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Sunday, 19 May 2019

Properties on the Golden mile

Arabic Calligraphy course

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I'm a Survivor...

Today on the 13th of Ramadan at the age of 12 I was abused and molestered by a man that was supposed to have been my guardian.. 


He took away what I didn't even know existed, I cried in pain, crawled to the bathroom covered in my own blood taking the little dignity I had left to try and clean myself up.. 


I cried myself to sleep every night for 2 years there after, couldn't look at my body in the mirror until I turned 20 and felt dirty and disgusting all the time..


This man destroyed my youth, my innocence and my perception of every single man I've seen since.. 


I suffered from trust issues, started hanging out with the wrong crowd, lost myself and felt absolutely worthless.. 


I attempted suicide 5 times and made it out alive every single time. 


After my 5th suicide attempt at the age of 16, I knew that there was a reason why I never died.. There was a reason I was supposed to be alive.. I didn't know what it was yet but I was determined to stay alive and find out. 


I started channeling my anger into positive, started working with youth and talking about my story and how I survived it, started running a youth show talking about the issues that affect us as youth everyday. I started building confidence in myself again, started loving myself again and started learning how to trust others again as well.. 


Its been a long road and today, 18 years later, I have finally forgiven the man that I've hated for so long..

If I don't forgive him, how can I expect the Almighty to forgive me for all my flaws?? 


I've been fighting this demon for so long but today I will not break down.. 

Today, I will not let him win.. 

Today, I will take back all my power.. 

Today, I will start living.. 


To every single woman that is going to read this and is a survivor, take your power back today!! Its hard but not impossible.. 


To every single woman that has not been through this, thank the Almighty every single day.. I wouldn't wish this trauma and pain on my worst enemy.. 


To every single man that's going to read this, think twice before doing anything stupid like this.. It destroys lives.. Trust me, I know..


To the man that has now come into my life, know that I have flaws. I didn't give anything up, it was taken away from me. If you can love me past that, I will love you with everything I have..


This post is real.. 

This is my story.. 


Today I can proudly say that my name is Zaakirah Mohamed and I'm a SURVIVOR!!!!


#IAM 

#ConciousBeliever

Saturday, 18 May 2019

Eid Bazaar

BEWARE OF THE LEAKING BUCKET!



1. You wear abaya and hijāb but with perfume and makeup. ( a leaking bucket )


2. You're following the Sunnah and have a beard but you don't lower your gaze. (A leaking bucket)


3. You pray all of your prayers on time but you have no khushū at all. (A leaking bucket)


4. You're very kind to people and speak with them gently but with your family you're always harsh. (A leaking bucket)


5. You honour and treat your guests well but when they leave, you gossip about them and talk about their flaws. (A leaking bucket)


6. You give alot of sadaqah to the poor but you humiliate them and hurt them. (A leaking bucket)


7. You stand up for tahajjud at night, fast and reads Qur'ān everyday but you cut your family ties. (A leaking bucket)


8. You fast and have sabr for the pangs of hunger and thirst but you swear, insult, curse. (A leaking bucket)


9. You help others but you're doing it to gain something from them and not doing those acts of kindness for the sake of Allāh's Glory. (A leaking bucket)


10. You post reminders and have thousands of followers on facebook and instagram but you're doing it for the fame, not to please Allah. (A leaking bucket)


Do not gather all your good deeds in a leaking bucket. 

You struggle to fill it whilst it easily runs out through the leaking holes!


May Allāh make us do all of good actions for pleasing HIM alone and may HE be pleased with us always.

Wednesday, 15 May 2019

What is....

Some beautiful answers and way of thinking of Turkish poet Jalaluddin Rumi, that I cannot resist sharing...


What Is Poison ? ? ?

He Replied With A Beautiful Answer - AnyThing Which Is More Than Our Necessity Is Poison. It May Be Power, Wealth, Hunger, Ego, Greed, Laziness, Love, Ambition, Hate Or AnyThing.


What Is Fear ? ? ?

Non Acceptance Of Uncertainty.

If We Accept That Uncertainty, It Becomes Adventure.


What Is Envy ?

Non Acceptance Of Good In Others, If We Accept That Good, It Becomes Inspiration.


What Is Anger ? ? ?

Non Acceptance Of Things Which Are Beyond Our Control.

If We Accept, It Becomes Tolerance.


What Is Hatred ? ? ?

Non Acceptance Of Person As He Is. If We Accept Person Unconditionally, It Becomes Love. 😊 😊

Eid Bazaar

Love is Bilal...

Love is Bilal... when he retired from making the adhan after the death of the Prophet SAW because he called the Prophet to prayer when he was alive, and could not stand to do so without him.


Love is Bilal... when he left Madinah because he could not stand to stay there where everything reminded him of the Beloved SAW.


Love is Bilal... when a long time had passed since he visited the Prophet's grave in Madinah, the Prophet SAW came up to him in his dream and said, "what is with this dryness/ distance, oh Bilal?"


Love is Bilal... arriving in Madinah in the middle of the night and Hassan and Hussain finding him at the maqam of the Prophet SAW crying and them insisting that he, for old time's sake, make the adhan for the impending fajr prayer, causing an uproar that morning in Madinah as people therein poured out of their homes weeping in RasulAllah's memory, in hope that maybe, just maybe, the Prophet had come back to them.


Love is Bilal... when Umar ibn al Khattab asked him to make the adhan calling the army in Sham to prayer, he reached till "Ashhadu anna Muhammadan Rasul Allah" and began to weep uncontrollably, unable to finish the adhan, causing the entire army to tear up- Umar being the most emotional of them all. 


Love is Bilal... on his deathbed suffering from the pangs of death, with his family weeping for him, while he cried out in poetry to his family gathered around him, " Tomorrow I meet the beloveds// Muhamamad and his companions"


Love is Bilal.


SubhanAllah.

Saturday, 11 May 2019

Allah's mercy...

Do Not Despair of Allah's Mercy...


It was Ramadaan. The Haram was absolutely jam packed…..it seemed almost like Hajj.

But that day I thought I could beat the crowds. I wanted to pray in the courtyard in front of the Kaa’ba. I thought if I could get there in the middle of the day, right after Dhuhr, I could probably go before every body else and find a good spot to pray.

So instead of praying in my usual spot, I decided to head for the courtyard.

However I had walked only a few feet when I realized my mistake. The courtyard was already full. Everyone had already taken their places for Salaah and there was no way I could even dream of finding a spot there.

