Tuesday, 30 April 2019

When it all boils over....

I've come to realize with a lot of women, when they react, get emotional and get upset it's because they care. Some women haven't reached a high level of maturity yet, so they give up quickly. They haven't learnt how to value things, how to be patient and to understand circumstances. With others, they will bear and bear and bear. But once a threshold is reached, they shut down. And that shut down is significantly worse than any emotional eruption. And then people from the outside will blame their shut down on a small an insignificant event and call them petty. But they forget and overlook everything that took patience and the massive load that person had to tolerate, all the things they had to overlook and that "trivial" matter is what finally sends them overboard. This happens with men too. People give up. They reach their limit.

You see it with mothers, with men who try so hard to give love but those on the receiving end are ungrateful or don't see it, you see it with good employees, you see it in friendships and family situations. Sad really... Many people only notice others when they are no longer receiving from them.

Via Safiyyah Sujee

Friday, 26 April 2019

*Feed your _soul_ this Ramadaan*

*A programme by Apa Aadila  Kharsany *   ‼

✳  *Save the date -1st Sunday in Ramadaan *  ✳


πŸ“† * Sunday 12th May 2019 *

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πŸ’‘ *Ignite and Revive your heart* πŸ’‘

   _Females only _

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Monday, 22 April 2019

Etiquette at funerals

On hearing news of  the loss of someone  special, πŸ’”, Farida immediately went to the home of the deceased only to find it uncomfortable as  men were standing in the front of the house  chitter chatting making it uncomfortable  for ladies to enter the home as the men  turned their gaze towards those  entering the funeral home‼

How beneficial it would be for the marhoom if the menfolk also picked up a Supara or Yaseen kitaab and sat away from the entrance and read for the deceased?


Pain strikes Fatima's heart on the news of  her loss one. 

Making wudhu and covering up, Fatima rushes off to support the family and offer assistance while the  mayet arrangements are being made.. 

The Ghusl has been performed and the family has settled down next to the deceased. Slowly people start coming in. 

Some take a Supara, some take Yaseen pansura while some sit quietly and read tasbeeh. πŸ‘“πŸ‘“πŸ‘“πŸ‘“πŸ‘“

Then steps in a group of ladies in  designer abayas chatting away so excitedly to meet lost families and friends. The disturbance distracts the recitors and the peaceful environment gradually becomes a social place.πŸ‘ πŸ‘œ

The time when the marhoom awaits our prayers, our reading slacken by whispers until someone shouts out, `Please be quiet!` . 

The family menfolk come in to recite so beautifully and then the  marhoom leaves the home.πŸš™ 

Hardly leaving the home, the socializing begins.

How insensitive❓

 The Immediate family is trying to deal with the loss  and the house has suddenly become a hub for socializing. 

This is the time to show respect! 

This is the time to read for the marhoom until the men folk return from the kabrestaan  ! 

This is the time to see that the family eats to stay focus.. 

This is the time to show Respect! 

This is not the time to have fancy tea party🍰

This is not the time to outsmart one another.. πŸ’„πŸ‘‘πŸ•Ά

Let's be compassionate

Let be kind

Let's shower love in the home of the decease by reading as much as we can!



Sunday, 21 April 2019


They got married after a beautiful love story, and after two weeks the husband woke up to go to work. He went to the bathroom to wash his face, and in the mirror he saw his face full of drawings of different colors. His wife was young, childish, and had an innocent heart. She scribbled on his face as he was sleeping, and she did so with a great love, that they would laugh about it in the morning.

The husband washed his face while upset, and went to the kitchen to drink the coffee which he usually does every morning. He did not find the coffee, and he became more upset, and went to her.

She smiled because she thought he would laugh at her, and say something romantic.

But he slapped her until she fell down, and yelled at her saying: "I did not marry you to play with you, I am a man and not a young child. I married you to start a family to have children, to be a man in the eyes of everyone. Do you want to live a love story of the films and those novels that you read? Wake up, these stories does not make a home, nor provide food, nor raise children. Today I will invite my friends for lunch, I want everything to be ready when I come back. Do you understand?"

He went out and saw himself as the master of the house. He left her broken, crying so hard that she could not breathe well.

