Thursday, 31 January 2019

The Beauty of Human relations

A man married a beautiful girl. He loved her very much. One day she developed a skin disease. Slowly she started to lose her beauty. It so happened that one day her husband left for a tour. While returning he met with an accident and lost his eyesight. However their married life continued as usual. But as days passed she lost her beauty gradually. The blind husband did not know this and there  was not any difference in their married life. He continued to love her and she also loved him very much. 

One day she died. Her death brought him great sorrow.

He finished all her last rites and wanted to leave that town.

A man from behind called and said, now how will you be able to walk all alone? All these days your wife used to help you. He replied, I am not blind. I was acting,  because if she knew l could see her ugliness it would have pained her more than her disease. So I pretended to be blind. She was a very good wife. I only wanted to keep her happy.

Moral:- *Sometimes it is good for us to act blind and ignore one another's short comings, in order to be happy*

*No matter how many times the teeth bites the tongue, they still stay together in one mouth. That's the spirit of FORGIVENESS. Even though the eyes don't see each other, they see things together, blink simultaneously and cry together. That's UNITY." 

May Allah grant us all the spirit of forgiveness and togetherness...🌹

 1. _''Alone I can 'Say' but together we can 'talk'._

  2. _"Alone I can 'Enjoy' but together we can celebrate_

  3.  _'Alone I can 'Smile' but together we can 'Laugh'._

That's the BEAUTY of Human Relations. We are nothing without each other


Happily Ever After

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Natural healing of Mosquito bites.

Due to how terrible the Mosquito's are this year I am posting this so many of you will know how to treat the area if you or your child are bitten by a mosquito, not everyone is allergic to mosquito bites but for those who are it can be a miserable time. 

The best and Natural way to treat an insect bite is to use one of the following:

1.) Place a used dry teabag on the bite. 

2.) Rub Raw Honey on the bite.

3.) Apple Cider Vinegar, use a cotton ball and apply to the bite.

4.) Baking Soda, this is the cheapest and being a dry powder can be stored in your pantry for years. Take a small amount and add a little water to make a paste and apply the paste to the bite. 

5.) Take the skin of a Banana and rub the inside part of the banana peel on the bite.

6.) Take a leaf off of an Aloe Vera plant and rub the bite with the leaf of the plant.

Wednesday, 30 January 2019


When a parent passes away, a new phase of dutifulness towards that parent.

A deceased parent is in greater need of his/her children - even more than when they the parent was alive. What children do for the parents during the parent's lifetime is for the worldly needs, but after their death, only Allah Ta'ala knows what is in store for them in the grave. This is why they are MORE IN NEED OF US AFTER THEIR DEATH. 

1. DU'A :

Constant supplication to Allah for rahmah (mercy), asking Allah to shower your deceased parents with His special mercy. This act is invaluable for the deceased.

Through a child's dua, Allah - with His grace and mercy - enlightens the grave, removing the darkness and expanding it. Allah makes the grave a garden from the gardens of Paradise for the deceased. Therefore, always remember your deceased parent/s, and always ask Allah to shower them with His special mercy, enlighten their grave and expand it.

A good way of always remembering your parents is at mealtime. As you are about have a meal  think about the many wonderful meals your mother had prepared for you and how she looked after you all your life. Your heart will surely soften and at that point, let it drive you to offer a similar meal to an orphan, widow, divorced or needy person on her behalf, begging of Allah to reward her for it.

Similarly for your father. Remember all his sacrifices in giving you an education, sound upbringing and making you blossom in what you are today. Then pray for him and sponsor a needy student on his behalf. 

Give charity on their behalf, recalling the many favours they did for you. And when doing so, never forget to include our Noble Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam and the illustrious Sahabah in your Duas too. 


Always have fond memories of your parents, no matter how harsh they may have been with you. Only Allah knows the love they had in their hearts for you. They brought you up in the best way they could, although you may not have agreed with it. 

Remember them in your du'a during sujood (the prostration), between the athan (the call for prayer) and the iqamah (the in-mosque call for prayer just a few minutes before congregational prayer), and in every act of worship.


Give charity on their behalf openly and privately, wipe away the tears of orphans, widows and divorced (through charity) on behalf of your parents, quench the thirst of the thirsty on their behalf (by having a well dug, for example). Go out of your way to be the best child to your parents for they have sacrificed much to raise you.



This is the dua for deceased parents:

ﺭَّﺏِّ ﺍﺭْﺣَﻤْﻬُﻤَﺎ ﻛَﻤَﺎ ﺭَﺑَّﻴَﺎﻧِﻲ ﺻَﻐِﻴﺮًﺍ

Rabb-ir-ham-huma kama rabbayaani sagheera (Quran surah 17, verse 24)

Translation : "My Lord .. Bestow thy mercy on my parent/s as they cherished and raised me in my CHILDHOOD" 

Let us teach our children this dua for one day we all shall need it.

May Allah bless our parents in this world & HEREAFTER - Ameen

Another Man's Daughter

An aspect of RasulAllah (sallAllahu 'alayhi wa sallam)'s life that very few people even think about is that he was a stepfather - a man who raised the children his wife had from her previous marriage.

Many cultures warn men against marrying widows or divorcees with children; insinuations are made that she could never be truly devoted to her new husband if she has her own children to care for. A bizarre, unhealthy rivalry is set up between the woman's child and her new husband.

When the Messenger of Allah (sallAllahu 'alayhi wa sallam) sent a proposal of marriage to Umm Salamah (radhiAllahu 'anha), she told him, "I am a woman with many children!" His response was, "And I am a man with children as well. Your children will be mine."

Umm Salamah had several children by her previous husband, Abu Salamah (radhiAllahu 'anhu), who had died from his war injuries. She was either pregnant, or had just given birth to her daughter Zaynab, when her husband died.

Zaynab bint Abi Salamah (radhiAllahu 'anha) thus grew up with RasulAllah as the only father she truly knew. He, in turn, loved her as his own child. When RasulAllah would come to Umm Salamah's house, he would immediately ask for young Zaynab; he would play with her often. 