So I decided to go back.


But that was also an utterly fruitless effort. People had already gathered behind me in a long line and there was no chance for me to go back. I looked hopelessly to my right and then to my left but, to my dismay, all I could see were rows and rows of men and there was absolutely no place to go.

I was stuck.


And then to my dismay they called the Adhaan. And it was then that I started to panic. All I wanted to do was to find a nice spot to pray, but here I was, stuck in the middle of the crowds with absolutely no place to even move an inch!

How could I pray at that spot in the middle of all the men?!! A feeling of urgent desperation overcame me…….Shaytaan started to play with my mind and I started to despair.


How unfortunate I was! Here I am….standing in the middle of the Haram…. in Ramadaan….. wanting to pray ….. and yet I can’t!


And it’s all because of my previous sins, I sadly thought to myself. All the mistakes of my flawed past came rushing to my mind…….I thought of the many times I had disobeyed Allaah, the way I had broken His Laws….the times I didn’t value His Limits…how I did not practice Islaam the way I was supposed to.

I felt that Allaah had rejected me and didn’t think of me as even worthy of praying 4 Rakaah in His Masjid. He has deprived me of the Taufeeq and the honor to pray at His House, the Kaa’ba.

I felt weak, miserable, hopeless and depressed.

And then, all of a sudden, I looked up…..and then I gasped. For, up on one of the pillars of the Masjid, an Ayah of the Qur’aan was inscribed….. the most beautiful Ayah that I had ever read in my entire life!

It was an Ayah that I felt was written there for ME…….it was meant to be read by ME.

My heart was absolutely overcome and I started to cry.

It was from Surah az-Zumar Ayah 53. It said:


قُلْ يَا عِبَادِيَ الَّذِينَ أَسْرَفُوا عَلَى أَنفُسِهِمْ لَا تَقْنَطُوا مِن رَّحْمَةِ اللَّهِ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يَغْفِرُ الذُّنُوبَ جَمِيعًا إِنَّهُ هُوَ الْغَفُورُ الرَّحِيمُ


“Say: ‘O My worshipers, who have sinned excessively against themselves, DESPAIR NOT of the Mercy of Allah! Verily, Allah forgives all sins. He is the Forgiver, the Most Merciful.”


Subhaan Allaah!

Can there be an Ayah more beautiful than this??!!


Seeing the Ayaah right there, just when I needed it the most was just too much for me. I cried and I cried.

I had the irresistible urge to prostrate to Allaah Subhaanahu wa Ta’ala right then and there and beg Him to forgive me….beg Him to overlook my mistakes and shortcomings. How ungrateful I was!

For indeed it is His Mercy that encompasses all. And it is His Mercy that forgives all.

All it takes from us is one sincere repentance and He will forgive us.

After all, isn’t He ar-Rahmaan and ar-Raheem?


No matter how big the sin or sins that you have committed, no matter what your past has been like, if you come back to Him with one sincere, sincere Tauba, coming from the heart, He will forgive you.

Wallaahi, I swear by Allaah, He will.


The Prophet said:


“Allaah says, ‘O son of Adam, so long as you call on Me and put your hope in Me, I will forgive whatever you have done, and I will not mind. O son of Adam, even if your sins were to reach the clouds of the sky, then you were to seek My forgiveness, I would forgive you and I will not mind. O son of Adam, if you were to come to me with an earthful of sins, and you were to meet Me not associating anything in worship with Me, I will come to you with an earthful of forgiveness.'” (Tirmidhi– hasan).


Allaahu Akbar! Surely, the Bounty of Allaah is immense and He is the Most Merciful of those who show mercy. His Mercy is the greatest……greater than His Wrath and greater than the greatest of our sins.

Indeed He is more merciful to us than a mother towards her child. So never, ever despair or lose hope. If you repent sincerely, it will wipe out whatever came before it.


“O you who believe! Turn to Allaah with sincere repentance! It may be that your Lord will expiate from you your sins, and admit you into Gardens under which rivers flow.” (Surah at-Tahreem:8)


And he said:


“Allaah spreads out His hand at night to accept the repentance of those who committed sins during the day, and He spreads out His hand during the day to accept the repentance of those who committed sins during the night. (He will continue to do this) until the sun rises from the West.” (Muslim).


In fact, Allaah rejoices over the repentance of His slaves even though He is in no need of their obedience. He tells us that He loves the one who repents.


“Truly, Allaah loves those who turn unto Him in repentance and loves those who purify themselves” (Surah al-Baqarah:222)


So repent sincerely, ask Allaah to forgive you, no matter how bad it was and do not repeat the sin. Have full hope in Allaah’s Mercy that Allaah will forgive you.


‘The one who repents from sin is like one who did not sin.'” (Ibn Maajah– hasan by al-Albaani)


And if you are tested with any kind of sin, do not speak openly of it. That is because the Prophet said:


“The believer will be brought close to his Lord until He conceals him and makes him confess his sin. Allaah will say, ‘Do you remember such and such a sin?’ The man will say, ‘Yes, I admit it.’ The Lord will say, ‘I concealed it for you in the world and I forgive you for it today.’ ” (Bukhaari, Muslim).


Be aware of the Greatness of the One against Whom you are sinning, seek forgiveness for your sins, weep for the error of your past ways and adhere strictly to the path of Allaah. And do beware of despairing of the Mercy of Allaah. It is one of the traps of Shaytaan.


“And who despairs of the mercy of his Lord, but those who go astray?” (Surah al-Hijr:56)


If you adhere properly to the religion of Allaah, you will have glad tidings of goodness in this world and in the Hereafter.


رَبِّ اغْفِرْ وَارْحَمْ وَأَنْتَ خَيْرُ الرَّاحِمِينَ


“Rabbi’ghfir wa’rham wa anta khayru’l-raahimeen

(My Lord! Forgive and show mercy, for You are the Best of those who show mercy!)” (Surah al-Mu’minoon :118)


- Sister Asma bint Shameem

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Friday, 10 May 2019

Drink pink..

Feed your soul this Ramadaan

Ten secrets for a happy married life 😍


💞 Secret 1

Everyone you marry has a weakness. Only Allah does not have a weakness. So if you focus on your spouse's weakness you can't get the best out of his/her strength.