She is sick and when she cries she almost breaks out.

Then she hurriedly went to prepare lunch, and tears did not leave her cheeks.

The husband went and told his friend what had happened while laughing: "They think that marriage is all love and romance. This is how women should be treated, my friend, otherwise she will never learn responsibility. She will not be a good mother. She must know that marriage is not as she sees or reads about it. These are just stories to gain profits. They need to learn that marriage is not a game or a novel."

But fortunately his friend was not like him, he did not let him to finish his conversation, he cut him saying: "What kind of a man are you? Why are you so harsh on your wife? Is this how a good husband is supposed to be? The Messenger of Allah (May Allah's Blessings and Peace be upon him) said: (Be gentle with ladies, they are like glasses.)

You have to deal with them gently and be soft on them, and do not break their hearts. Blessings and Peace of Allah be upon him said: (This world is temporary joys, and the best temporary joy of this world is a righteous wife.)

Beware what you mentioned a little while ago about cooking and raising the children. 

It is not compulsory for her, but being nice to her will make her love you more, and be passion on you, and she will do all these without you telling her. You should know that she is not your maid. Go back to your senses my friend, and repent to Allah. Go back to your wife and honor her and do not make her sad again."

The husband felt sad and regretted what he did. He then decided to call her to tell her that he had cancelled the lunch invitation of his friends, and to prepare lunch for them alone. The phone rang but there was no answer. He went back to the house quickly and rang the bell but no one answered. He forgot his keys in the morning, because he came out while upset. Suddenly his phone rang, it was his wife's brother. His wife called his brother when she felt she was not well, to take her to the hospital. His wife's brother said to him: "Brother, we are in the hospital."

His voice was full of sadness, which made the husband's heart almost to stop from fear, and the idea that something bad had happened to his wife.

He stopped the Taxi and went to the hospital, and found all her family there.

There was sadness on their faces.

He thought that they would be angry at him, but it seems they did not know what had happened. He greeted them and waited for the doctor. After several hours the doctor came out to them head down and told them: "With great sadness and sorrow, May Allah Have Mercy on her, the weakness of her heart came to us late."

Everyone cried, especially  the husband. He regretted and blamed himself.

Her mother washed her and she was buried the same day. In the evening the husband returned home after taking the keys from the brother of his deceased wife.

He entered the house and found the table covered. He removed the cover and found the best delicious dishes, and saw a paper hanging on the door of the refrigerator.

It was written: 'My love, I am sorry because I wanted you to betray the customs and traditions of your community. I am sorry because I wanted you to get out of this stone heart of a man, and to hear from you some romantic words, and hug me and tell me that you love me. Forgive me because of my childish mind I wanted you to treat me like a child. I hope your friends will like the food, and I promise that I will never make you sad or upset again. I promise you. I love you so much."

He looked at the table and threw the food everywhere, and sat down crying, crying and saying: "What did I do to you my love, I killed you with my cruelty, forgive me?"

These days, we dishonor a man who loves and spoils his wife. We have forgotten that, you are considered a great man if you have mercy on your wife, and it is also a Command of Allah.

Allah Says: {And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.}

Remember your wife is from yourself, when she is happy, you will live a happy life.

Know that building a happy home requires, Patience, Honesty and Love.

May Allah guide us all and may he forgive us of our shortcomings....

Friday, 19 April 2019

Shab e Barat

Salaat e Tasbeeh

The five W's of life

No one is perfect...

"What's the point of her wearing the hijab if she is so imperfect? What's the use of him keeping a beard if he can't even control his sight? What's the use of him praying 5 times if he chills and pops bottles? What is the point of your Hajj if you still fell into Zina?

These people forget that a man came to Rasūlullāh ﷺ over 50 times for drinking alcohol in MADINAH and when people teased him - Rasūlullāh ﷺ said, "Leave him! He loves Allāh and His Messenger ﷺ" When people spoke badly about a thief who prayed at night and would steal in the day - Rasūlullāh ﷺ refused to give up on him until he became the most truthful of men. They forgot the young man who came to the Prophet ﷺ and sought permission to commit Zina. What's an imperfect hijab - when our Prophet ﷺ taught us that even a prostitute went to Jannah for her mercy to a dog. The tears of humble sinners are more beloved to Allāh than the lengthy worship of the arrogant.