Zaynab's uncle, Ammar, used to say, "She was the one who has come between RasulAllah and the rest of his family!" - meaning that he would spend a great deal of time with her.

Zaynab bint Abi Salamah (radhiAllahu 'anha) grew up to narrate many ahadith, in particular from her mother and from the other wives of RasulAllah (sallAllahu 'alayhi wa sallam). She also became known as a great jurist of Madinah, and was referred to as the most knowledgeable woman of her time.


Tuesday, 29 January 2019

*YOU & I*

Whoever wrote this is brilliant, we all can learn from it...............

I Can Wear Clothes From PEP And You Could Wear Clothes From Truworths. But We Would Both Have Clothes To Wear. 

You Can Live In A Mansion And I Could Rent A One Bedroom Flat. But We Would Both Have A Roof Over Our Heads. 

You Could Eat At Fancy Restaurants. And Every Night I Can Eat Butter Bread Or Toast And Tea. But We'll Both Have Food In Our Stomach. 

You Can Drive A Lamborghini And I Could Walk. But Either Way We'll Both Reach Our Destination. 

You Could Attend The Best University In The Country. And I Can Attend A Local College. But We'll Both Be Able To Graduate With Degrees And Reach Our Goals. 

In The End Our Graves Will Be The Same Size And We'll All Be Standing In Front Of The Same Allaah. 

Be Thankful For What You Have And For Who You Are. The Only Person You Should Want To Compete With Is Yourself. To Be A Better Person That You Were Yesterday. Even If You Don't Have Much.. Thank Allah For All Your Blessings. 

May Allaah give us the true understanding.


Saturday, 26 January 2019

Words of wisdom

A poor man, on his death bed, offered the following sterling advises to his son. He said:

"Oh my beloved son, make sure you never forget to do these three things in life:

1- Always eat the best food, 

2- Always sleep on the most comfortable bed, 

3- Always reside in the best and most comfortable of homes."

His son replied in great wonder:

"Oh my dear father, you know very well that we are poor, how can I ever do these things?"

With a huge smile, his father replied:

"Firstly, If you only eat when you are truly hungry, you will be eating the most delicious food, 

Secondly, if you work hard, and go to sleep tired, you will sleep on the most comfortable bed every night, 

And thirdly, if you are courteous to people, treat them with dignity and respect, you will reside in their hearts, and that is the best residence and most comfortable of all."

Beautiful words of wisdom - Subhanallah.

Survival skills for the Homemaker


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A Bitter Reality

As the dream of most parents I had acquired a degree in Engineering and joined a company based in USA, the land of braves and opportunity. When I arrived in the USA, it was as if a dream had come true.

Here at last I was in the place where I want to be. I decided I would be staying in this country for about five years in which time I would have earned enough money to settle down in India.

My father was a government employee and after his retirement, the only asset he could acquire was a decent one bedroom flat.

I wanted to do some thing more than him. I started feeling homesick and lonely as the time passed. I used to call home and speak to my parents every week using cheap international phone cards. Two years passed, two years of Burgers at McDonald's and pizzas and discos and 2 years watching the foreign exchange rate getting happy whenever the Rupee value went down.

Finally I decided to get married. Told my parents that I have only 10 days of holidays and everything must be done within these 10 days. I got my ticket booked in the cheapest flight. Was jubilant and was actually enjoying shopping for gifts for all my friends back home. If I miss anyone then there will be talks. After reaching home I spent  one week going through all the photographs of girls and as the time was getting shorter I was forced to select one candidate.

I had to  get married in 2-3 days ,as I had to return to the USA.My wife enjoyed this country for about two months and then she started feeling lonely. The frequency of calling India increased to twice in a week sometimes 3 times a week. Our savings started diminishing.

After two more years we started to have kids. Two lovely kids, a boy and a girl, were gifted to us by the Almighty. Every time I spoke to my parents, they asked me to come to India so that they can see their grand-children.

Every year I decide to go to India But part work part monetary conditions prevented it. Years went by and visiting India was a distant dream. Then suddenly one day I got a message that my parents were seriously sick. I tried but I couldn't get any holidays and thus could not go to India ... The next message I got was my parents had passed away and as there was no one to do the last rights the society members had done whatever they could. I was depressed. My parents had passed away without seeing their grand children.

After a couple more years passed , much to my children's dislike and my wife's joy we returned to India to settle down. I started to look for a suitable property, but to my dismay my savings were short and the property prices had gone up during all these years so  I had to return to the USA...

My wife refused to come back with me and my children refused to stay in India.My 2 children and I returned to USA after promising my wife I would be back for good after two years.

Time passed by, my daughter decided to get married to an American and my son was happy living in USA. I decided that I had enough and wound-up every thing and returned to India.

 I had just enough money to buy a decent 2 bedroom flat in a well-developed locality.

Now I am 60 years old and the only time I go out of the flat is for the routine visit to the nearby temple. My faithful wife has also left me and gone to the holy abode.

Sometimes I wondered was it worth all this?

My father, even after staying in India,had a house to his name and I too have the same , nothing more.

I lost my parents and children for just............... 


Looking out from the window I see a lot of children dancing. This damned cable TV has spoiled our new generation and these children are losing their values and culture because of it. I get occasional cards from my children asking if I am alright. Well at least they remember me.

Now perhaps after I die it will be the neighbours again who will be performing my last rights, God Bless them.

But the question still remains 'was all this worth it?'

I am still searching for an answer...... ......... ..!!!



Yasmin Mogahed...

How would we treat her?

When al-Ghaamidiyyah came to RasulAllah (sallAllahu alayhi wa sallam) and confessed that she had committed zina *and* was pregnant from it, he sent her back not only until she'd given birth, but until her child had been weaned.

During that time - almost three years - she was neither imprisoned nor put under house arrest. She lived her life amongst the people of Madinah; she raised her child with them, she worshipped with them, she was a part of the Muslim Ummah.

All of this, while everyone knew her sin.

And when she returned to RasulAllah, her child fully weaned and eating a piece of bread as proof, she demonstrated her sincerity of repentance and her desire to be absolved of her sin in this world so that she would not endure the punishment of the Hereafter.