💞 Secret 2

Everyone has a dark history. No one is an angel. When you get married or you want to get married stop digging into someone's past. What matters most is the present life of your partner. Old things have passed away. Forgive and forget. Focus on the present and the future.


💞 Secret 3

Every marriage has its own challenges. Marriage is not a bed of roses. Every good marriage has gone through its own test of blazing fire. True love proves in times of challenges. Fight for your marriage. Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in times of need. Remember the vow For better for worse. In sickness and in health be there.


💞 Secret 4

Every marriage has different levels of success. Don't compare your marriage with anyone else. We can never be equal. Some will be far, some behind. To avoid marriage stresses, be patient, work hard and with time your marriage dreams shall come true.


💞 Secret 5

To get married is declaring war. When you get married you must declare war against enemies of marriage. Some enemies of marriage are:

Ignorance 

Prayerlessness

Unforgiveness 

Third-party influence 

Stinginess

Stubbornness 

Lack of love 

Rudeness

Laziness 

Disrespect 

Cheating 

Be ready to fight to maintain your marriage zone.


💞 Secret 6

There is no perfect marriage. There is no ready-made marriage. Marriage is hard work. Volunteer yourself to work daily on it. Marriage is like a car that needs proper maintenance and proper service. If this is not done it will break down somewhere exposing the owner to danger or some unhealthy circumstances. Let us not be careless about our marriages. 


💞 Secret 7

Allah doesn't give you a complete person you desire. He gives you the person in the form of raw materials in order for you to mold the person that you desire. This can only be achieved through prayer, love, and Patience


💞 Secret 8

Getting married is taking a huge risk. You can not predict what will happen in the future. Situations may change so leave room for adjustments. A husband can lose his good job or a wife may fail to have babies. All these require you to be prayerful otherwise you might divorce.


💞 Secret 9

Marriage is a contract. It is meant to be life long. It needs total commitment. Love is the glue that sticks the couple together. Divorce start in the mind and the devil feeds the mind. Never ever entertain thoughts of getting a divorce. Never threaten your spouse with divorce. Choose to remain married. Allah dislikes divorce.


💞 Secret 10

Every marriage has a price to pay. Marriage is like a bank account. It is the money that you deposit that you withdraw. If you don't deposit love, peace, and care into your marriage, you are not a candidate for a blissful home.


So today let us pray for our marriages and ask Allah to help us where we are lacking in the marriage. Send to those you care about because you never know who you may be helping. 


May Allah bless you all..


Aameen 💕

Sunday, 5 May 2019

“It’s just my character.”

A scorpion, being a very poor swimmer, asked a turtle to carry him on his back across a river. 

“Are you mad?” exclaimed the turtle. “You’ll sting me while I’m swimming and I’ll drown.”


“My dear turtle,” laughed the scorpion, “if I were to sting you, you would drown and I would go down with you. Now where is the logic in that?”


“You’re right!” cried the turtle. “Hop on!” The scorpion climbed aboard and halfway across the river gave the turtle a mighty sting. As they both sank to the bottom, the turtle resignedly said:


“Do you mind if I ask you something? You said there’d be no logic in your stinging me. Why did you do it?”


“It has nothing to do with logic,” the drowning scorpion sadly replied. 

“It’s just my character.”


So it is with some humans too. No matter how nice or good you maybe to them, its just their nature and character to sting ( betray, rob, cheat, hurt, kill, blackmail etc) for no reason.


May Allah deliver us from such scorpions...🤲

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Saturday, 4 May 2019

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The meaning of hijab from the Quran.


After colonization, the hijab, for the first time, became a contentious issue among Muslims. The colonizers saw it as a symbol of our oppression, then the Islamists turned it around and made it into a symbol of our freedom. Some question the veil altogether. But the hijab is much more than a socio-political issue, so let's return to the Quran and try to understand the concept.


The first verse is 24:31, which tells believing women to (1) lower their gaze, (2) guard their private parts, (3) to not expose their beauty except that which is apparent by necessity, (4) to draw their khimar over their cleavage, (5) to not stamp their feet, ringing their anklets (which had little bells in those days) to draw attention to themselves.


Some here say "aha! There's no mention of a headcovering", forgetting that a khimar in Arabic is precisely a headscarf. According to Quranic exegetes, before this verse was revealed, Arab women would wear a flowing scarf on their head, and drape it behind their backs, exposing their necks and upper chest. This was done after the manner of the Nabateans of Northern Arabia and Iraq. The verse therefore mandates that women were to take their khimar and close it from the front as well. Every traditional Islamic legal school requires a headcovering (among other coverings) for free Muslim women.


What is the reasoning provided in the Quran? 33:59 provides two explicit reasons:


(1) So that they may be recognized. Clothing is a source of identification, and when a woman wears a khimar, we know what her rights are. There are specific laws in Islam pertaining to ritual purity, food, marriage, charity, testimonies, status, and crime where the religion of a person matters - so the khimar allows people to recognize her religion without bothering her. Part of this recognition may also be a way to raise society's moral standards, identifying the muhajjiba as a free, respectful, trustworthy woman who should not tolerate injustice or base degeneracy in her surroundings. It is also a means for da`wa - many people use the khimar as a conversation ice-breaker.


(2) So that they may not be harassed. Of course covered sisters still face harassment, catcalling, and even rape, all of which is reprehensible. But this verse associates harassment with clothing. Of course, no woman should be harassed because of their clothing. But we know that harassment is not just motivated by "power" hunger, but by visual stimulus - according to the US Department of Justice, the overwhelming majority of female victims of sexual violence are young adults and teenagers; not children and the elderly. We also know that clothing has communicative intent; it is a means by which many people explicitly or subtly broadcast their sexuality. In the same way we dress a certain way to a job interview to give a certain impression, your clothing is a message and a presentation. So in a society where women dress promiscuously, and expect men to also "make the first move" and be "confident and assertive", they will absolutely attract looks, stares, comments, awkward conversations, sleazy pick-up artists, DM slides, and other forms of unwanted attention. Many women will attest that what they wear effects how people react to them in public.


The purpose of clothing in the Quran is to project elegance and cover shame and nakedness (7:26). In all instances, the hijab protects something sensitive from those who have not demonstrated a sincere connection to it. It prevents both intentional and accidental harm from coming to the object of value. Only those who have demonstrated a sincerity to the gem beyond the barrier can access its excellence. 