Allāh doesn't expect perfection so why do imperfect and sinful souls like us point fingers and demand it from others? No one is perfect. We aren't angels. We all have our own struggles, regrets, and issues. Sinning a billion times and then still having the strength and courage to return to Allāh isn't the sign of a hypocrite. It is the sign of those who love Allāh - and it is the sign of the people of Islam and Imaan. Jummah Mubarak

The sins we sow

Mother’s and sisters... of Islam...


She is sleeping, but the angel recorded sin for her.... 

She prayed, but the angel recorded sin for her. She ate, studied, But the angel recorded sin for her too.....

She is silent,  Angels still record her sins....

Then what is her fault ?!........

Apparently, many eyes see photos of her on social media. 

Every time someone sees her photos, the angel records her sin. this is called Sin Jariyah. 

And if she dies but the photos can still be seen by someone, the angel will continue to punish her  (Ψ£Ψ³Ψͺغفر Ψ§Ω„Ω„Ω‡ Ψ§Ω„ΨΉΨΈΩŠΩ… )

But Allah (SWT) is Rahman, He is the Most Merciful and He gives us the solution to every problem. By seeking forgiveness, by sincerely asking Allah (SWT) to wipe our slates clean, we can rid ourselves of these Sin Jariyahs. We should also strive to do good deeds to overwrite the bad deeds that we perform and be very careful about our actions, our words, and the overall legacy we leave behind. It can be hard to always be aware of one’s actions and their potential consequences but, once this awareness is developed, we can avoid sins and gain so much reward.

Sister!  "Women in Islam are seen as more precious than diamonds and pearls "

So let us take care of what Allah has given us. Let us delete all our photos on social media because actually there will be devilish eyes that will always stare at us with the aim of slandering us. 

let our beauty become exclusively preserved only for our mahrams.

Keep ourselves protected from fitna, because women who wear niqab are more often exposed to fitna

May Allah (SWT) make us of those who leave ripples upon ripples of good in the world.

And May Allah forgive all our sins (Aameen)..

* unknown *

Thursday, 18 April 2019

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A monk lived near the temple of Shiva. In the house opposite lived a prostitute. Noticing the large number of men who visited her, the monk decided to speak to her.


‘You are a great sinner,’ he said sternly. ‘You reveal your lack of respect for God every day and every night. Do you never stop to think about what will happen to you after your death?’


The poor woman was very shaken by what the monk said. She prayed to God out of genuine repentance, begging His forgiveness. She also asked the Almighty to help her to find another means of earning her living.


But she could find no other work and, after going hungry for a week, she returned to prostitution.


But each time she gave her body to a stranger, she would pray to the Lord for forgiveness.


Annoyed that his advice had had no effect, the monk thought to himself:


‘From now on, I’m going to keep a count of the number of men who go into that house, until the day the sinner dies.’


And from that moment on, he did nothing but watch the comings and goings at the prostitute’s house, and for each man who went in, he added a stone to a pile of stones by his side.


After some time, the monk again spoke to the prostitute and said:


‘You see that pile of stones? Each stone represents a mortal sin committed by you, despite all my warnings. I say to you once more: do not sin again!’


Seeing how her sins accumulated, the woman began to tremble. Returning home, she wept tears of real repentance and prayed to God:


‘O Lord, when will Your mercy free me from this wretched life?’


Her prayer was heard. That same day, the angel of death came to her house and carried her off. On God’s orders, the angel crossed the street and took the monk with him too.


The prostitute’s soul went straight up to Heaven, while the devils bore the monk down into Hell. They passed each other on the way, and when the monk saw what was happening, he cried out:


‘Is this Your justice, O Lord? I spent my whole life in devotion and poverty and now I am carried off into Hell, while that prostitute, who lived all her life steeped in sin, is borne aloft up to Heaven!’


Hearing this, one of the angels replied:


poses are always just. You thought that God’s love meant judging the behaviour of your neighbour. While you filled your heart with the impurity of another’s sin, this woman prayed fervently day and night. Her soul is so light after all the tears she has shed that we can easily bear her up to Paradise. Your soul is so weighed down with stones it is too heavy to lift.’

