the rare Durban events that ladies attend alone and they leave, bonded, as sisters. It is a great start for those who have never attended an event of this calibre, and always on the yearly bucket list for those of us who return year after year. Irrespective of where you are in your life, spiritual or emotional aspirations - Muslimah Today will present you with something to take into your life and enrich it. It is an amazing platform for unity and to grow in sisterhood. Gift yourself something special by attending this year, it will undoubtedly be your first of many to come. Insha'Allah. Wishing the organizers, speakers and all those involved a successful event. They outdo themselves on every level. Hope to see you there!” (Hasina Suliman)

“My eyes were full of tears every time a speaker, spoke - while I videoed or photographed them” (Nabihah Desai-Plaatjes)

“The Muslimah Today conference is the highlight of my calendar. It's time for me to be inspired and meet old friends and make new friends, every moment learning beautiful gems. We are always being introduced to new awesome talented sisters. I cannot put into words how much I look forward for our conference. Love you Fatima for tirelessly striving with Azra and everyone to ensure we are blooming.  Muslimah Today is like Zam Zam to my soul.” (Fahmida Jagot)

“I have attended virtually every single Muslimah Today conference since it was launched and was also invited to speak at one of the sessions. It’s a great networking opportunity, the energy and vibe is awesome and it’s also a safe space for us as Muslimahs to discuss difficult and sensitive issues between us. I always have great conversations with my fellow sisters and catch up with those I have not seen in a while. I highly recommend attending it as it’s a wonderful opportunity to learn and socialise at the same time.”  (Lubna Nadvi)

“Have been to other conferences...Muslimah Today is unique. It’s an authentic, sincere, inspiring, moving space. Keeps it real...and so rewarding.” (Mariam Jhaveri)

“As a young student I look forward to this event every year.  Alhamdulillah, it is such a blessing to be amongst women from different ethnic backgrounds that share a common goal with you and that is to learn, be inspired and motivated. Being a part of this conference is like a little get away from the hassle of life. It's some "me time" to be amongst your sisters, just sit back and relax. Usually people think such conferences are just a money making scheme and is usually boring however I can confidently say that Muslimah Today is NOT one of them. Alhamdulillah the speakers are really interesting.  This is a fantastic initiative, I highly encourage sisters from all walks of life to join us in shaa Allah as well as encourage and bring along the youth as well. It is most definitely an uplifting weekend that will not only touch your heart but your soul as well. Looking forward to seeing some new faces this year.” (Homairah Mohamed)

Tuesday, 31 July 2018

Rbj accessories

Shaiks Rattle & roll

Jimmys killer prawns

Empire Electrical

Arabic calligraphy classes

G9211 Projects

Zarin Relaxing Beauty

Qurbani 2018

Bedroom Beauties Sale

The Address

Gym 313

Yasmin Mogahed