The highest form of hijab is Allah’s. The hijab of Allah is Light. Allah’s Light is simultaneously both guidance to Him and a barrier between the creation and His Essence. On the Day of Mi`raj, Allah raised His Prophet (s) nearer than two bow lengths to His divine presence (53:9), passed the Light that Jibra’il could not permeate, all the way up to Sidrat al-Muntaha. The mi`raj was the ultimate unveiling to the sincerest servant of the divine.


The hijab therefore is not just purely a horizontal (dunyawi) phenomenon, it is a vertical symbol that connects the celestial world (samawat) and the material world (ard). And so the ideal hijab is one that inspires guidance, but also preserves mystery from the unwanted outsider. And what is better to say than the fact that the verse of hijab was mentioned in Surat al-Noor, the chapter of Light…


Some of our sisters are not spiritually ready for the khimar. My advice to those sisters is to be patient, understand the meaning of the veil, and make those steps towards it. You can start by limiting your privacy settings on social media, and deleting unnecessary pictures. This can be a first step towards humility, as it takes some to delete pictures with many likes and “encouraging” comments. Then they can start gowning the veil at certain settings. Then finally, once your imaan is up and shaytan is gone, take advantage of the moment and gown it with confidence. Allah will assist you with your effort and reward your abundantly. Remember that this world is fleeting and insatiable, and that which is with Allah is everlasting and fulfilling. May Allah forgive us all for our shortcomings.


“We have not sent down to you the Qur'an that you be distressed, but only as a reminder for those who fear.” (20:2-3)

Be Authentic in an Artificial world


Written by Naadira Chhipa

A young lady perhaps 17years of age recently messaged me to ask me a very disturbing question. A question that stirred my soul as I read her message I began to cry. 


She asked me a question that every young mind on social media is questioning. 


Are the lives of social media influencers real?  Does the true meaning of happiness, success and contentment in adulthood lie in fancy clothing, designer bags, flashy cars, luxurious vacations every month and make overs everyday? Does popularity, exposure, body image and appearance mean all to the women I look up to who are old enough to be my mum? Is this what I should aspire to become? I see happiness embracing them through materialism so is it true that money can also make me as happy, popular and loved by all.


This is the sad reality our children are faced with everyday. Yes we tell them to find role models in our Sahaabia(R.A) not these instagram models but how often are they opening an Islamic history book compared to login onto social media? We tell them that these women are showcasing a piece of their lives not the entire puzzle but everyday seems to be picture perfection updated. We tell them to unfollow and block these type of influencers but everyday there are new models on the market. 


So I told her what I would have wanted to hear if I was a teenager.


Life is not picture perfect. Their reality is far from what you see in a moment in time. When Allah blew life into us each soul has challenges we know not of. Every person you see or meet is facing a challenge that is unique to them. Wealth, clothing, designer bags and flashy cars are also a test for them. Remember death knows of no age, beauty or status but rather we all end up decomposing into the soil, dressed in the same white kafan. Do you know what lives on? Our goodness, our character, our humility, our kindness, our smile, our memories, our deeds and our light that illuminated the heart, mind and soul in others. So do not be despondent, sad or feel inferior when you look at those perfect lives as you have no idea what their struggles are, you may be shocked to know you have less worries, anxiety and despair than they do. Materialism is not a synonym for happiness but rather happiness is always within you. Aspire to become close to Allah, to befriend Allah, to have a special communication and connection to your Lord and to be auntenic in an artificial world.-Naadira Chhipa

 You are amazing just the way you are.

WHO *PUSHED* ME"


🐊

A man had one very beautiful daughter. When the daughter was ready for marriage, the father sent news around town that all the eligible young men should come to compete in a test which would determine who was fit to marry his daughter.

🐊

On that day, all was set, all the able-bodied young men came out. Some came with paper and biro and others with cutlasses and swords.

🐊

The rich man took them to his swimming pool and addressed the men: “Any of you who can swim from one end of this swimming pool to the other would marry my daughter.

🐊

In addition, I‘ll give him 15 million dollars, a car and a house so they can start life well. I shall be waiting to meet my son-in-law at the other end. Good luck!”

🐊

As the young men, all very excited at the prospect of winning, started taking off their shirts, a helicopter came over the pool and dropped alligators and crocodiles into the pool. Immediately, all the men turned back and started wearing their shirts again. Disappointed, some of them said, ''That's crazy, let's see who would marry that girl, no one will''.

🐊

All of a sudden, they heard a splash in the pool. Everybody watched in amazement as one gentleman waddled across, expertly avoiding the alligators and crocodiles.

🐊

Finally, he made it to the other side. The rich man could not believe it. He asked the young man to name anything he wanted but the man was still panting uncontrollably.

🐊

🤦🏻‍♂Finally, he got back to his senses and made a request saying, ''SHOW ME THE PERSON WHO PUSHED ME INSIDE THIS POOL!''

🐊

Moral 1:✍

You don’t know what you are capable of doing until you are PUSHED! Meanwhile, the Crocodiles were Rubber Crocodiles.

Moral 2: ✍

Those seeking to push you into the jaws of alligators and crocodiles may have helped you to reach your promised land!!!

🐊

Sometimes it takes going through the bad moments to bring out the BEST in us.

🐊

Trials are raw materials for Triumphant Testimonies... The push might take different dimensions: some people needed to be sacked before realizing their potentials and reaching their goals in life.

🐊

I PRAY YOU WILL GET A DIVINELY INSPIRED PUSH in your life.🐊

🙏🏻God Bless you as you accept the Push to go for the fulfilment of your purpose in life.

P- Persist 👇🏼

U- Until

S- Something

H- Happens

Will you please *PUSH* this message to someone else?🔥🔥🔥🔥🙏🙏⚓️⚓️

Friday, 3 May 2019

Silent tears...

Somewhere there is a woman: she is 30, no children. People ask her, “Still no kids?” Her response varies from day to day, but it usually includes forced smiles and restraint. “Nope, not yet,” she says with a chuckle, muffling her frustration. “Well, don’t wait forever. That clock is ticking, ya know,” the sage says before departing, happy with herself for imparting such erudite wisdom. The sage leaves. The woman holds her smile. Alone, she cries…


Cries because she’s been pregnant 4 times and miscarried every one. Cries because she started trying for a baby on her wedding night, and that was 5 years ago. 


Cries because her husband has an ex-wife and she has given him children. Cries because she wants desperately to try in vitro but can’t even afford the deposit. Cries because she’s done in vitro (multiple rounds) and still has no children. 