When RasulAllah and his Companions duly carried out the hadd punishment - at her own request - and one Companion was so upset in the moment that he cursed al-Ghamidiyyah, RasulAllah immediately took him to task and testified as to the powerful sincerity of her tawbah.

Consider this exact same scenario in our communities today.

Imagine that a married Muslim woman came forward and confessed to zina, and her pregnancy.

Imagine if she was sent off to wait until her child was two years old.

Imagine that she continued coming to the masjid.

Imagine that she and her child attended masjid events; that they showed up to weddings and funerals and community dinners.

How would you and I treat such a woman? Would we have the mercy of RasulAllah (sallAllahu alayhi wa sallam) towards her?

Would we say salaam to her in the masjid or the streets? Would we be willing to pray next to her? Would we let our children play with hers? Would we make snide comments about her or gossip under our breaths about what a "loose woman" she was? Would we *let* her come to events?

After her death, would we speak of her as the woman whose repentance was enough for seventy of the people of Madinah - or would we forever curse her name and view her as a shame and a scandal to our families and communities?


Gheebat* *A Cancer of Society*

*By Ameer Ahle Sunnat*

Majority of ours is involved in committing the severe sin of 

backbiting, whether it is the father or the mother, the brother or the sister, the husband or the wife, the mother-in-law or the daughter-in-law, the father-in-law or the son-in-

law, the teacher or the student, the employer or the employee, the buyer or the seller, the foreman or the labourer. Similarly, the rich or the poor, the ruler or his subject, the materialist or the spiritual, the old or the young and the ones affiliated with a religious 

organization or members of a worldly institution – almost everyone is involved in backbiting. These days, none of our gatherings are devoid of this heinous act of speaking ill against others because of the habit of constant gossip.

On page 313 of ‘Uyūn-ul-Ḥikāyāt, volume 2 [the 413-page publication of Maktaba-tul-Madīnaĥ, the publishing department of Dawat-e-Islami], a saying of Sayyidunā Ḥāriš Muḥāsibī is narrated, ‘Refrain from backbiting. It is such an evil that a person seeks it willingly. What do you think of an action that entices you to be disloyal to the one who has favoured you and causes good deeds, earned by you, to be given to those who you slandered until they are pleased because wealth will not come to your aid? 

Your religion will be taken away from you, equal to the measure of the harm that you caused to a Muslim’s reputation. Therefore, refrain from backbiting, make yourself awareof it and recognize its different forms and how it entraps you.’ He further added, ‘Take this to heart! Indeed some ignorant and naive individuals indulge in backbiting by manifestingtheir anger on the sins committed by others. They make false assumptions and are jealous 

of them. May Allah grant us refuge. Satan further misleads these people into thinking that by manifesting their anger; they are actually protecting the faith. They make claims of 

showing anger by speaking ill and making derogatory remarks against another person, not for personal reasons, but for protecting the religion. The evil of such thought and action 

is not hidden from the wise. 

Even some learned people have been observed to make statements like, ‘We are only doing this for their rectification. We are their well-wishers and only want the best for them.’ 

The fact of the matter is that if these people wanted the best for the others they would not have indulged in such an evil action (of backbiting). The thought of giving advice would not cause them to indulge in backbiting (i.e. they would have taken the adopted 

the method that is permissible by Islamic law which is to directly advise the one who has made a mistake and not to make a public display of others’ faults). Embed this in your heart! At times, even seemingly religious and righteous individuals commit backbiting 

by saying expressions that are astonishing. As for teachers, leaders and officers, they at times indulge in backbiting by trying to show compassion for their subordinates and students; with phrases like, ‘I feel so sorry for that person that he commits such-and-such evil. I wish he wasn’t involved in those things (i.e. drug addiction).’ In reality, these people are not feeling sorry for others, but are actually exposing their faults and shortcomings disguised as compassion and well-wishing and thus indulging in backbiting. 

Instead of saying such expressions, if they really want the best for the other person, they could directly approach them and make an effort to rectify their behaviour. 

Some people have been observed making this point that they are only exposing the faults to another person so that the listener supplicates for him. They think that they are doing them a favour but instead they are actually backbiting. May Allah protect us from the deceit of Satan and protect us from speaking-ill against other Muslims.’ 

(‘Uyūn-ul-Ḥikāyāt, vol. 2, pp. 38)

The Beloved and Blessed Prophet said: 'Backbiting is 

worse than fornication.’ 

People asked, ‘Yā Rasūlallāĥ, why is that?’ 

The Prophet  replied, ‘A person fornicates then he repents, then Allah accepts his repentance. Whereas the repentance of the backbiter will not be accepted until the person he slandered forgives him.’ (Shu’ab-ul-Īmān, vol. 5, pp. 306, Ḥadīš 6741)

Friday, 25 January 2019

*Beautiful letter written by a father to his daughter 👌*

Must send to your children

Following is a letter to his daughter from a renowned Hong Kong TV broadcaster and Child Psychologist.

The words are actually applicable to all of us, young or old, children or parents.! 

This applies to all sons & daughters too. 

All parents can use this in their teachings to their children.

Dear Children,

I am writing this to you because of 3 reasons

*A).* Life, fortune and mishaps are unpredictable, nobody knows how long he lives. 

*B).* I am your father, and if I don't tell you these, no one else will.

*C).* Whatever written is my own personal bitter experiences that perhaps could save you a lot of unnecessary heartaches. 

*Remember the following as you go through life*

*1.* Do not bear grudge towards those who are not good to you. No one has the responsibility of treating you well, except your mother and I. 

To those who are good to you, you have to treasure it and be thankful, and ALSO you have to be cautious, because, everyone has a motive for every move. When a person is good to you, it does not mean he really will be good to you. You have to be careful, don't hastily regard him as a real friend.

*2.* No one is indispensable, nothing is in the world that you must possess. 

Once you understand this idea, it would be easier for you to go through life when people around you don't want you anymore, or when you lose what you wanted the most.

*3.* Life is short. 

When you waste your life today, tomorrow you would find that life is leaving you. The earlier you treasure your life, the better you enjoy life.