~ Paulo Coelho

Saturday, 13 April 2019

Ramadaan preps


I parked in front of a mall, wiping my car, when a tramp approached me.

From the looks of him, he had no car, no home,  no clean clothes, and no money. 

There are times when you feel generous but sometimes you just don't want to be bothered.

This was one of those "don't want to be bothered times".

I hope he doesn't ask me for money, I thought.

He didn't.

He sat down on the curb and after a few minutes he spoke.

"That's a very pretty car," he said.

He was ragged but he had an air of dignity around him. His scraggly beard keep more than his face warm.

I said, "Thanks," and continued wiping my car.

He sat quietly. The expected plea for money never came.

As the silence between us widened something inside me said, "Ask him if he needs any help." 

I was sure he would say "Yes" but I held true to the inner voice.

"Do you need any help?" I asked.

He answered in three simple but profound words that I shall never forget.

We often look for wisdom in great men and women. We expect it from those of higher learning and accomplishments.

I expected nothing but an outstretched grimy hand. But he spoke the three words that shook me.

"Don't we all?" he said.

I was feeling high and mighty, successful and important, above a tramp in the street, until those three words hit me.

*Don't we all?*

I needed help.

Maybe not for a meal or a place to sleep, but I needed help.

I reached in my wallet and gave him enough to get a warm meal.

Those three little words still ring true.

No matter how much you have, no matter how much you have accomplished, you need help too.

No matter how little you have, no matter how loaded you are with problems, even without money or a place to sleep, you can give help.

Even if it's just a compliment, you can give that.

You never know when you may see someone that appears to have it all. But they may be waiting for you to give them what they don't have! 

* A different perspective on life

* A glimpse at something beautiful

* A respite from daily chaos, that only you with a different view can see.

Maybe the man was just a homeless stranger wandering the streets.

Maybe he was more than that. Maybe he was sent by a power that is great and wise, to minister to people too comfortable in themselves.

Maybe God looked down, called an Angel, dressed him like a tramp, then said, "Go mister to that man cleaning the car, that man needs help."


Tuesday, 2 April 2019

Some social rules may help you to look professional:

1. Don’t call someone more than twice continuously. If they don’t pick up your call that means they have something more important to attend to.

2. Return money that you have borrowed even before the other person remembers lending it to you. It shows your integrity and character. Same goes with umbrellas, pens and lunch boxes.

3. Never order the expensive dish on the menu when someone is treating you for lunch/dinner. If possible ask them to order their choice of food for you.

4. Don’t ask awkward questions like ‘Oh so you aren’t married yet?’ Or Why didn’t you buy a house?’ For god’s sake it isn’t your problem.

5. Always open the door for the person coming behind you. Doesn’t matter if it is a guy or a girl. You don’t grow small by treating someone well in public.

6. If you take a taxi with a friend, and he/she pays now, you pay next time.

7. Respect different political opinions.

8. Never interrupt people talking.

9. If you tease someone, and they don’t seem to enjoy it, stop it and never do it again.

10. Say “thank you” when someone is helping you.

11. Praise publicly. Criticize privately.

12. There’s almost never a reason to comment on someone’s weight. Just say, “You look fantastic.” If they want to talk about losing weight, they will.

13. When someone shows you a photo on their phone, don’t swipe left or right. You never know what’s next.

14. If a colleague tells you they have a doctors appointment, don’t ask what it’s for, just say hope you’re ok. If they want to talk about it they will and you don’t put them in the uncomfortable position of having to tell you their personal illness.

15. Treat the cleaner with the same respect as the CEO. Nobody is impressed at how rudely you can treat someone below you but people will notice if you treat them with respect.

16. If a person is speaking directly to you, staring at your phone is rude.

17. Never give advice until you’re asked

18. When meeting someone after a long time, unless they want to talk about it, don’t ask them their age and salary.

19. Mind your own business unless anything involves you directly — just stay out of it.

20. Take off your sunglasses if you are talking to anyone in the street. It is a sign of respect and more eye contact is as important as your speech.