Cries because her best friend wouldn’t be a surrogate. “It would be too weird,” she said. Cries because her medication prevents pregnancy. Cries because this issue causes friction in her marriage. 


Cries because the doctor said she’s fine, but deep inside she knows it’s her. Cries because her husband blames himself, and that guilt makes him a hard person to live with. Cries because all her sisters have children. 


Cries because one of her sisters didn’t even want children. Cries because her best friend is pregnant. Cries because she got invited to another baby shower. Cries because her mother keeps asking, “Girl, what are you waiting on?” Cries because her in-laws want to be grandparents. Cries because her neighbor has twins and treats them awful. 


Cries because 16-year-olds get pregnant without trying. Cries because she’s an amazing aunt. Cries because she’s already picked out names. Cries because there’s an empty room in her house. Cries because there is an empty space in her body. Cries because she has so much to offer. Cries because he’d be a great dad. Cries because she’d be a great mother, but isn’t.

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Somewhere else is another woman: 34, five children. People say to her, “Five? Good lord, I hope you’re done!” And then they laugh… because those types of comments are funny. The woman laughs too, but not in earnest. She changes the subject, as she always does, and gives the disrespect a pass. Just another day. Alone, she cries…


Cries because she’s pregnant with another and feels like she has to hide the joy. Cries because she always wanted a big family and doesn’t see why people seem so disturbed by it. 


Cries because she has no siblings and felt profoundly lonely as a child. Cries because her Granny had 12 and she’d love to be just like her. Cries because she couldn’t imagine life without her children, but people treat her like they’re a punishment. Cries because she doesn’t want to be pitied. Cries because people assume this isn’t what she wanted. Cries because they assume she’s just irresponsible. 


Cries because they believe she has no say. Cries because she feels misunderstood. Cries because she’s tired of defending her private choices. Cries because she and her husband are perfectly capable of supporting their family but that doesn’t seem to matter. Cries because she’s tired of the “funny” comments. 


Cries because she minds her own business. Cries because she wishes others would mind theirs. Cries because sometimes she doubts herself and wonders if she should have stopped two kids ago. Cries because others are quick to offer criticism and slow to offer help. Cries because she’s sick of the scrutiny. 


Cries because she’s not a side show. Cries because people are rude. Cries because so many people seem to have opinions on her private life. Cries because all she wants to do is live in peace.

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Another woman: 40, one child. People say to her, “Only one? You never wanted any more?”

“I’m happy with my one,” she says calmly, a rehearsed response she’s given more times than she can count. Quite believable. No one would ever suspect that alone, she cries…


Cries because her one pregnancy was a miracle. Cries because her son still asks for a brother or sister. Cries because she always wanted at least three. Cries because her second pregnancy had to be terminated to save her life. Cries because her doctor says it would be “high-risk.” Cries because she’s struggling to care for the one she has. 


Cries because sometimes one feels like two. Cries because her husband won’t even entertain the thought of another. Cries because her husband died and she hasn’t found love again. Cries because her family thinks one is enough. Cries because she’s deep into her career and can’t step away. Cries because she feels selfish. 


Cries because she still hasn’t lost the weight from her from her first pregnancy. Cries because her postpartum depression was so intense. Cries because she can’t imagine going through that again. 


Cries because she has body issues and pregnancy only exacerbates it. Cries because she still battles bulimia. Cries because she had to have a hysterectomy. Cries because she wants another baby, but can’t have it.

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These women are everywhere. They are our neighbors, our friends, our sisters, our co-workers, our cousins. They have no use for our advice or opinions. Their wombs are their own. 


Written by Nadirah Angail via The Pink Elephants Support Network ❤❤❤


#miscarriage #miscarriagematters 

#grief #circleofsupport #pregnancyloss

Wednesday, 1 May 2019

Ramadaan Program

The Address

Ladies Tea

Divorce..

By Raeesa Padia

 

Getting a divorce and returning to your parents home, feels like a disgrace, an insult to yourself as well as your family's reputation. You feel ashamed, embarrassed, furious, broken.


Months go by and you find yourself back into the darkness. 

You think negative, dream negative, live every moment in   negativity. 

Negativity becomes a part of you, it gets embedded into your heart.


You think you're miserable, yet oblivious to see that it's affecting everyone around you.

The more bitter words spat out about how you feel, how life is not fair, it makes the people around you look at you with that mindset.


You're afraid to commit to anything because you think you don't have the potential or the ability to do so.

Considering marriage is a blur vision, you question yourself if you will be happy, will you be treated equally,  will you be appreciated, will the second marriage be the missing puzzle to your happiness in dunya and aakhirah...


You're spend your nights awake for hours, staring into the darkness with nothing but evil thoughts and wake up with the feeling of regretting to start your day, to step out of the home, to communicate with anyone.


Time is a precious gift. 

We don't understand nor do we know why certain things occur in our lives. We have no control over something's, but to be happy, to be successful, we have to adopt a positive attitude gradually.


Self-esteem plays a vital role in our lives. 

There's a lack of confidence in every aspect of our life. 

Change doesn't happen over night, nor in a week or month .

It takes time to build the foundation of positivity again inshaAllah. 


You can be advised by numerous people. But the intention, the effort  has to come from YOU.

You are in control of what you think, feel, and do.

If you continue to belittle yourself, how will you know if you have what it takes to survive in this dunya and be successful. 


Hardships/ difficulties does not mean life must come to halt. It's a guideline for us, it's an opportunity for us to change. 


You need to learn to love yourself, know your worth, and appreciate yourself. 

Put your trust in Allah, keep friends who see a brighter future ahead for you, one's who help you to develop a positive vision.


Refrain from socializing with people who have bad intentions towards you, who are always aiming to bring other's down and prove to be superior because these people will not help you in life, they will be a means of molding you into an individual who will dance to their tunes.


Look into the mirror and tell yourself now " I will not allow anything or anyone defeat me, I will be successful because I can achieve it ".

Do not allow anyone to make you feel unworthy of accomplishing anything.


Have a wonderful day inshaAllah and remember this sinful slave in your duas inshaAllah.

Tuesday, 30 April 2019

When it all boils over....