*4.* Love is nothing but a transient feeling, and this feeling would fade with time and with one's mood. If your so called loved one leaves you, be patient, time will wash away your aches and sadness. 

Don't over exaggerate the beauty and sweetness of love, and don't over exaggerate the sadness of falling out of love.

*5.* A lot of successful people did not receive a good education, that does not mean that you can be successful by not studying hard! Whatever knowledge you gain is your weapon in life. 

One can go from rags to riches, but one has to start from some rags!

*6.* I do not expect you to financially support me when I am old, neither  would I financially support your whole life. My responsibility as a supporter ends when you are grown up. After that, you decide whether  you want to travel in a public transport or in your limousine, whether rich or poor.

*7.* You honour your words, but don't expect others to be so. You can be good to people, but don't expect people to be good to you. If you don't understand this, you would end up with unnecessary troubles.

*8.* I have bought lotteries for umpteen years, but could never strike any prize. That shows if you want to be rich, you have to work hard! There is no free lunch!

*9.* No matter how much time I have with you, let's treasure the time we have together. We do not know if we would meet again in our next life.

                 *Your Parents*

Read it twice

Ask your son and daughter to read it thrice.

Worth a read

Power of Tahajjud

When Imam Bukhari was 3 years of age, he lost his eyesight. 

His mother promised herself that she would pray #tahajjud salah until Allah restores her son's eyesight back.

And that's exactly what she did. She prayed tahajjud every night until one night in a dream she saw Ibrahim (as) give her the good news that Imam Bukhari's eyesight had been restored. She ran to her son and when he awoke, he found himself with vision again.

Lessons for me: This mother didn't go into a state of helplessness after her young child lost his eyesight. Being a single mother, she didn't lose hope and become disheartened with the difficulty she would have to face with bringing up a son with a disability. She knew very well the power of dua. She knew the beauty that lies in praying tahajjud salah. She knew Allah comes down to the lowest heaven asking his servants to make dua to Him at this time. Her taqwa, her conviction in the Might of Allah is what led her to consistently pray. To pray tahajjud salah means you sacrifice your sleep. But she did it without fail. It wasn't a "sacrifice" on her behalf but a most needed task.

When we read about the life of Imam Bukhari or know what his contribution to Islamic history and education is, how can we not look back at the household he grew up in. The mother that raised him. The mother that made dua for him in the darkness of the night. 

A widow, a single mother. But she had a wealth many of us fail to embrace. She devoted herself as a slave.

These women are our role models. These women are who we look up to. Not because we know how pretty or amazing they were in looks. But because in the face of tests, they remained close to Allah. With a history filled with women who brought up men like Imam Bukhari and others, how can we feel demotivated when it comes to our own children.

If we want good for our children, and see them grow up to be good slaves, we need to take the necessary steps to become a good slave too.

This reminder about this mother's dua came at such a perfect and apt time for me. A time when I've become extremely worried about my children. This reminded me that dua is no small thing.

5 Advices of Rasulullah Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam

Hazrat Abu Hurairah RadiAllahu Anhu said : that Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said: “Who among you will learn from me these five advices and practise upon these advices, or teach it to somebody who will practice upon them? ”

Hazrat Abu Hurairah RadiAllahu Anhu  replied, “I will do so, Oh Rasulullah!”

Hazrat Abu Hurairah RadiAllahu Anhu  said, “So he (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) held my hand and mentioned five advices : 

1. Save yourself from all those things that Allah has made Haraam upon you, then you will be the greatest of worshippers.

2. Be content with whatever Allah has decreed for you, and you will be the richest of people.

3. Be kind to your neighbour, then you will be a true believer.

4. Love for makind what you love for yourself and you will be a (true) Muslim.

5. Do not laugh in abundance, for excessive laughter kills (destroys the spirituality of) the heart.”

(Recorded by Ahmad and Al-Tirmidhi)

Thursday, 24 January 2019

*Story of Sabar, Yakeen and Shukur*

Two beggars knocked on the door asking for bread. 

One beggar was given a loaf and sent away. The other was kept waiting and waiting. 

At length, the second beggar became concerned. 

"Why am I being denied? What is so lacking in me that the other one was favoured over me?" he asked himself. 

Unknown to the beggar, a fresh loaf was being baked for him inside the house.

*Let’s remember that Allah’s delays are not always His denials. His timing is always perfect.....never early never late.*

It takes a little patience   *(Sabar)*

and it takes a lot of faith *(Yakeen)*

                  and  gratitude  *(Shukur)*

                but its worth the wait.

We don't know *what* tomorrow holds but We know *who* holds tomorrow -


the Most Merciful, the Most Loving, the All Wise.

*My heart is at ease knowing that what was meant for me will never miss me*

*and that what misses me was never meant for me*

So in either case I need to do

                *Sabar* and *Shukur*

and have a strong belief


that everything  is happening for my good!!!!!

Yasmin Mogahed...

“We often wonder why God gives and takes, constricts and expands. What we forget is that human beings understand things by their opposites. Without dark, we can’t understand light. Without hardship, we wouldn’t *experience* ease. Without the existence of deprivation and loss, we couldn’t grasp the need for gratitude or the virtue of patience. And without separation, we wouldn’t taste the sweetness of reunion. Glory be to the one who gives—even when He takes.”

 – Sister Yasmin Mogahed


Journeying through storms

By Jamiatul Ulama.. Kzn

While in a small boat in the middle of the ocean, the sky suddenly darkens and the winds start to pick up. Suddenly, a downpour falls heavily onto your head and shoulders, filling the tiny boat with water. As the boat capsizes, you find yourself surrounded by the seemingly never-ending ocean. You feel completely vulnerable and unprotected. As you try to get your bearings, a wave crashes over you, submerging you under water. Then another. Then another. You can barely catch your breath and you’re sure you’re not going to make it out of there.

Anxiety and constant worrying can feel like you’re drowning in a sea of never-ending problems. You may be able to gasp in a breath of air but soon you’re pushed beneath the surface again, nearly unable to stay afloat feeling the weight of so much worry heavily overtaking your mind. Despite feeling powerless, realize that you can regain control of your life and your anxiety.