I've come to realize with a lot of women, when they react, get emotional and get upset it's because they care. Some women haven't reached a high level of maturity yet, so they give up quickly. They haven't learnt how to value things, how to be patient and to understand circumstances. With others, they will bear and bear and bear. But once a threshold is reached, they shut down. And that shut down is significantly worse than any emotional eruption. And then people from the outside will blame their shut down on a small an insignificant event and call them petty. But they forget and overlook everything that took patience and the massive load that person had to tolerate, all the things they had to overlook and that "trivial" matter is what finally sends them overboard. This happens with men too. People give up. They reach their limit.


You see it with mothers, with men who try so hard to give love but those on the receiving end are ungrateful or don't see it, you see it with good employees, you see it in friendships and family situations. Sad really... Many people only notice others when they are no longer receiving from them.


Via Safiyyah Sujee

Friday, 26 April 2019

*Feed your _soul_ this Ramadaan*



*A programme by Apa Aadila  Kharsany *   ‼


✳  *Save the date -1st Sunday in Ramadaan *  ✳

_insha’Allah_ 


📆 * Sunday 12th May 2019 *

⏰  *10.15-11.30 am *

🕌 *Malington Musallah, North Beach* 

💡 *Ignite and Revive your heart* 💡


   _Females only _

For more info contact Aneesa Asmal on 0832824176

Monday, 22 April 2019

Etiquette at funerals

On hearing news of  the loss of someone  special, 💔, Farida immediately went to the home of the deceased only to find it uncomfortable as  men were standing in the front of the house  chitter chatting making it uncomfortable  for ladies to enter the home as the men  turned their gaze towards those  entering the funeral home‼


How beneficial it would be for the marhoom if the menfolk also picked up a Supara or Yaseen kitaab and sat away from the entrance and read for the deceased?

💓📕🔍

Pain strikes Fatima's heart on the news of  her loss one. 

Making wudhu and covering up, Fatima rushes off to support the family and offer assistance while the  mayet arrangements are being made.. 


The Ghusl has been performed and the family has settled down next to the deceased. Slowly people start coming in. 

Some take a Supara, some take Yaseen pansura while some sit quietly and read tasbeeh. 👓👓👓👓👓


Then steps in a group of ladies in  designer abayas chatting away so excitedly to meet lost families and friends. The disturbance distracts the recitors and the peaceful environment gradually becomes a social place.👠👜


The time when the marhoom awaits our prayers, our reading slacken by whispers until someone shouts out, `Please be quiet!` . 


The family menfolk come in to recite so beautifully and then the  marhoom leaves the home.🚙 

Hardly leaving the home, the socializing begins.

How insensitive❓

 The Immediate family is trying to deal with the loss  and the house has suddenly become a hub for socializing. 


This is the time to show respect! 

This is the time to read for the marhoom until the men folk return from the kabrestaan  ! 

This is the time to see that the family eats to stay focus.. 

This is the time to show Respect! 


This is not the time to have fancy tea party🍰

This is not the time to outsmart one another.. 💄👡🕶


Let's be compassionate

Let be kind

Let's shower love in the home of the decease by reading as much as we can!

❤❤❤🧡🧡🧡🧡💛

*#traveldiarieswithH*

Sunday, 21 April 2019

I DID NOT MARRY YOU TO PLAY WITH YOU !!


They got married after a beautiful love story, and after two weeks the husband woke up to go to work. He went to the bathroom to wash his face, and in the mirror he saw his face full of drawings of different colors. His wife was young, childish, and had an innocent heart. She scribbled on his face as he was sleeping, and she did so with a great love, that they would laugh about it in the morning.


The husband washed his face while upset, and went to the kitchen to drink the coffee which he usually does every morning. He did not find the coffee, and he became more upset, and went to her.


She smiled because she thought he would laugh at her, and say something romantic.

But he slapped her until she fell down, and yelled at her saying: "I did not marry you to play with you, I am a man and not a young child. I married you to start a family to have children, to be a man in the eyes of everyone. Do you want to live a love story of the films and those novels that you read? Wake up, these stories does not make a home, nor provide food, nor raise children. Today I will invite my friends for lunch, I want everything to be ready when I come back. Do you understand?"

He went out and saw himself as the master of the house. He left her broken, crying so hard that she could not breathe well.

She is sick and when she cries she almost breaks out.


Then she hurriedly went to prepare lunch, and tears did not leave her cheeks.

The husband went and told his friend what had happened while laughing: "They think that marriage is all love and romance. This is how women should be treated, my friend, otherwise she will never learn responsibility. She will not be a good mother. She must know that marriage is not as she sees or reads about it. These are just stories to gain profits. They need to learn that marriage is not a game or a novel."


But fortunately his friend was not like him, he did not let him to finish his conversation, he cut him saying: "What kind of a man are you? Why are you so harsh on your wife? Is this how a good husband is supposed to be? The Messenger of Allah (May Allah's Blessings and Peace be upon him) said: (Be gentle with ladies, they are like glasses.)

You have to deal with them gently and be soft on them, and do not break their hearts. Blessings and Peace of Allah be upon him said: (This world is temporary joys, and the best temporary joy of this world is a righteous wife.)

Beware what you mentioned a little while ago about cooking and raising the children. 


It is not compulsory for her, but being nice to her will make her love you more, and be passion on you, and she will do all these without you telling her. You should know that she is not your maid. Go back to your senses my friend, and repent to Allah. Go back to your wife and honor her and do not make her sad again."


The husband felt sad and regretted what he did. He then decided to call her to tell her that he had cancelled the lunch invitation of his friends, and to prepare lunch for them alone. The phone rang but there was no answer. He went back to the house quickly and rang the bell but no one answered. He forgot his keys in the morning, because he came out while upset. Suddenly his phone rang, it was his wife's brother. His wife called his brother when she felt she was not well, to take her to the hospital. His wife's brother said to him: "Brother, we are in the hospital."

His voice was full of sadness, which made the husband's heart almost to stop from fear, and the idea that something bad had happened to his wife.


He stopped the Taxi and went to the hospital, and found all her family there.

There was sadness on their faces.

He thought that they would be angry at him, but it seems they did not know what had happened. He greeted them and waited for the doctor. After several hours the doctor came out to them head down and told them: "With great sadness and sorrow, May Allah Have Mercy on her, the weakness of her heart came to us late."

Everyone cried, especially  the husband. He regretted and blamed himself.


Her mother washed her and she was buried the same day. In the evening the husband returned home after taking the keys from the brother of his deceased wife.

He entered the house and found the table covered. He removed the cover and found the best delicious dishes, and saw a paper hanging on the door of the refrigerator.