A certain degree of worry and anxiety exists in everyone and is completely normal. Everyone worries at times. However, for some people, anxiety can take over their lives. Every instance and situation is viewed in the direst way possible, which can lead to a multitude of physical and mental health issues. Constant worry and anxiety can impact our productivity and can also be taxing on the people in our lives, which can strain relationships.

This is why the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ used to make a du’aa seeking refuge from worry saying, “Oh Allah! I seek refuge in You from worry and sadness, from weakness and laziness, from miserliness and cowardice, from being overcome by debt and from being overpowered by men.” (Sahih al-Bukhari)



Pay attention to your mind and body during calm and stressful times.

When things are going great, what thoughts go through your mind? What do you tend to say to yourself during those times? You might be able to notice small things like the wind rustling through the leaves of a tree when you’re feeling positive and calm. Feel the ease in your muscles and notice the rate of your pulse. Compare this to times when you are struggling. Perhaps your thoughts tend to be more negative or you’re more critical of yourself. You may find yourself thinking things like, “I have so much to do and there’s no way I can accomplish it all.” or “I say the most awkward things when I’m around people.” Do you notice tension anywhere in your body? Do you start to feel warm or notice your heart racing? These signals will occur before your anxiety and worry get out of hand so knowing these signs can protect you from a downward spiral.

2-Accept that anxiety levels go up and down

When you are overcome with worry and anxiety, you may feel as though things will never get better. You may wonder whether there will ever be a time without panic in your future- whether you’ll ever get to breathe easy again. Remember, your anxiety cannot hurt you. Our minds often trick us into thinking that the discomfort we feel due to anxiety is dangerous. Many of my clients experience panic attacks during which they literally feel as though they are dying. The feeling of your chest constricting, your breathing wavering and your body freezing is terrifying. Despite how scary these sensations are, one of the proven techniques that helps a person overcome a panic attack quicker is acceptance. When struggling with feelings of anxiety, one of the most powerful ways to diminish the control that these sensations have on you is to accept them. It seems counterintuitive because you brain and body basically scream, “I have to get rid of this feeling! It’s horrible!” However, once you are able to acknowledge that it cannot hurt you and that it will pass, anxiety loses some of its grasp on you. Remember, 

Allah (subhanahu wa ta’ala) promises us ease as He (subhanahu wa ta’ala) says, “For indeed, with hardship comes ease.” (94:5) 


The example of Allah is the greatest and the best that we can try to emulate. One thing you will notice as you read the Qur’an is that Islam is a preventative religion. For example, Allah says, “And come not near to unlawful intercourse. Verily, it is a fahishah (i.e. anything that transgresses its limits; a great sin), and an evil way.” (17:32) Likewise, we can protect ourselves from drowning in a sea of worries when we realize the situations that tend to trigger our anxiety. Do you tend to panic when you’re running late? Do your best to allow yourself extra time to get ready before you have to be at an appointment. Do you tend to get more anxious when you’re exhausted? Try to go to bed earlier to allow yourself to awake refreshed and ready to face the day. Do you tend to feel anxious every time you speak with a certain friend? Try to minimize your contact with this person, particularly if the effects of this friendship are toxic to your mental wellbeing.


Realize that your worries are often a “false alarm.” When feeling stressed, we tend to catastrophize and imagine the worst-case scenarios for every situation. A mother of a newborn endures very little sleep, fluctuating hormones and a new world filled with unknowns. As soon as her baby sneezes, she wonders whether this is an indication of a serious health issue, which leads to further worry and anxiety. Gradually work on replacing your worries and anxiety-provoking thoughts with more realistic and healthier ones. This gives you the ability to control your anxiety level, which is empowering. Positive thoughts make us better able to deal with life’s challenges. Imagine how empowered you can feel if you view the things you worry about as opportunities rather than insurmountable obstacles! Remember the saying of the 

Prophet ﷺ, “The affair of the believer is amazing in that it is always good for him, and this is true only for a believer. If something joyful comes to him he gives thanks, and that is good for him. If something harmful comes to him, he is patient, and that is good for him.” (Muslim)


There are a variety of techniques that can help to reduce anxiety during moments of stress. Choose the ones that work best for you and continually implement them; gradually, they will become almost automatic insha’Allah. Knowing that you will be able to regain control over your worries during an anxiety-filled time can be very calming and empowering. Some of my personal favorites techniques include: making du’aa, deep breathing, taking a walk in a natural setting, mindfulness and visualization (i.e. imagining myself in a peaceful and safe environment that makes me calm and content). There are so many supplications the Prophet (sala Allahu ‘alayhi wa salam) taught us to use during times of worry and anxiety, since this is a universal issue, so find the ones that most resonate with you. One that never fails to lighten my heart is the following: 

Ibn Mas’ud reported that the Prophetﷺ said, “If any servant of Allah afflicted with distress or grief makes this supplication, his supplication will be accepted: ‘O Allah, I am Your servant, son of Your servant, son of your maidservant. My forehead is in Your hand. Your command concerning me prevails, and Your decision concerning me is just. I call upon You by every one of the beautiful names by which You have described Yourself, or which You have revealed in Your book, or have taught anyone of Your creatures, or which You have chosen to keep in the knowledge of the unseen with You, to make the Qur’an the delight of my heart, the light of my breast, and remover of my griefs, sorrows, and afflictions‘.” (Ahmad & Ibn Hibban)


Ibn al-Qayyim (rahimahullah) said, “Your attention must be directed to your life in the present – the time between two times. If you waste it, then you have wasted the opportunity to be of the fortunate and saved ones. If you look after it, having rectified the two times – what is before and after it – then you will be successful and achieve rest, delight and ever-lasting bliss.” We are often so overcome with worry about the past and anxiety about the future that we completely miss out on the present. 

Abu Hurairah (radi Allahu ‘anhu) reported that the Prophet ﷺ said, “A strong believer is better and dearer to Allah than a weak believer, and there is good in everyone, but cherish what gives you benefit in the Hereafter and seek help from Allah and do not lose heart, and if anything (in the form of trouble) comes to you, don’t say, ‘If I had not done that, such and such thing would not have happened,’ but say, ‘Allah has ordained it so, and whatever He pleases He does,’ because the word “if” (if only I did this, etc.) opens the door for Satan.”(Muslim) 

You cannot control what will happen within the next hour nor can you change what happened during the last hour but the present moment is within your grasp. Rather than focusing on “what-ifs,” focus on “what is.” Pay attention to the blessings surrounding you- the feeling of the breeze on your face, the taste of the tea on your tongue, the sound of birds chirping nearby. When you choose to be mindful of the blessings that surround you in every moment of everyday, you will naturally start to find that you tend to feel calmer and less bombarded by anxieties about the past and future.


There is something very powerful about facing your fears. Sometimes, we push the worst-case scenario to the back of our minds, afraid of facing the possibility that something so scary could actually happen. However, this just promotes anxiety to arise at inopportune times. What is that fear that you constantly sweep under the rug? Is it a question about whether your marriage is worth saving? Or what would happen if you don’t get into medical school? When we take the time to explore our fears and how we would handle such a difficult situation, the worst-case scenario is no longer so anxiety-inducing. While we prepare for the worst, we also hope for the best by putting our trust in Allah . Remember that Allah  is capable of all things so never cease in making du’aa to Him. 

Anas said that when the Prophet ﷺ was faced with a serious difficulty, he would always supplicate, “Ya Hayyu, ya Qayyumu, bi-rahmatika astaghithu (O the Living, O the Eternal, I seek help in Your grace).” (Tirmidhi) 

Also, striving to do everything for the sake of Allah (subhanahu wa ta’ala) can be very calming. By finding fulfillment through a greater purpose- when you make your intentions for the sake of Allah – even if things don’t turn out perfectly, your ultimate goal in pleasing Allah  is still achieved. That way, you will worry less and feel less anxious about any mishaps or obstacles that come your way insha’Allah.

We all experience anxiety at times; it’s a universal emotion that makes us human. However, our lives don’t have to be overtaken by them. You can manage your anxiety and overcome your worries. Rather than drowning in a sea of worries, trust in Allah  and trust in the abilities He gave you as you learn to stay afloat while riding the waves that come your way.

The 21st Century

Welcome to the 21st Century where sex is free and love is a pocket full of notes, where losing your phone is worse than losing your values. Where it is fashionable to smoke and drink, and if you don’t you’re obsolete. Where men cheat on their women with smiles, and if women do not do the same or worse, it is because they are afraid of believing that they will be caught. Where the bathroom was made for photos.

21st Century, where women fear pregnancy more than HIV. Where the pizza delivery service arrives faster than the ambulance. Where people die of fear of terrorism and criminals more than their conscience. When clothes decide the value of a person, and having money is more important than having friends or even family.

21st Century, where children are able to give up their parents for their virtual love. Where men and women only want relationships without obligations. Where love is a thing.

A great 21st Century, where social media tells you how to live your life and gives you a fake perspective of life.

21st Century where society is fake believing it’s perfect!

21st Century, here you only survive if you play with reason, and you are destroyed if you act with your heart.

The Art of Raising Children

Pregnancy Awareness Day


Wednesday, 23 January 2019

Divorced or widowed...

A divorced woman or widow never had any issues getting married in the time of the companions. In fact, she would have a hard time choosing which proposal to accept since there were so many great men asking for her. She was never made to feel like... she was a burden on her family/society, nor was she told that she'd have to marry anyone that'd be willing to propose to her. Some Muslim cultures are backwards, Islam is not.  

- Imam Omar Suleiman

Who is the Master....

Junaid was a famous Sufi mystic. Once he was going through the market-place of the town with his disciples. It was his way to take any situation & use it to teach his disciples a lesson. 


 A man was dragging his cow by a rope, & Junaid stopped the man. 

Then he told his disciples, "Surround this man & the cow. I am going to teach Ʊ something."

The man stopped. Junaid asked his disciples, "I ask Ʊ one thing: who is bound to whom? Is the cow bound to this man or is this man bound to this cow?" 

The disciples answered, "Of course, the cow is bound to the man. The man is the master, he is holding the rope, the cow has to follow him wherever he goes. He is the master & the cow is the slave.’

And Junaid said, "Now, see." He took out his scissors & cut the rope .....&  the cow escaped.

The man ran after the cow, &  Junaid said ’Now look what is happening! Now Ʊ see who is the master; the cow is not interested at all in this man – in fact, she is escaping." 

The man was very angry, he said, "What kind of experiment is this?" 

But Junaid said to his disciples, "This is the case with Ʊr mind.

All the nonsense that Ʊ are carrying inside is not interested in Ʊ.

 Ʊ are interested in it, Ʊ are keeping it together somehow –  Ʊ are the one interested IN it. The moment Ʊ lose interest, the moment Ʊ understand the futility of it, it will start disappearing; like the cow it will escape."

When we accomodate negative thoughts & give them boarding & lodging in our minds- then our thoughts control us- thus becoming our master & enslaving us. The best thing to do, whenever negative thoughts enter our head including waswasa(whisperings of Shaytaan) is not to pay heed to these tawts & they will automatically leave our minds. 

Allαh Subhana Ta'ala tells us in the Qur’an “And if an evil whisper from Shaitan (Satan) tries to turn you away (O Muhammad) (from doing good), then seek refuge in Allah. Verily, He is the All Hearer, the All Knower” (Quran)

Secret marriages

Q: Is it permissible for a man and woman to make a secret nikaah without informing their parents and family?


A:  On account of the abundant problems and complications that are found through performing secret marriages, viz. suspicion being created in the minds of people regarding the man and woman whose nikaah has not been publicized or confusion and complications coming about in many masaa’il e.g. laws of inheritance in the case of death, the husband not being able to maintain equality between the wives in regard to their night turns, wealth and other aspects in the case where the woman is a second wife, etc.) we strongly discourage performing secret nikaahs. Therefore, in view of all these aspects, we strongly advise that the nikaah should be publicized.

And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.