It was written: 'My love, I am sorry because I wanted you to betray the customs and traditions of your community. I am sorry because I wanted you to get out of this stone heart of a man, and to hear from you some romantic words, and hug me and tell me that you love me. Forgive me because of my childish mind I wanted you to treat me like a child. I hope your friends will like the food, and I promise that I will never make you sad or upset again. I promise you. I love you so much."


He looked at the table and threw the food everywhere, and sat down crying, crying and saying: "What did I do to you my love, I killed you with my cruelty, forgive me?"


These days, we dishonor a man who loves and spoils his wife. We have forgotten that, you are considered a great man if you have mercy on your wife, and it is also a Command of Allah.


Allah Says: {And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.}


Remember your wife is from yourself, when she is happy, you will live a happy life.


Know that building a happy home requires, Patience, Honesty and Love.


May Allah guide us all and may he forgive us of our shortcomings....

Friday, 19 April 2019

Shab e Barat

Salaat e Tasbeeh

Arctic Amanzi

The five W's of life

Percectly Porcelain

No one is perfect...

"What's the point of her wearing the hijab if she is so imperfect? What's the use of him keeping a beard if he can't even control his sight? What's the use of him praying 5 times if he chills and pops bottles? What is the point of your Hajj if you still fell into Zina?


These people forget that a man came to Rasūlullāh ﷺ over 50 times for drinking alcohol in MADINAH and when people teased him - Rasūlullāh ﷺ said, "Leave him! He loves Allāh and His Messenger ﷺ" When people spoke badly about a thief who prayed at night and would steal in the day - Rasūlullāh ﷺ refused to give up on him until he became the most truthful of men. They forgot the young man who came to the Prophet ﷺ and sought permission to commit Zina. What's an imperfect hijab - when our Prophet ﷺ taught us that even a prostitute went to Jannah for her mercy to a dog. The tears of humble sinners are more beloved to Allāh than the lengthy worship of the arrogant.


Allāh doesn't expect perfection so why do imperfect and sinful souls like us point fingers and demand it from others? No one is perfect. We aren't angels. We all have our own struggles, regrets, and issues. Sinning a billion times and then still having the strength and courage to return to Allāh isn't the sign of a hypocrite. It is the sign of those who love Allāh - and it is the sign of the people of Islam and Imaan. Jummah Mubarak

The sins we sow

Mother’s and sisters... of Islam...


Woman......


She is sleeping, but the angel recorded sin for her.... 

She prayed, but the angel recorded sin for her. She ate, studied, But the angel recorded sin for her too.....

She is silent,  Angels still record her sins....

Then what is her fault ?!........

Apparently, many eyes see photos of her on social media. 

Every time someone sees her photos, the angel records her sin. this is called Sin Jariyah. 

And if she dies but the photos can still be seen by someone, the angel will continue to punish her  (أستغفر الله العظيم )


But Allah (SWT) is Rahman, He is the Most Merciful and He gives us the solution to every problem. By seeking forgiveness, by sincerely asking Allah (SWT) to wipe our slates clean, we can rid ourselves of these Sin Jariyahs. We should also strive to do good deeds to overwrite the bad deeds that we perform and be very careful about our actions, our words, and the overall legacy we leave behind. It can be hard to always be aware of one’s actions and their potential consequences but, once this awareness is developed, we can avoid sins and gain so much reward.


Sister!  "Women in Islam are seen as more precious than diamonds and pearls "

So let us take care of what Allah has given us. Let us delete all our photos on social media because actually there will be devilish eyes that will always stare at us with the aim of slandering us. 

let our beauty become exclusively preserved only for our mahrams.

Keep ourselves protected from fitna, because women who wear niqab are more often exposed to fitna


May Allah (SWT) make us of those who leave ripples upon ripples of good in the world.

And May Allah forgive all our sins (Aameen)..


* unknown *

Thursday, 18 April 2019

𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙈𝙤𝙣𝙠 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙧𝙤𝙨𝙩𝙞𝙩𝙪𝙩𝙚


A monk lived near the temple of Shiva. In the house opposite lived a prostitute. Noticing the large number of men who visited her, the monk decided to speak to her.

 

‘You are a great sinner,’ he said sternly. ‘You reveal your lack of respect for God every day and every night. Do you never stop to think about what will happen to you after your death?’

 

The poor woman was very shaken by what the monk said. She prayed to God out of genuine repentance, begging His forgiveness. She also asked the Almighty to help her to find another means of earning her living.

 

But she could find no other work and, after going hungry for a week, she returned to prostitution.

 

But each time she gave her body to a stranger, she would pray to the Lord for forgiveness.

 

Annoyed that his advice had had no effect, the monk thought to himself:

 

‘From now on, I’m going to keep a count of the number of men who go into that house, until the day the sinner dies.’

 

And from that moment on, he did nothing but watch the comings and goings at the prostitute’s house, and for each man who went in, he added a stone to a pile of stones by his side.

 

After some time, the monk again spoke to the prostitute and said:

 

‘You see that pile of stones? Each stone represents a mortal sin committed by you, despite all my warnings. I say to you once more: do not sin again!’

 

Seeing how her sins accumulated, the woman began to tremble. Returning home, she wept tears of real repentance and prayed to God:

 

‘O Lord, when will Your mercy free me from this wretched life?’

 

Her prayer was heard. That same day, the angel of death came to her house and carried her off. On God’s orders, the angel crossed the street and took the monk with him too.

 

The prostitute’s soul went straight up to Heaven, while the devils bore the monk down into Hell. They passed each other on the way, and when the monk saw what was happening, he cried out:

 

‘Is this Your justice, O Lord? I spent my whole life in devotion and poverty and now I am carried off into Hell, while that prostitute, who lived all her life steeped in sin, is borne aloft up to Heaven!’

 

Hearing this, one of the angels replied:

 

poses are always just. You thought that God’s love meant judging the behaviour of your neighbour. While you filled your heart with the impurity of another’s sin, this woman prayed fervently day and night. Her soul is so light after all the tears she has shed that we can easily bear her up to Paradise. Your soul is so weighed down with stones it is too heavy to lift.’


~ Paulo Coelho

Saturday, 13 April 2019

Ramadaan preps

*DON'T WE ALL?*

I parked in front of a mall, wiping my car, when a tramp approached me.


From the looks of him, he had no car, no home,  no clean clothes, and no money. 


There are times when you feel generous but sometimes you just don't want to be bothered.


This was one of those "don't want to be bothered times".


I hope he doesn't ask me for money, I thought.


He didn't.


He sat down on the curb and after a few minutes he spoke.


"That's a very pretty car," he said.


He was ragged but he had an air of dignity around him. His scraggly beard keep more than his face warm.


I said, "Thanks," and continued wiping my car.


He sat quietly. The expected plea for money never came.


As the silence between us widened something inside me said, "Ask him if he needs any help." 


I was sure he would say "Yes" but I held true to the inner voice.


"Do you need any help?" I asked.


He answered in three simple but profound words that I shall never forget.


We often look for wisdom in great men and women. We expect it from those of higher learning and accomplishments.


I expected nothing but an outstretched grimy hand. But he spoke the three words that shook me.


"Don't we all?" he said.


I was feeling high and mighty, successful and important, above a tramp in the street, until those three words hit me.


*Don't we all?*


I needed help.


Maybe not for a meal or a place to sleep, but I needed help.


I reached in my wallet and gave him enough to get a warm meal.


Those three little words still ring true.


No matter how much you have, no matter how much you have accomplished, you need help too.


No matter how little you have, no matter how loaded you are with problems, even without money or a place to sleep, you can give help.


Even if it's just a compliment, you can give that.


You never know when you may see someone that appears to have it all. But they may be waiting for you to give them what they don't have! 


* A different perspective on life


* A glimpse at something beautiful


* A respite from daily chaos, that only you with a different view can see.


Maybe the man was just a homeless stranger wandering the streets.


Maybe he was more than that. Maybe he was sent by a power that is great and wise, to minister to people too comfortable in themselves.


Maybe God looked down, called an Angel, dressed him like a tramp, then said, "Go mister to that man cleaning the car, that man needs help."


*DON'T WE ALL?*

Tuesday, 2 April 2019

Some social rules may help you to look professional:


1. Don’t call someone more than twice continuously. If they don’t pick up your call that means they have something more important to attend to.


2. Return money that you have borrowed even before the other person remembers lending it to you. It shows your integrity and character. Same goes with umbrellas, pens and lunch boxes.


3. Never order the expensive dish on the menu when someone is treating you for lunch/dinner. If possible ask them to order their choice of food for you.


4. Don’t ask awkward questions like ‘Oh so you aren’t married yet?’ Or Why didn’t you buy a house?’ For god’s sake it isn’t your problem.


5. Always open the door for the person coming behind you. Doesn’t matter if it is a guy or a girl. You don’t grow small by treating someone well in public.


6. If you take a taxi with a friend, and he/she pays now, you pay next time.


7. Respect different political opinions.


8. Never interrupt people talking.


9. If you tease someone, and they don’t seem to enjoy it, stop it and never do it again.


10. Say “thank you” when someone is helping you.


11. Praise publicly. Criticize privately.


12. There’s almost never a reason to comment on someone’s weight. Just say, “You look fantastic.” If they want to talk about losing weight, they will.


13. When someone shows you a photo on their phone, don’t swipe left or right. You never know what’s next.


14. If a colleague tells you they have a doctors appointment, don’t ask what it’s for, just say hope you’re ok. If they want to talk about it they will and you don’t put them in the uncomfortable position of having to tell you their personal illness.


15. Treat the cleaner with the same respect as the CEO. Nobody is impressed at how rudely you can treat someone below you but people will notice if you treat them with respect.


16. If a person is speaking directly to you, staring at your phone is rude.


17. Never give advice until you’re asked


18. When meeting someone after a long time, unless they want to talk about it, don’t ask them their age and salary.


19. Mind your own business unless anything involves you directly — just stay out of it.


20. Take off your sunglasses if you are talking to anyone in the street. It is a sign of respect and more eye contact is as important as your speech.

Sunday, 31 March 2019

Marriage secrets



_Secret 1_

Everyone you marry has a weakness. Only Allah does not have a weakness. So if you focus on your spouse's weakness you can't get the best out of his/her strength.


_Secret 2_

Everyone has a dark history. No one is an angel. When you get married or you want to get married stop digging into someone's past. What matters most is the present life of your partner. Old things have passed away. Forgive and forget. Focus on the present and the future.


_Secret 3_

Every marriage has its own challenges. Marriage is not a bed of roses. Every good marriage has gone through its own test of blazing fire. True love proves in times of challenges.  Fight for your marriage. Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in times of need. Remember the vow For better for worse. In sickness and in health be there.


_Secret 4_

Every marriage has different levels of success. Don't compare your marriage with any one else. We can never be equal. Some will be far, some behind. To avoid marriage stresses, be patient, work hard and with time your marriage dreams shall come true.


_Secret 5_

To get married is declaring war. When you get married you must declare war against enemies of marriage. Some enemies of marriage are:

Ignorance 

Prayerlessness

Unforgiveness 

Third party influence 

Stinginess

Stubbornness 

Lack of love 

Rudeness

Laziness 

Disrespect 

Cheating 

Be ready to fight to maintain your marriage zone.


_Secret 6_

There is no perfect marriage. There is no ready made marriage. Marriage is hard work. Volunteer yourself to work daily on it. Marriage is like a car that needs proper maintenance and proper service. If this is not done it will break down somewhere exposing the owner to danger or some unhealthy circumstances. Let us not be careless about our marriages. 


_Secret 7_

Allah doesn't  give you a complete person you desire. He gives you the person in the form of raw materials in order for you to mould the person that you desire. This can only be achieved through prayer, love and patience.


_Secret 8_

Getting married is taking a huge risk. You can not predict what will happen in the future.  Situations may change so leave room for adjustments. A husband can lose his good job or a wife may fail to have babies. All these require you to be prayerful otherwise you might divorce.


_Secret 9_

Marriage is a contract. It is meant to be life long. It needs total commitment. Love is the glue that sticks the couple together. Divorce start in the mind and the devil feeds the mind. Never ever entertain thoughts of getting a divorce. Never threaten your spouse with divorce. Choose to remain married. Allah dislikes divorce.


_Secret 10_

Every marriage has a price to pay. Marriage is like a bank account. It is the money that you deposit that you withdraw. If you don't deposit love, peace and care into your marriage, you are not a candidate for a blissful home.


*So let us pray for our marriages and ask Allah to help us where we are lacking in the marriage. Send to those you care about because  you never know who you may be helping. May Allah bless you all.*