Answered by:

Mufti Zakaria Makada

Checked & Approved:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)

Sunday, 20 January 2019


A forgotten Sunnah.. #Nabid Drink! ☕️

Drink Nabidh and serve your guests with it...

Nabidh, A Blessed Drink That Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) Consumed


Nabidh was a blessed drink which is consumed by Prophet Muhammad PBUH in his time. It is considered to be one of his favorite drinks. It is made up of Dates or Raisins and Water.

Nabidh was one of the favorite drink of Prophet Muhammad PBUH. And it contains the things and cure for many things which will leave you amazed after you learn about it.

Nabidah is an Alkalizing tonic, it helps cure acidity of your stomach as well as digestive system. It also has to tendency to remove other metabolic wastes from one’s body. Furthermore, it enhances the digestion as it is high soluble fiber and it makes the memory strong. It helps the function of Slpee, liver, chest, throat, and prostate, which is in a way more beneficial for men. One of the most amazing thing about it that Nabidh helps the patients of Arthritis, as well as the patents of Uric Acid (Gout), can also get benefited from it as it elevates the levels or Uric Acid and Arthritis.

How to make Nabidh?

Things you need:

Ajwa or any other date which is available. Quantity: 3-4 Dates.

Water. Quantity: 1 Glass.

Honey. Quantity: 1 Teaspoon.


Soak dates for a night in a packed container. If not the dates, then you can simply soak Golden Raisins instead of Dates too.

Remove the seeds from Dates or Raisins, and grind it with water. You can add honey, but it’s totally optional.

Strain and serve.

You can also drink without grinding the dates and can eat dates separately.


It is an ideal drink for Ramadan, especially in Suhoor. It helps people keep their energy during a day-long fast.

Saturday, 19 January 2019

Supercharge 2019

A poem with a difference

Whatever we do, we’ll pay the price In the depths of hell or in paradise

For the believer ,this life is just like a cage

For the unbeliever, it’s the ultimate stage

Little does he know about the awaiting reward

Which is full of luxuries, where no-one gets bored

You’ll enter the gate of paradise, if it’s in your fate

Your deeds and actions will determine by which gate

No worldly things will you ever miss

On entering the gate, you’ll be surrounded by bliss

Four rivers will be granted by the Divine

containing water and milk, honey and wine

People will live in mansions built high

Where they’ll live forever, no-one will die

It’s bricks will be made of silver and gold

The climate will be perfect, not hot and not cold

A hundred years it will take to circle a tree

Surrounded by loved ones for all eternity

There will be no calls of nature, no-one will sleep

There will be no worries, no one will weep

When people sweat, it will smell of musk

Allah will be praised from dawn till dusk

Everyone will be aged 33 or 40

And they’ll stay at that age for eternity

Da inhabitants will be wearing a beautiful green gown

Sitting on thrones, wearing a crown

People will be happy, there’ll be no remorse

To visit others, they’ll have a flying horse

Men will have houris as their wives

Who will remain with them for the rest of their lives

On Friday there will be a dinner for people of all races

And a bazaar where people can exchange their faces!

When walking along there’ll be many meetings

With prophets and angels, exchanging greetings

Such is the ecstasy that will then prevail

When Allah removes His veil

There will be no kings, there will be no peasants

And everyone will see the Divine Allah’s SWT presence

There are 100 levels to paradise and we should pray

That Al Firdaus, the highest will be where we stay

Allah has showered us with His grace

And we have to be worthy to show our face

Whatever we do ,we’ll pay the price

In the depths of hell or in paradise

Tuesday, 8 January 2019

Dying words

Steve Gouves dies a billionaire, with a fortune of $ 7 billion, at the age of 56 from pancreatic cancer, and here are some of his last words:


In other eyes, my life is the essence of success, but aside from work, I have a little joy, and in the end wealth is just a fact of life to which I am accustomed.


At this moment, lying on the bed, sick and remembering all my life, I realize that all my recognition and wealth that I have is meaningless in the face of imminent death.


You can hire someone to drive a car for you, make money for you - but you can not rent someone to carry the disease for you. One can find material things, but there is one thing that can not be found when it is lost - "life".


Treat yourself well, and cherish others. As we get older we are smarter, and we slowly realize that the watch is worth $ 30 or $ 300 - both of which show the same time.


Whether we carry a purse worth $ 30 or $ 300 - the amount of money in the wallets are the same. Whether we drive a car worth $ 150,000, or a car worth $ 30,000 - the road and distance are the same, we reach the same destination.

If we drink a bottle worth $ 300 or wine worth $ 10 - the "stroller" will be the same.


If the house we live in is 300 square meters, or 3000 square meters - the loneliness is the same.

Your true inner happiness does not come from the material things of this world. Whether you're flying first class, or economy class - if the plane crashes, you crash with it.


So, I hope you understand that when you have friends or someone to talk to - this is true happiness!


Five Undeniable Facts-


1. Do not educate your children to be rich. Educate them to be happy. - So when they grow up they will know the value of things, not the price.


2. Eat your food as medicine, otherwise you will need to eat your medicine as food.


3. Whoever loves you will never leave you, even if he has 100 reasons to give up. He will always find one reason to hold on.


4. There is a big difference between being human and human being.


5. If you want to go fast - go alone! But if you want to go far - go together!


And in conclusion,

The six best doctors in the world.

1. Sunlight

2. Rest

3. Exercise

4. Diet

5. Self-confidence

6. Family



Keep them in all stages of life and enjoy a healthy life.


"Love the people God sent you, one day he'll need them back."

Sunday, 6 January 2019


The 3 afflictions which daily affect every human being:

Everyday and every night, the children of Adam (AS) are affected by the 3 afflictions. Not a day goes by except that they are afflicted by all the 3 of them.


His lifespan is reduced everyday. He does not care much about his lifespan being reduced, but if there is any reduction in his wealth, he starts worrying. What he forgets is that wealth is recoverable but not the lifespan.


Everyday he consumes the sustenance provided to him by Allah. If it is Halaal, he will be questioned about it [Surah al-Takaathur (102): 8]. But if it is through Haraam means, then he will be punished for it; and no one knows the extent of the punishment except Allah.


Everyday he is nearing the Aakhirah by some distance; while at the same time he is being distanced from this worldly life by some distance. But his concern for the EVERLASTING HEREAFTER is nothing as compared to his concern for this FLEETING WORLD. He does not know if his abode will be the highest station in Paradise or the lowest depths of Hell.

اللهم لا تجعل الدنيا أكبر همنا، ولا مبلغ علمنا ، ولا إلى النار مصيرنا ،واجعل الجنة هي دارنا

Oh Allah ! Let not the worldly affairs become our biggest concern and worry- nor the ultimate limit of our knowledge- nor the limit of our aspirations - and do not make it a way for us to the fire- And make paradise our ultimate home.

Zyshan Yaseen Palwala

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Thursday, 3 January 2019

Take Control

Fail at everything


His phone rang in mosjid by accident during prayers.

The imam gave a short sermon after prayer and made him a reference point to careless worshiper.

Other worshippers too admonished him after prayers for interrupting.

His wife kept on lecturing on his carelessness all the way home.

Other brothers shook their heads in disgust 

You could see the shame, embarrassment and humiliation on his face.

He never stepped foot in the mosjid again.

That evening, he went to a bar.

He was still nervous and trembling.

He spilled his drink on the table, bottle falls by accident and it splashed on some people.

Those it touched rushed towards him. He closed his eyes expecting bashing of words or slaps. 

Instead they cared to know if he didn’t get a cut from the broken bottle. 

The waiter apologized and gave him a napkin to clean himself.

The janitor mopped the floor.

The female manager offered him a complimentary drink.

She also gave him a huge hug and a peck while saying, "Don't worry man. Who doesn't make mistakes?"

He has not stopped going to that bar since then.


Sometimes our attitude as believers drives souls to Hell. We think we know it all. We think it is very certain we are going to Jannah or heaven.

Alas, you can make a difference by how you treat people especially when they make mistakes.

* IF you cannot be a bridge to connect people, then do not be a wall to separate them. 

* IF you cannot be a light to brighten people's good deeds then do not be darkness covering their efforts. 

* IF you cannot be water to help people's crops sprout, then do not be a pest destroying their crops. 

* IF you cannot be a vaccine to give life, do not be a virus to terminate it.

* IF you cannot be a pencil to write anyone's happiness, then try to be a nice eraser to remove their sadness.

We can always be each others keeper, let us resolve to heal the world and make it a better place. Yes, we can.


Tuesday, 1 January 2019


When you down in the dumps and its dark and dreary, no one hears the screams and shouts, and those that hear or notice turn the other cheek, and walk away like you unpleasing to the eye, you reach a point where even if someone lends you a hand to pull you out you pull back in fear thinking is this for real or a figment of my imagination or are they just taunting you in your moment of desperation....

.. Shaairah


You saw her, the young innocent beautiful teenager who just concluded her secondary school education and you have a feeling you want her to be your wife... You approach her and see her parents.

They trust you and ask to see your own parents and gave you their beautifully, well mannered daughter as a wife and the mother of your future children.

Despite being a hard-working girl both in home and school, she finds it difficult to cope because of the complications of her first pregnancy. She thus manage to do all she can to make you happy because she was told to do what you want and everyone keeps mentioning "PATIENCE" when she was about to be brought to your home.

She holds that word "PATIENCE" with high esteem and brings it to practice whenever you shouted or say something she's not happy with.

She has a your first child and things changed alot. She has to take care of you, the baby and makes sure she makes your house a home to you. Deep down in her heart, the zeal she has to continue her education never fades.

On the 3rd year of your marriage, she's already pregnant with another baby, despite you earning more than before, your spent less on her, because you now start having a feeling that she's not beautiful, she's my wife , she must do as I say. So rather than spending time with her , you spend your time and money trying to win other girls ONLINE and OFFLINE.

You don't talk to her anymore except if you need something from her or she wants you to buy something for domestic purpose which in most cases you ignored her and if she repeated it you easily shouted " I heard you the first time ...!!!"

By your 7th marriage anniversary, she has 3 children, and you just want to take another wife because your earnings tripled before.

While your wedding with the girl of your "dreams" is approaching, you ignored her existence while she becomes a shadow in your house. You are busy preparing an extravagant wedding , something your new fiance want, expensive pre wedding pictures, expensive dinner parties etc.... something your wife at home never had and never complain. A week to your wedding , she meet you and told you your younger child needs Pampers and you get angry and started shouting at her. She becomes upset and decided to talk back at you for the first time. You even become more furious and beat her up and then DIVORCED her.

She cried and left to her parents house. Her parents were Shocked because this is the first time she has ever came back home which turns out to be a divorce, while all the ordeals she had experience in your house she never told anybody.

Her parents called you and you told them that because you're taking another wife, she abused you and your parents, and ask for a divorce because she will not stay while you take another wife.

Her parents believe you and decided to teach her a lesson. Her children were with her so your only focus was on your new Bride. She became depressed and confused. Her mother don't want to talk to her, her father was angry with her, her younger ones don't respect her all because she's now a DIVORCEE.

She cried every night, pray and couldn't sleep. She has 3 children to take care of, she's broke, has no certificate to look for a job and don't even know where to start from.

That's how most DIVORCE WOMEN suffer in our societies. So if you're going to DIVORCE a jobless woman and not ready to take care of your kids...settle her with money to start a business.

Divorce is one of the major causes of POVERTY among women in our societies today.

End Uneccessary Divorce


Shaytaan makes us quickly forget the good others have done for us, their kindness & assistance, generosity & favour upon us in the past or when we needed it most.

The height of ingratitude is to harm those who have in fact only benefited us or shown us great kindness.

How can we allow our memories to fail us or our conscience to evaporate when days of desperation in our lives were made easy through the very people we begin to plot against?

If we cannot compensate goodness with similar goodness then the bare minimum would be to compensate it by saving them from any harm coming from us.

Those who cannot show even this much of appreciation are at times the source of the rot in society.

A genuine believer will never forget those who have helped him or her at any stage of his or her life.

Let us learn the true meaning of appreciation...